Need to whine and complain? Post here!

[loraxc]

Obligatory Disclaimer: I am blessed to be pregnant and grateful for the miracle of life.

HOWEVER...

I don't know about you all, but I am feeling mighty peevish these days! Here's a safe spot to complain so that we can spare our friends, family, and partners (at least a little).

[loraxc]

My whine:

I FEEL LIKE CRAP!!! I am so freaking exhausted that I fell asleep while I was reading a book to my DD yesterday. I feel like I'm going to hurl all day long, but my body is annoyingly hungry at the same time and insists on being fed constantly, so I have to rack my brains to think of something I can stand to choke down. And for some reason, this pregnancy is having the worst effects on my mental health--I am depressed and irritable beyond belief. When I wake up in the morning I sometimes feel like I'm just going to cry, for absolutely no reason. The hormones have me in their evil grasp!! UGH!

[LawrenceDoula]

Originally Posted by loraxc

My whine:

I FEEL LIKE CRAP!!! I am so freaking exhausted that I fell asleep while I was reading a book to my DD yesterday. I feel like I'm going to hurl all day long, but my body is annoyingly hungry at the same time and insists on being fed constantly, so I have to rack my brains to think of something I can stand to choke down. And for some reason, this pregnancy is having the worst effects on my mental health--I am depressed and irritable beyond belief. When I wake up in the morning I sometimes feel like I'm just going to cry, for absolutely no reason. The hormones have me in their evil grasp!! UGH!

This is exactly what I was going to write. My last pregnancy I was exhausted but morning sickness free. This time I have fatigue and CONSTANT 'morning' sickness. I hope this time goes by fast!

[gerlassie]

After my m/c last year I am so happy to be pregnant again. My gripe...my husband can be a little bit of a jerk. As you all know, your shower is your time! I deeply cherish my 3 minutes alone and I do mean 3 minutes because that is literally all I get before someone comes looking for me. Half the time I shower with my 2 year old because he will just climb right in ,sometimes fully clothed. My husband works very hard so I can stay home with our children, thats the way he was raised. However, it appears that my job ( which is 24/7), is mine and mine alone. Instead of telling me I should take the boys to the park, why can't he offer to take them so I can take a nap. Maybe he should try going to the grocery store with them or best yet... the pediatrician's office. One night I wasn't feeling well and he said that he made dinner for the boys. Ok, you want to impress me...give them a bath!
Anyway, I wouldn't change anything about my family or my life. I love them just as they are. My break is over...my 2 year old just dumped his third cup of juice this morning.
Hang in there everyone because you know when they get older, we'll miss these times.

PEACE,
Kim ( Daniel 6 and David 2 mommie )

[eilonwy]

I'm still not sure that I can handle four children. The three year old ran out of the house naked again this morning. The baby SCREAMS and refuses to talk. The four year old talks incessantly. I'm depressed and angry and if I don't have an orgasm within the next 12 hours I'm going to hurt someone. :

To say nothing of the fact that I'm starving one minute and as soon as food is in front of me, I take two bites and I'm full (or ready to give it back). I'm not so tired, but I am angry all the time and I'm feeling lonely, demoralized, and depressed.

[gerlassie]

Eilonwy...welcome to my world! After my best friend talks me " down off the roof ", I can laugh at everyone and everything just before I fall asleep ( usually for only 3 hours ) before my 2 year old wakes up. My husband and I have not spent the entire night together or alone in almost a year. Think about how boring and cookie cutter your life would be if you didn't have all of this!!!

PEACE,
Kim ( Daniel 6 and David 2 mommie )

[newcastlemama]

Originally Posted by eilonwy

I'm still not sure that I can handle four children. The three year old ran out of the house naked again this morning. The baby SCREAMS and refuses to talk. The four year old talks incessantly. I'm depressed and angry and if I don't have an orgasm within the next 12 hours I'm going to hurt someone. :

To say nothing of the fact that I'm starving one minute and as soon as food is in front of me, I take two bites and I'm full (or ready to give it back). I'm not so tired, but I am angry all the time and I'm feeling lonely, demoralized, and depressed.

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I feel lonely and a little depressed too, but I think that is because I live in the middle of nowhere and I am not sure when we can move back to civilization. I am a little worried too about having a newborn here because then it is even harder to move and get out of the house to socialize. I am feeling really emotional about living here right now. I was almost crying after I met my mom for lunch in civilization and then had to come back here I am just praying that we can have a healthy baby and move back to town asap. I MISS PEOPLE!

My other complaint is that pregnancy hormones makes me worry so dang much about every little feeling I have in my body.

[LoveChild421]

I'm so tired of puking every.single.morning

[LoveChild421]

Originally Posted by eilonwy

I'm still not sure that I can handle four children. The three year old ran out of the house naked again this morning. The baby SCREAMS and refuses to talk. The four year old talks incessantly. I'm depressed and angry and if I don't have an orgasm within the next 12 hours I'm going to hurt someone. :

I'm not laughing at you I promise! I had one of those days yesterday, my son is in this phase where he pulls off his diaper and pees on the floor and then runs from me. He says "no, no, no" to the potty even though we have played his "Elmo's Potty Time" video every night. Go ahead and take things into your own hands and the kids antics will seem much more hilarious.

[bloominmamas]

I am so tired!!! I feel so done with this part of pregnancy!! I am tired of feeling sick and tired (ha!). I am also feeling done with the whole changing poopy diapers on a 3 year old who knows what to do but doesn't care I am also feeling grumpy with the whole idea of having to go through another 1-3 years of not having good sleep at night (my ds and dd both didn't sleep through the night until they were over 2), and doing diapers all over again Oh well I am super grumpy today, doesn't help that there is alot of physical labor going on at my job right now and probably won't let up until after christmas now:

[APMomOfKimmyN-Maya]

Thanks for the thread. I feel like I need a place to whine although I am thrilled about my new addition. I feel like I have less room to whine in real life since this is baby#3....nobody seems to want to hear any of it for the 3rd time. that is a whine in itself! there seems to be less excitement exhibited from friends and family since it is #3.

I am overly emotional and crying a lot. I have to pee constantly. It is really sucky in the middle of the night when my 1 yr old is nursing and i have to pee several times and i have to decided whether to unlatch and run to the bathroom quick as lightening to pee while she cries for me to come back or just take her to the toilet with me.... I already have these horribly painful leg cramps at night while I sleep. I have no clue what causes them or how to prevent them. I can't nap much with this pregnancy even though I am exhausted since I have 2 other kids at home. I have nausea and diarrhea. I guess it is a good thing I forget how horrible the 1st trimester can be when thinking about having more kids!

Thanks for letting me complain a little. I love reading the posts from all of you as well since it reassures me that other moms are going through similar things...

[APMomOfKimmyN-Maya]

Originally Posted by gerlassie

After my m/c last year I am so happy to be pregnant again. My gripe...my husband can be a little bit of a jerk. As you all know, your shower is your time! I deeply cherish my 3 minutes alone and I do mean 3 minutes because that is literally all I get before someone comes looking for me. Half the time I shower with my 2 year old because he will just climb right in ,sometimes fully clothed. My husband works very hard so I can stay home with our children, thats the way he was raised. However, it appears that my job ( which is 24/7), is mine and mine alone. Instead of telling me I should take the boys to the park, why can't he offer to take them so I can take a nap. Maybe he should try going to the grocery store with them or best yet... the pediatrician's office. One night I wasn't feeling well and he said that he made dinner for the boys. Ok, you want to impress me...give them a bath!
Anyway, I wouldn't change anything about my family or my life. I love them just as they are. My break is over...my 2 year old just dumped his third cup of juice this morning.
Hang in there everyone because you know when they get older, we'll miss these times.

PEACE,
Kim ( Daniel 6 and David 2 mommie )

I totally understand how you feel about DH... my partner is so helpful when I ask but I rarely think he "gets it" when it comes to the fact that moms don't get breaks with young kids. We are on call 24 hours a day and it can be so nice when partners take on some of those responsibilities sometimes....

[juneau]

I will join the gripe about dhs... My dh and I generally divide the cooking/washing up responsibilities -- I cook and he washes up. Since Friday, I think, he hasn't washed any dishes. I finally decided to go on a cooking strike until the kitchen is clean. Not going to make a big deal about it, just not gonna do it.

I did appreciated it this afternoon, though, when he offered to take dd for a while to "help" him with the dishes. I got about a 15-minute nap. But not much happened in the kitchen! Sigh.

[lynnie2183]

I'm so glad to have a place to just vent. My hubby is gone, deployed for 6 months. It sucks, and I'm sad. I'm not supposed to even post stuff like this on the internet, that he's gone, but I'm so tired of feeling alone. I actually don't really feel alone, because I have some of the most wonderful friends in the world, but it doesn't compare to DH rubbing your tummy at the end of the day and being as amazed as you are that you are pregnant. He's missing so much of our life right now, and I'm frustrated. I'm tired of being freaking careful all the time and looking over my shoulder for someone who's going to prey on us because my hubby is not here. And, I'm tired and usually nauseous. I need to figure out my VBAC on my own and through the military health system no less.

Ugh, oh well, its just a rant. Not anything I can't move on from, but just nice to get off my chest. Thanks

[eilonwy]

I'm feeling a lot better today. Okay, so the cord on my laptop is dead and it only works from the car, but I did manage to talk to someone from Dell yesterday and a new cord is in the mail (the thing is only four months old; it should still work). What's changed? Well, the husband gave Bella some soymilk. Suddenly she's drinking, eating, sleeping through the night and screaming much less. Who knows, she might actually start *talking* soon instead of screaming like a nazgul when she wants something. :

It's only 6:20 in the morning... still a lot of potential for things to change, but I feel okay. I'm debating actually eating something. Yesterday I ate two bowls of Cheerios; it was the only thing that seemed palatable...

Originally Posted by APMomOfKimmyN-Maya

It is really sucky in the middle of the night when my 1 yr old is nursing and i have to pee several times and i have to decided whether to unlatch and run to the bathroom quick as lightening to pee while she cries for me to come back or just take her to the toilet with me....

I'm so there.

I already have these horribly painful leg cramps at night while I sleep. I have no clue what causes them or how to prevent them.

These are caused by a lack of potassium, calcium, or both. Try eating a banana before you go to bed or having a glass of orange juice. Eat as much as tastes good. Those leg cramps SUCK, but they're totally preventable Pregnancy can totally leach your body of essential minerals and such, and pregnancy while nursing is a surefire way of doing so in a hurry.

[loraxc]

I ate Cheerios yesterday too!

Thanks for whining with me, ladies.

My whine of the day: DH, stop complaining and drama-queening about your darn head cold already!! Yes, I know you feel crappy, but you will be better in a day or two, whereas if experience holds, I will feel like death warmed over for SEVEN MORE WEEKS.

[eilonwy]

OMG, men are such wusses when they're sick. Mike will whine and moan and all but cry about how he's on the verge of death... and they wonder where Bean gets his penchant for melodrama.

[mama_nym]

I'm with you on the sick dh front - my dh's allergies are acting up and he's acting like a whiny, useless baby. It's driving me INSANE!!! I had HORRIBLE allergies with major congestion, headaches, etc. the ENTIRE time we were on vacation and got up every morning, went all over the place doing things with the kids from 6am-10pm, then stayed up 'til 1AM playing card games with his family - and being in early pregnancy/having nausea all day and he can't handle the sniffles. GAAH! : Thankfully he's off to work and the kids are entertaining themselves nicely because C was up almost all night (he's napping at the moment) so I was as well and I'm just BEAT today! It didn't help that dh woke me up several times to see if I was "in the mood" - Ummm... DO NOT wake up a pregnant woman whose 21 month old hasn't slept for 2 nights even once, neverming THREE TIMES!!!
: :

[taralv]

Yeah. To everything. I feel so much better knowing that I'm not alone. And I really can't vent to anyone in my family. I've heard so much crap for getting pregnant again - most of the time I just feel like this was some stupid mistake and what the hell was I thinking?! But then I remember that I felt that way the first two times too, but I love my monkeys. So, I'm crawling through this... don't even want to get started on DH, sigh... thanks for the thread.

Tara

[VeezieTG]

i feel like since this is my third but my bf's first he doesn't really understand pregnancy and therefor is kind of insensitive. and i'm trying to help him understand why i'm so irritable and nauseas and why i can't open the refrigerator (seriously it makes me dry heave to smell the salad and sushi in there, and i can't get rid of it, cos its my bf's mom's, and speaking of her, i think i'll be posting often on this thread... ), but he seems disinterested in figuring out why i'm like this and just wants me to get over it. at least thats how i feel... and i never had ms with my other 2 and now i'm sick all day, all night, and trying to eat as much as i can, cos i'm also insatiably hungry. my boobs are now starting to hurt and my son who weaned 2 months ago is now trying to get at them again. i feel bad not letting him have booba, but at the same time, i know that nursing him now will just hurt and i have explained to him (as best as i can to a 1.5 year old) that they are mine and he can't just grab me and take them. but... yeah, he's 18 months... and as for my bf's mom... omg... thats an whole other story... (basically, she told me that i was ruining her son's life by getting pregnant, i should get an abortion, i'm already a bad mother, etc... my bf, btw, is 30! not 18... so... i told her... "c'mon..." grrrrr....)

oh, and the reason i'm a bad mother is cos i'm with my bf and not julien's father, who was physically and emotionally abusive... she's ridiculous...