Here's the deal: My DH and I still have not resolved the circumcision issue. I am absolutely, positively, 100% against it, and he wants to have it done. His reasons are that he doesn't want him to be made fun of later in life, and that he doesn't want him to be the only uncirc'ed male in the house (DH & DS1 are both circ'ed).
We had a discussion that turned into a sort of argument about it when I was about 20 weeks along, and we hadn't talked about it at all since then. Well, a couple weeks ago, DH was looking at my shopping list for baby stuff, and he saw that I had written down "non-stick gauze pads" with a question mark beside it. He said, "What are the gauze pads for?" I said, "We'll need them if we're going to have him circumcised." He goes, "I thought we weren't having him circumcised."
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I think one of the kids came in asking a question or something at that point, so we didn't get to discuss it anymore right then. Since then, I've been afraid to bring it up again, because I don't know if his opinion has changed, or if he just thought I was going to be controlling about it and put my foot down. (Probably the latter.) I'm kind of thinking if I just ride it out and wait until the actual birth when it's time to make the decision, he'll just go with the flow and let me say no. Then again, I don't want it to come down to making the actual decision and DH decide it's time to duke it out! Above all, I *really* don't want DH to feel like I'm leaving him out of this decision. A big reason why we separated/divorced several years ago was because he felt like I left him out of decisions and the day-to-day care of our son, so I try really hard to avoid making him feel that way these days.
What would you do?
(Oh, I am 36 weeks pregnant, BTW! Eek!)
HAPPY UPDATE!
Our beautiful boy was born last Monday, July 16, and we left him intact. DH said he could see how important it was to me and that he was leaving the decision up to me.
Thanks for your help, ladies!
We had a discussion that turned into a sort of argument about it when I was about 20 weeks along, and we hadn't talked about it at all since then. Well, a couple weeks ago, DH was looking at my shopping list for baby stuff, and he saw that I had written down "non-stick gauze pads" with a question mark beside it. He said, "What are the gauze pads for?" I said, "We'll need them if we're going to have him circumcised." He goes, "I thought we weren't having him circumcised."
:I think one of the kids came in asking a question or something at that point, so we didn't get to discuss it anymore right then. Since then, I've been afraid to bring it up again, because I don't know if his opinion has changed, or if he just thought I was going to be controlling about it and put my foot down. (Probably the latter.) I'm kind of thinking if I just ride it out and wait until the actual birth when it's time to make the decision, he'll just go with the flow and let me say no. Then again, I don't want it to come down to making the actual decision and DH decide it's time to duke it out! Above all, I *really* don't want DH to feel like I'm leaving him out of this decision. A big reason why we separated/divorced several years ago was because he felt like I left him out of decisions and the day-to-day care of our son, so I try really hard to avoid making him feel that way these days.
What would you do?
(Oh, I am 36 weeks pregnant, BTW! Eek!)
HAPPY UPDATE!
Our beautiful boy was born last Monday, July 16, and we left him intact. DH said he could see how important it was to me and that he was leaving the decision up to me.
Thanks for your help, ladies!
), and I honestly don't think DH will be able to watch that and still consent to having the circ done.
