Hi there, I am having a terrible time with my four year old son. Honestly, he has never been what you'd call a good eater. He didn't eat solid foods until he was two years old (in fairness, he got teeth really late -- 14 months for his first two). He nursed until about a month after his fourth birthday. I did make the decision to wean him. I am also nursing a 5 month old, and am having some serious PPD issues. I already feel like giant failure for weaning him, so I hope you won't judge me too harshly for that and say that's why we have food problems.
Actually, b/c he is weaned, I *am* able to feel compassion for him. Were it not for that, I would be completely fed up all the time. I feel very guilty about the weaning, but I feel worse about how mad at him I would get when we nursed. (I am crying about both things now: the weaning and the nursing. It was just so hard on everyone). And his behavior when he is not nourished is just horrible.
Anyway, I try what seems like every darn trick in the world "ice cream" smoothies with veg blended in. His dad and I juice fresh fruits and veg for ourselves everyday, and he *used* to drink that sometimes. Now, unless it is pretzles, ice cream or popsicles he won't eat it. Well, he does ask for McD french fries, but I say no to that. I actually would let him eat chicken nuggets or so, but he won't try them. He only wants a very few things -- nearly all sweet things, even if they are healthy.
He has been working with a homeopath for the last two years for a variety of reasons, mainly a cough that wouldn't go and extreme tantrums. We seem to be making S-L-O-W progress. I don't know.
Last Friday, I went to his nursery school for lunch. I cried afterward because ALL of the other children had a nice lunch that their moms and dads had made. Daniel had popcorn. Well, it was organic popcorn (a whole grain) popped in organic coconut oil (a fat that I believe is very healthy). He won't even eat *that* reliably. He won't eat cheese or any type of meat (well, he will very occasionally ask for a hamburger patty). On a good day, he will ask for an apple.
Are my expectations unreasonable? His dad and I are pulling our hair out. I know that my depression makes my point of view a little wacky, so maybe it is just me, but I just wish he would EAT SOMETHING ALREADY!!!
Anybody been there?
Actually, b/c he is weaned, I *am* able to feel compassion for him. Were it not for that, I would be completely fed up all the time. I feel very guilty about the weaning, but I feel worse about how mad at him I would get when we nursed. (I am crying about both things now: the weaning and the nursing. It was just so hard on everyone). And his behavior when he is not nourished is just horrible.
Anyway, I try what seems like every darn trick in the world "ice cream" smoothies with veg blended in. His dad and I juice fresh fruits and veg for ourselves everyday, and he *used* to drink that sometimes. Now, unless it is pretzles, ice cream or popsicles he won't eat it. Well, he does ask for McD french fries, but I say no to that. I actually would let him eat chicken nuggets or so, but he won't try them. He only wants a very few things -- nearly all sweet things, even if they are healthy.
He has been working with a homeopath for the last two years for a variety of reasons, mainly a cough that wouldn't go and extreme tantrums. We seem to be making S-L-O-W progress. I don't know.
Last Friday, I went to his nursery school for lunch. I cried afterward because ALL of the other children had a nice lunch that their moms and dads had made. Daniel had popcorn. Well, it was organic popcorn (a whole grain) popped in organic coconut oil (a fat that I believe is very healthy). He won't even eat *that* reliably. He won't eat cheese or any type of meat (well, he will very occasionally ask for a hamburger patty). On a good day, he will ask for an apple.
Are my expectations unreasonable? His dad and I are pulling our hair out. I know that my depression makes my point of view a little wacky, so maybe it is just me, but I just wish he would EAT SOMETHING ALREADY!!!
Anybody been there?
. You are doing your absolute best. I have been there and still am. My 5 1/2 yr old eats tiny amounts and is the size of a three yr old. I feel your pain. Plus have gone through the ppd and
