First Birthday Party Vent UPDATE #18

[thomlynn]

So we're having dd's birthday party on Sunday. We planned on making homemade ice cream (really ice milk, we can't afford that much cream). We thought it would be fun for the older kids that will be there to help us make it, pour in the ice, and watch it spin then eat what they made (3,5 and 6yo). Well my SIL won't let her kids eat it b/c of the raw milk. I didn't even think about this being an issue. So I called my bf to see if she had a problem with her son eating it and she said "errrr...... well just once should be fine"

I seriously didn't even think about this. : : :

I'm a homemade kinda of girl, I don't buy cakes from the store. I didn't want to deal with a cake so I thought this would be fun. I'm making custard for dd but we'll let her have some ice cream too.

Ahhhhhhhhh........ thanks for listening. :

[quietserena]

I just know we'll run into things like that..

[NotTheOnlyOne]

hmmm, I am not sure I would tell anyone! I think I am going to do this too for my ds's 1st which is in 3 weeks or so. I will make some pumpkin bread and icing out of real milk, butter and raw sugar to go with it. Most of my family and friends know I use only raw dairy but only one of them has a kid.

Maybe you could make some for whoever wants it and then get some sherbert or something frmo the store for everyone else?

[Dillpicklechip]

It's funny how people are afraid to let their kids consume real milk, but they're okay with them having store-bought cake with a list of 82 ingredients and neon blue icing. :

[Tcarwyn]

It IS totally CRAZY, but we have run into it aswell... I do always mention it is raw though ( I just like to show off )

tanya

[steffanie3]

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[thomlynn]

Thank you soooooooo much. This is really what I needed to hear.

The IL's know we drink raw milk and when we mentioned making ice cream they asked about the milk. DH told them we would use our milk and they said the BIL and SIL don't want their kids eating it.

DH told me I have to remember that ever person does not research things to death the way that I do, so they are going to believe the "experts"

Making the ice cream was supposed to be an activity for the few older kids to do, and since they don't want their kids eating it I see no point in making it. Plus, I think if others guest asked why we had two different kinds of ice cream and we explained, they might not want the homemade stuff anyway. I think I would cry if we made lots of ice cream and most people didn't eat it.

So I'm going to make a cake for the guest and dd will have her custard. And if anyone tries to feed her cake I'm going to beat them up. I just don't get the point of giving a one year old child tons of white flour, sugar and dye when she would honestly be very happy with the custard.

[NoTiGG]

not only is raw milk healthy and safe... but it is actually safer than pasteurized milk. It resist colonization of harmful bacteria. For instance if you took some salmonella and dropped it in the raw milk... it would most likely die instantly. Drop the same in pasteurized milk and you will make a bunch of people sick. The only danger comes from cows that are very unhealthy. And usually you can just look at the milk and tell . For instance in the depression when this whole thing started... the milk was very low in fat and bluish because the nutrition and upkeep of the cows was so poor. And that lead to sickness.

The ignorance of people annoys me as well and it's because of people like them that raw milk is illegal (which it shouldn't be) . Some people in my family are raw milk phobic... ( i used to own a cowshare... and btw never got sick from raw milk) ... and the other half of my family was willing to try it. The bottom line is people are sheep and become brainwashed easy.

You can try a simple experiment to try to "educate" them if you wish... Get a jar of pasteurized milk... and one of unpasteurized milk. Leave them both sitting on the counter for a few days... and show them the results. Then explain to them why the unpasteurized one gets inoculated with it's own beneficial bacteria.. while the pasteurized one is vulnerable to whatever happens to be floating around in the air.

[HerthElde]

Cathe had a great recipe posted once upon a time for some no-milk sherbet type stuff (sorry, I don't have a link, but I'm sure you could google "cathe ice cream motheringdotcommune" to find it - maybe you could make something like that instead? Or you could use yogurt instead of milk - it's a bit more sour, but still super yummy (assuming your SIL would be okay with "controlled" good bacteria). Or if you use coconut milk, you could use that . . .

Sucks you have to deal with that.

[ChristieB]

Originally Posted by HerthElde

Cathe had a great recipe posted once upon a time for some no-milk sherbet type stuff (sorry, I don't have a link, but I'm sure you could google "cathe ice cream motheringdotcommune" to find it - maybe you could make something like that instead? Or you could use yogurt instead of milk - it's a bit more sour, but still super yummy (assuming your SIL would be okay with "controlled" good bacteria). Or if you use coconut milk, you could use that . . .

Sucks you have to deal with that.

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I was also going to suggest coconut milk. It's really yummy, and no one should have any problems with that (assuming, of course, they don't have an allergy). And although I love my ice cream with raw egg yolks in it, you might want to skip those to keep the peace. It's funny, though, my grandma always made her ice cream with raw eggs in it. No one thought twice about it.

Hope you enjoy the party.

[kbchavez]

At my DS's 2nd birthday, I put out some cheese and crackers for the guests, and I bought some raw goat cheddar for DS and I to nibble on. I cut all the cheese and laid it on the tray. Later, my pregnant friend came up and asked me what that delicious cheese was. I told her it was raw goat cheese, and I was completely casual... because it's such an ordinary thing to ME . My friend, however, was not thrilled, because they scare pregnant women about things like that. She was cool, and I reassured her by telling her it was SOFT raw cheeses that were the problem for preg. women, but I felt bad about it.

What if you got one of those fun ice cream maker balls that the kids can play with and fill it with conventional milk for the kids whose parents don't want them to drink raw, and make raw milk in the other maker. I think that would be really fun, and then people could choose which they want to eat. Good Luck! I was completely amazed how stressful planning a simple toddler birthday party was.

[spughy]

Originally Posted by thomlynn

So I'm going to make a cake for the guest and dd will have her custard. And if anyone tries to feed her cake I'm going to beat them up. I just don't get the point of giving a one year old child tons of white flour, sugar and dye when she would honestly be very happy with the custard.

If you're making the cake, why don't you make a TF-friendly cake? I made a carrot cake using ww flour and sucanat and maple syrup for DD's first birthday and it was a hit with everyone. (I copped out and used icing sugar and regular cream cheese for the icing, but I bet if you used honey and something like raw kefir cheese it would be pretty tasty too...)

[thomlynn]

Thanks for all the ideas. The ice cream was going to work so well b/c I bought some SUPER cheap frozen milk from someone in my coop that didn't want it after she froze it. I really can't afford to spend lots of money making everything NT, especially for people who could really care less (we're honestly barely pulling this how thing off as it is). Healthy eating is more expensive and I find it very frustrating to spend my money on the good food then people tell me it's not that big of a deal and they would rather have the other stuff anyway. :

I totally understand why she's scared to let her kids eat it, I would probably be cautious if I hadn't done all the research I've done and didn't know and trust my farmer. I really just wish I would have thought of this earlier or they would have mentioned it earlier (the party is Sunday).

I bought some cake mixes that were buy one get one free and some icing last night. One meal won't kill us, and I'm just going to send the leftovers home with family or toss it. I've learned my lesson for next year. I'll just have to start stocking up on stuff to make an NT cake in advance.

Like I said, it's fine, I just wish the issue would have been mentioned sooner. Thanks again for all the ideas, I'll probably be needing them next year!!

[ChristieB]

Originally Posted by thomlynn

Thanks for all the ideas. The ice cream was going to work so well b/c I bought some SUPER cheap frozen milk from someone in my coop that didn't want it after she froze it. I really can't afford to spend lots of money making everything NT, especially for people who could really care less (we're honestly barely pulling this how thing off as it is). Healthy eating is more expensive and I find it very frustrating to spend my money on the good food then people tell me it's not that big of a deal and they would rather have the other stuff anyway. :

I totally understand why she's scared to let her kids eat it, I would probably be cautious if I hadn't done all the research I've done and didn't know and trust my farmer. I really just wish I would have thought of this earlier or they would have mentioned it earlier (the party is Sunday).

I bought some cake mixes that were buy one get one free and some icing last night. One meal won't kill us, and I'm just going to send the leftovers home with family or toss it. I've learned my lesson for next year. I'll just have to start stocking up on stuff to make an NT cake in advance.

Like I said, it's fine, I just wish the issue would have been mentioned sooner. Thanks again for all the ideas, I'll probably be needing them next year!!

This sounds like it will be the least stressful for you. A 1 yo really won't care if others are eating something different. She'll just be happy to have all the people around, and I'm sure she'll enjoy her custard, too.

For the future, though, she'll start noticing these things and feel "different" at some point. Ds has diabetes, celiac, and numerous food allergies (so it's more than just NT setting him apart). He's OK with bringing our own cupcakes to other kids' parties, but for his own, he understandably wants there to be only food he can eat. I oblige him, and have had no complaints. People usually want seconds, and sometimes thirds. People like to know what the cake is made out of, just out of curiosity (because they know he's on a limited diet), and are amazed that it's coconut flour or nut butter.

Anyway, that's a long way of saying that I think it's a good idea to do what you mentioned and make an NT cake in the future, if that's what you want her to eat. I know it can be really frustrating to make a cake (or something else) out of very expensive and nutritious ingredients and have others just gobble it down without a second thought. I really don't know what I'd do if I made something and then people complained. Fortunately the folks who come to our parties wouldn't even think of it. And fortunately the ILs live across the country.

I hope you and your dd enjoy the party!

[thomlynn]

So many good ideas!!!

[Chicharronita]

Originally Posted by Dillpicklechip

It's funny how people are afraid to let their kids consume real milk, but they're okay with them having store-bought cake with a list of 82 ingredients and neon blue icing. :

Yeah, but the "poison cake" doesn't come with an F.D.A. warning label like Organic Pastures raw milk does!

What surprises me is people are willing to drink regular milk and eat mad cow meat, even though they're filled with bad bacteria and traces of sh*t (thank goodness for pasteurization!). The very people who often have extremely clean houses from using tons of chemical cleaners. Clean house, dirty food—nice combo!

[Ruthla]

Just so you know, most people who are afraid of "raw milk" wouldn't have a problem with things cooked with raw milk (such as cake) since it's no longer raw.

Next time, buy some organic non-homogenized pasturized milk for the ice cream.

[thomlynn]

The party went well!!!!! DD LOVED her custard and I mean LOVED. She screamed at me when I took the spoon from her and tried to put more on it. She was licking that spoon end to end trying to get some more. Dh and I ate some afterward and it really was good. I think I'm going to make it once a week just to get some extra fat in her. I was very nervous that for some reason she wouldn't like it and I would look like a big jerk for not letting her have cake.

I just made a white cake and boy am I glad I didn't spring for the good stuff b/c I let it cool too long in the pan and it stuck!!! I had to bake two more cakes the morning of the party. : :