So we told the boys this morning that DH is moving into the house next door. As I'd hoped, they didn't seem very phased by it (genuinely) and just talked about what they'll take over there and such. Ben (7) asked why and I told him that the office (where DH has been sleeping since the beginning of April) is too small and uncomfortable for Daddy and that I need to be able to work in there so he's getting his own space and he thought that was good enough.
It's good that they are taking this so well, right?? We were pretty matter-of-fact back when DH started sleeping in the office and they were unphased by that, so I guess this is just another step for them. Ben did come into the kitchen the other day and said "you and Daddy used to sleep together, huh?" and I said "yes, we did" and he walked away (and I burst into quiet tears).
I really am glad that they aren't all upset, but I guess there's part of me that thinks this is just too easy for DH to end our marriage with no adverse consequences (for him). Part of me wanted them to yell "no! don't leave mommy!!" except they wouldn't because they don't really know that he's leaving mommy, they just know that he's moving next door.
We were pretty close with the neighbors that used to live next door (house-sat, etc) so I don't think it will be too weird for them. DH will come over early in the morning to get them (he always gets up with them at 6 or so because he doesn't get home from work until they're in bed) and they'll see him on the weekends like always (we haven't worked out a specific plan for weekends yet). I guess eventually they'll sleep over there a few times a week, but DS2 is only just 3 and nurses to sleep so that's a ways off until he weans, luckily DH supports that.
I was just so scared that they would be traumatized and now I feel so empty that my marriage can end so easily and undramatically. I thought I'd be comforting them and we'd be sharing our sadness over Daddy leaving, but now I'm still the only one who seems to be sad about it, and I feel like I still have to keep hiding my feelings from them so that they don't get upset.
It's good that they are taking this so well, right?? We were pretty matter-of-fact back when DH started sleeping in the office and they were unphased by that, so I guess this is just another step for them. Ben did come into the kitchen the other day and said "you and Daddy used to sleep together, huh?" and I said "yes, we did" and he walked away (and I burst into quiet tears).
I really am glad that they aren't all upset, but I guess there's part of me that thinks this is just too easy for DH to end our marriage with no adverse consequences (for him). Part of me wanted them to yell "no! don't leave mommy!!" except they wouldn't because they don't really know that he's leaving mommy, they just know that he's moving next door.
We were pretty close with the neighbors that used to live next door (house-sat, etc) so I don't think it will be too weird for them. DH will come over early in the morning to get them (he always gets up with them at 6 or so because he doesn't get home from work until they're in bed) and they'll see him on the weekends like always (we haven't worked out a specific plan for weekends yet). I guess eventually they'll sleep over there a few times a week, but DS2 is only just 3 and nurses to sleep so that's a ways off until he weans, luckily DH supports that.
I was just so scared that they would be traumatized and now I feel so empty that my marriage can end so easily and undramatically. I thought I'd be comforting them and we'd be sharing our sadness over Daddy leaving, but now I'm still the only one who seems to be sad about it, and I feel like I still have to keep hiding my feelings from them so that they don't get upset.
