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post #1 of 12
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I just want to kind of mention to my dh that he does have choice if he's interested, you know. How hard it really is to restore? How long does it take and how expencive can this get?
Does it really help to get some sensitivity back?
thanks in advance,
yulia.
post #2 of 12
How long it takes depends on how much effort he puts into it in terms of how much of a routine he makes it. Plus, how much skin was removed.

You can see some differences even if he just keeps the glans covered 24-7 without concentrating on skin growth after a few weeks.

We started out with manual here, pretty consistently for a half a year or so. He actually gained new sensations entirely. Before he had no mobile skin at all during an erection. The sensation of the skin moving over the glans was a new experience for him. So, it is not only "increased sensitivity" it can really be described as new sensation entirely.

I will say though, emotionally, it seems to "hit them." If they didn't feel really that bad about being circumcised before, when they start to feel new sensations they didn't know existed and things are so much better that causes them to finally admit to themselves in a really concrete level that they were negatively affected by their circ. : So, it can be a lot more emotional than they anticipate. They may even decide to take a break, or make excuses not to restore as they don't want to deal with the emotions.
post #3 of 12
I'm curious to this, too. How much can they get back? And is it worth it?
I've expressed an interest in dh doing this, and he's not totally against it, but doesn't see the point. I'm not going to push- its his body, and I love him the way he is, but I'd like to know from someone who's btdt what it entails, and what benefits are gained.
post #4 of 12
Of the very few men who have had sex in all three conditions, one has put it like this:

natural penis (ie with original foreskin) sex = 10

circumcised sex = 3

restored sex = 7

As far as how easy it is, I have been restoring for 6 years. I am about 3/4 of the way there. My sex life has improved tremendously. It is easy to do, doesn't cost much, and the only real drawbacks are that it can make it more difficult to be spontaneous, and it is a tedious, long process.

Anyone who is interested, or whose DH is interested, can PM me and i will do my best to give you my experience. There are several forums that have many helpful members as well.

Cheers!
post #5 of 12
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I'm curious to this, too. How much can they get back?
As much as is desired, with the exception of the frenar band.
However, past a certain point a restored foreskin will "tighten up" somewhat on the end and will resemble an intact foreskin enough to fool even a urologist unless the doctor examines it very closely.

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And is it worth it?
Yes, it is. There can be a dramatic increase in the number and variety of sensations available from a restored foreskin and from a glans finally free of the dulling effects of keratinization.
One common experience that restorers seem to share is the need at some point to "re-learn" how to masturbate: Actions that were once quite pleasurable become unbearably rough and/or too intense on newly-sensitive areas, while actions that literally couldn't be felt at all before restoration can become new-found sources of tittillation.

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I've expressed an interest in dh doing this, and he's not totally against it, but doesn't see the point. I'm not going to push- its his body, and I love him the way he is, but I'd like to know from someone who's btdt what it entails, and what benefits are gained.
It took me the longest time to figure out what "btdt" means.
As someone who is currently "being there, doing that", I think I've covered the benefits so far...now for what's required: Dedication.
The average (and it's a very loose average) amount of time needed for a full foreskin restoration is three years, but this varies greatly depending on a whole bunch of factors including your DH's age, the relative tightness of his circumcision, what method he chooses, and whether or not he takes breaks in his restoration. One finished restorer I know took seven years to go from a circumcision so tight that erections were actually painful to full erect coverage that has fooled a licensed urologist in an examination, but he admits he took summers off from start to finish. Your DH's mileage will, of course, vary.
Putting/strapping/taping on whatever device or method your DH chooses has to become part of every day's morning routine just like brushing his teeth. Fortunately, 8-12 hours a day is plenty with any method, and more than that is actually counter-productive.
The downside is that as with weight loss, body-building, or any other physical activity, he WILL reach plateaus where growth seems to just stop. This is where the real dedication is necessary, as it can be tough to keep going with little or no tangible gains to show for the effort. Some restorers deal with these plateaus by changing methods, while others use them as an excuse to take a break from restoring for a while, and still others don't stress about the inevitable plateaus and just keep on tuggin' right through them.

I hope that answers your questions, and that I haven't inadvertantly violated the UA in any way.
post #6 of 12
My boyfriend is going to start restoring next month. I am buying him the DTR device for his birthday and the guy who invented it got really good results in 24 months (although he didn't start using the device until month 5). His site is very informative and he has pictures post of his results month by month.

http://www.foreskinrestore.com/enter.htm
post #7 of 12
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My boyfriend is going to start restoring next month. I am buying him the DTR device for his birthday and the guy who invented it got really good results in 24 months (although he didn't start using the device until month 5). His site is very informative and he has pictures post of his results month by month.

http://www.foreskinrestore.com/enter.htm
those photos are amazing. I wish my dh would do this.
post #8 of 12
Responding to the question of how hard it is to restore, I have observed my dh on his path to restoration for about 6 months now. And I would say once they have a device they are comfortable with, it becomes as routine as tying your shoes in the morning. He puts the device on when he gets dressed in the morning and wears it for a few hours, when he gets to work he deftly pops it off and stores it. Then again on the ride home he puts it on and wears it throughout the evening. It usually only takes a few seconds of extra time to replace in the restroom and he's on his way again. For my dh it took some trial and error to find a system he was comfortable with and once he did it's been a fairly uncomplicated endeavor. After using the device for about a month he began to notice improvements and the benefits have increased since then.
post #9 of 12
Thread Starter 
Thanks everyone so much for the input!

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Originally Posted by Scrubsjm View Post
Responding to the question of how hard it is to restore, I have observed my dh on his path to restoration for about 6 months now. And I would say once they have a device they are comfortable with, it becomes as routine as tying your shoes in the morning. He puts the device on when he gets dressed in the morning and wears it for a few hours, when he gets to work he deftly pops it off and stores it. Then again on the ride home he puts it on and wears it throughout the evening. It usually only takes a few seconds of extra time to replace in the restroom and he's on his way again. For my dh it took some trial and error to find a system he was comfortable with and once he did it's been a fairly uncomplicated endeavor. After using the device for about a month he began to notice improvements and the benefits have increased since then.
Is there a website to order the device that your dh liked? What kind of a device is it? Is it expensive?

Greg B I admire your dedication! 6 long years! Unfortunately, I don't think my husband would even start it if I tell him that it may take 6 years . Are you using a device or is it taking so long because you are doing it manually? I was under impression that it takes somewhat up to 2 years.

Thanks again everyone for your help!
yulia.
post #10 of 12
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Is there a website to order the device that your dh liked? What kind of a device is it? Is it expensive?
My dh is using the CAT II Q I don't remember the exact cost but the seller is on Ebay. The device looks absolutely bizarre in pictures and you wonder how in the world it works or even goes on, but in using it, it becomes commonplace and once you see it on it's not quite so bizarre anymore. My dh calls it his penis hat, as in girls you just stepped on my penis hat, or honey could you grab my penis hat when you are upstairs. It's just become part of our lives and there is nothing strange or difficult about it anymore.
post #11 of 12
I'm glad for the various posts/testimonials I've read about restoration this week. I called my husband in to read one (I think in the "how is sex different for intact men" thread) the other night and he was interested. The posts from partners as well as from restoring men have been really helpful to me.

I have looked into the information in the restoration sticky, and it's great but really overwhelming. The taping instructions and 35 mm film cannister instructions are confusing to me (can the cannister REALLY fit over the glans?!) And I have trouble visualizing how some of the things work (even when I'm looking at photos or diagrams.) I think jumping right into exploring all those options would be a turnoff for him, just from being overwhelming and from seeming very complicated/contraption-heavy. And the gadgets may make it easier, but the options seem hard to sort through.

So I'm not sure where we/he will look once we get to the "ready to move ahead with figuring out WHAT to do and actually DOING it" phase, but these posts have been helpful on the "getting interested in doing it" and "thinking of it as something that's possible" front.

You know?

Thank you to all who have shared info from your experiences with foreskin restoration!!
post #12 of 12
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Originally Posted by Scrubsjm View Post
My dh calls it his penis hat, as in girls you just stepped on my penis hat, or honey could you grab my penis hat when you are upstairs.
Penis hat!!! :

Bwahahahahaaha! I love it! Can I repost this to the Restore-List? I know they'd love it too.

LOL "Girls, you just stepped on my penis hat" ROTFLMAO
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