Ok, is this too weird? UPDATE ON POST!!!! - Page 2

[Vypros]

Originally Posted by mymaybaby05

Ok, well here's an update......

A couple days ago we were getting along better, he still acted like he wanted to reconcile, I was still unsure that I had wanted too, but entertained the idea. He had offered me some $ for kid stuff and weekend $. When he brought it over we had sex. He had complained it was just too long for him since the last time. I had mentioned the last time was 4/30 (when I got preg.). He decided to make the comment....... "Ya, for me."
ARGH!!!!! He is thinking that I am screwing around on him because we aren't living in the same house. WHOA! WHAT A MINUTE!!!! Is he so crazy to think that I'm entertaining men with my children around???? Not to mention I'm carrying his baby?????? I've had it!!!!! He is now pulling more crap than I can deal with. Today, he was trying to make me give him a decision on our marriage. He asked "Either, OR." I said forget it!!!!! I'm tired of defending myself. I just can't take him being so mental!!!!!



PS> THANKS FOR ALL THE SUPPORTING POSTS YOU"VE SENT MY WAY!!!!!

It's not a really crazy thought. It's also not crazy for him to think something like that. I would tell you what IS crazy, but I'm not allowed to.

[Pagan_princess]

I tried this set up with my ex and he doesn't want to do it.

He just wants to come home. Period. Just pickup where we left off and have us act like nothing has happened and that we haven't been seperated for the past 4 1/2 months. I just can't do that. I love him, and I wish that I could but I can't.

I would love to be able to see each other and "date", to find out if we are still compatible with each other without the stress of the breakup and living with each other again, but he doesn't want to do that.

So, as of right now.....our status is : we talk on Yahoo once a week, and occasionally send a MySpace back and forth.

So I am in the same boat as you, and also wondering if it could really work.

[CherylE]

Originally Posted by Vypros

My wife wanted to do the same thing, and apparently this is something the girls really want to do and think will work.

From a guy's point of view:

No way. This will never work. But hey, there's nothing wrong with trying if you want. it's a nobel idea, but I honestly don't think this will work the way you think it will.

Just my opinion.

hmmmm - well my stbx wants to do stuff together as a "family" but NOT be with me - only deal with the kids and actually interact with me as littlte as possible while doing things together with the kids. So you definately don't speak for all guys - HOWEVER - stbx and I have 5 children under age 8 - so taking them all to the Canada Day celebrations solo or any other big event - would be pretty hard alone and his dad/step-mom/brother weren't available taht day - I've noticed he wants me to go with him on days his family aren't available So that may be a temp situation while we have so many small kids plus neither or us are involved with anyone else - my family is 3000 miles away. It's hard for me - esp because he doesn't want to be with me (or so he says - I think he wouldn't be happy if I was seeing someone else though) he treated me very badly - but I do it for my kids and so far so good. He doesn't want me back though and I'm not trying to get him back - so it's working so far. We'll see in the longer term how that goes.