hugs mama, I'm so sorry you're experiencing this...
Come on over to the support thread for more ideas from other BTDT mamas.
|1. I have no insurance (but I do when I am pregnant, and we want one more, so I wonder if I get pregnant, have the c-section if necesary and then get everything all put back where it belongs).
Unfortunately the repair surgery can't be done during your c/s (unless you opt for a hysterectomy) since the pelvic organs are moving around so much for the next month or two. Although many care providers will say "go for c/s", the real stress on your prolapse comes during the pregnancy itself... a gentle delivery shouldn't cause any more damage than is going to happen with the pregnancy itself. So really reseach a care provider who suggests a c/s will prevent problems! And keep in mind that during a c/s your bladder is moved around a bit and then "put back"... so IMO it could make things worse!
On a different note, in terms of insurance coverage, the pregnancy insurance might cover a c/s but would consider the repair a seperate expense.
As pp mentioned... the repair surgery generally has to wait until after you're done having children (and nursing can cause a delay too). And surgery often needs to be re-done after 8-10 years. So depending on your age you might need to plan for several "lifts". It's something I remind myself a lot... assuming 10 years of decent results, I'd still be looking at 6-7 surgeries over my life! Ugh.
|2. I have gained weight instead of lose since I had my baby, and I really want to start working out, but my hubby is really worried that I will make things "down there" worse an has forbidden me to do anything till I see the specialist
There are exercise routines designed for prolapsed mamas! Have you looked at the information on the Whole Woman website? (http://www.wholewoman.com/
) Or look into the Tupler Technique (the books are "Maternal Fitness" and "Lose the Mummy Tummy"...both have the same basic info but the first is designed for pregnancy/birth so if you're planning more go with that one. There's a cheat sheet online http://www.maternalfitness.com/baks_basics.pdf
). And the exercise routines in "Beyond Kegels" and "The Core" are good too, and the Beyond Kegels book is especially good if you're having any incontenance.
Swimming, belly dance, some forms of yoga (think kripalu/svaroopa instead of iyengar/bikram), resistance band routines (like tupler technique)... basically things that don't put a lot of downward stress on the pelvic floor should be fine!
Hang in there mama...