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post #41 of 50
6/28/07 at 12:32pm
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Originally Posted by alegna View Post
I would NEVER allow my husband to decide to mutilate a child of ours, no matter what the marital problems.

You are the mom. You are giving birth to this precious baby. It is your obligation to protect him.

I might talk it to death between now and then, but I would make it quite clear that I would never allow it to happen.

-Angela
CORRECT!!!!
post #42 of 50
6/28/07 at 8:48pm
It took my DH a year after DS#2 was born (and not cut) to come around. He finally agrees that we won't circ any future children. He isn't an intactavist, but he knows it isn't needed. Now is not the time to try and convience your DH that you are right. Be very polite, be very firm, tell him this child will not be circumcised. It's not DHs decision, it's not your decision, it's your sons decision that he will make when he is older.

DS#1 is cut, my choice, didn't realize I had one. DS#2 is intact. We fought a lot about it, but I was very firm and never faultered. Finally when I was around 7 months pregnant I told him that DS won't be cut, that is the final decision, he doesn't get a say. We quit talking about it, and DH eventually followed suit.
post #43 of 50
7/13/07 at 2:31am
Checking to see if there is a update.
post #44 of 50
7/13/07 at 4:32am
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I'm kind of thinking if I just ride it out and wait until the actual birth when it's time to make the decision, he'll just go with the flow and let me say no.
Let you say no? You don't need his permission to protect your son from genital mutilation.

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Originally Posted by becoming View Post
Above all, I *really* don't want DH to feel like I'm leaving him out of this decision.
With all due respect, the decision is neither of yours to make, any more than it would be up to either of you whether to circumcise your daughter (if you ever have one). It's your child's penis, not yours. So you and your husband are both in the same boat with respect to who (ought to) have the decision making power on this issue. It's your son's decision, not yours or your husband's.
post #45 of 50
7/23/07 at 3:08am
Thread Starter 
for update!
post #46 of 50
7/23/07 at 3:18am
Yay! Congrats!
post #47 of 50
7/23/07 at 10:40am
Wow! What a gorgeous little guy! I assume he's lucky to be whole as well!
How did your dh take it?
yulia.
post #48 of 50
7/23/07 at 11:34am
Congratulations on your little boy!!!!
I'm so glad your DH didn't give you a hard time.
post #49 of 50
7/23/07 at 1:11pm
Congratulations!!! Welcome baby boy!! I am so glad you left him inact, woot!!!
post #50 of 50
7/23/07 at 1:11pm
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Originally Posted by becoming View Post
HAPPY UPDATE!

Our beautiful boy was born last Monday, July 16, and we left him intact. DH said he could see how important it was to me and that he was leaving the decision up to me.

Thanks for your help, ladies!
Oh my goodness....he is so beautiful! Thanks so much for this update. I am so happy for you, and your family.

Take care,
Tara
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