Spinoff: What is a logical consequence...

[towsonmama]

when dc hits a person then covers his/her ears when you try to talk to them about the aggressive behavior?

[mommy2abigail]

How old is said dc? And what is the situations in which the hitting is happening? Can you give a little more detail as to when/what/why you think it's happening? That would help with the solution.

[LilyGrace]

What do you mean by talking about their behaviour? It all depends on what the focus is during the talk, I think.

[towsonmama]

I posted most of the details in another thread ("My DD is possessed by demons") but she's basically hitting, running and jumping on, and restraining me, DH, her younger siblings, and grandparents. When I try to talk to her about the affects of her actions on the people she's hurting, she covers her ears. I've also tried to reason with her about respect. She's 4.5 yo.

[LilyGrace]

Originally Posted by towsonmama

I posted most of the details in another thread ("My DD is possessed by demons") but she's basically hitting, running and jumping on, and restraining me, DH, her younger siblings, and grandparents. When I try to talk to her about the affects of her actions on the people she's hurting, she covers her ears. I've also tried to reason with her about respect. She's 4.5 yo.

You may have to be a bit blunt. That hurts. You need to help her now. You can ....... or ........ . and then give a lot of cool off time between before attempting to talk to her about preventing it next time, or not even saying a word but setting it up for her - looking for triggers, having "escape plans".

I wouldn't reason with her, though. A 4.5yo is, by nature, unreasonable. There has to be a learning process put into place - first giving the information, then expecting it to be remembered, then creating her own. Give her a few choices of what to do next, and work on preventive techniques on the off time - sit down and role play with the teddy bears, read Berenstain Bears or Mr. Mister/Little Miss books together, observe other kids on tv/in stories..show her when you disagree with her.