Originally Posted by jlmack45
Ok, since obviously there are women here that were young mothers let me ask them. When you had your child did you sneak off at night leaving the baby unattended assuming that someone else ( who did not know that you were gone) was watching them? If you were sent to a place that was supposed to provide help and support (FC) would you take advantage of those people and do as you pleased leaving your baby, that you wanted so badly, behind? It would be different if the girl had seriously stepped up to the role of a parent, but she didn't. If you are mature enough to have sex then you had better be mature enough to handle all consequences. Wanting your baby is not enough, you have to make an effort to attempt to provide care for it.
That would be fine. I have a SIL who is an awful mother. We offered to adopt her 1st child since she wasn't up to stop partying and she liked the idea of mom, but really, she's a sh!tty mother.
She does infact leave her kids for days at a time in the middle of the night at some friend or relative's house that she's crashed at with no formula and no diapers. She's had the kids taken from her more than once. Thankfully she's not had tubal, and the family no longer has to cringe about her getting pregnant for a 4th time.
Do I say that all 16-21 yr olds couldn't possibly parent? No because that would be ridiculous. My husband's cousin had her 1st baby at 16 and got married. She is a fabulous mother despite being treated horribly by many people and medical professionals.
|I can't think of a single 13 year old I've ever met who would be a decent parent.
This and the fact that her entire post came off as of COURSE some one else is entitled to this young woman's baby is what I took offense to. It was agist, and more than just a little bit classist.
Was THIS girl a great mother? No. She didn't really have a great mother role model either though did she? Is is a happy occurance? Well maybe when you look at it on the continuum of the crappy outcomes that COULD have happened.