Originally Posted by Storm Bride
Nothing? Thanks. I'll be sure to let my kids know that having a mother who can't take care of them post-op, and who spent their entire childhoods fighting to be a mom, instead of just slicing her wrists so she could forget the OR, doesn't matter.
It's also very nice to know that my healthy babies are the important thing...maybe I should just off myself, since I'm not important, anyway.
I can honestly say that I never expected to see the vile "a healthy baby is all that matters" crap here on MDC.
Wow! Just chill, will you?
What I was trying to say is that my sister feels happier when she tries to focus on what comes AFTER the babies were born since the births were not good experiences for us.
I did not mean to say that what other people feel is insignificant! I just did not come across like I wanted, I guess. What I meant to say is that there is no point in making women who did not have a chance to give birth naturally feel bad, but to support them instead. I have seen many women go on and on about how perfect their natural births were and how much of a loss people who had a c-section had - and then hurt their feelings in the process.
Originally Posted by prothyraia
You said "The few hours of labour are nothing", "that motherhood is "what really matters", and that "the important thing" is the baby's health".
You didn't imply, you out and out said that Birth/Labor is "nothing". You implied that they "don't really matter" like motherhood does, and that "the important thing" is baby's health, leaving no room for mom's birth experience to be important as well.
No, she did not - I did (though not exactly as you put t) And I am realizing that I just messed it all up coming across in a way I did not intend to!! I was just trying to cheer up people who have not had the chance or who may never had the chance to have a natural birth! I have seen so many women being ridicularized and mocked for not having done it the natural way - my sister for example. She was feeling so bad about it and it was not her choice. What I try to tell her is that she is a wonderful mom and the birth experiences were just a small part of the whole process and to love herself for her great achievements. She likes to hear that and thanked me many times - and I was just writing about it! Not saying that other moms' experiences are unimportant or anything like that.
It just all came across all wrong - crap for cyber conversations!!
FYI - I am against c-sections and I have birthed 4 babies 100% naturally (next one will be a homebirth).