Originally Posted by spero
: As the parent of two children who the victims of a HORRIBLE head-on crash (their dad was nearly killed) - I can tell you that your statement above makes me want to vomit
. Had they not been properly restrained - well, I don't want to even think about that.
"Emotional damage" from sitting in a safety seat
vs. physical damage from a car crash? THERE'S ABSOLUTELY NO COMPARISON.
You are free to disagree with me but for MY child, I stand by what I said. It is unlikely that he will ever be in a car accident, (although it is ,of course, a possibility) but I think if you have never had a child who hates
the carseat it is hard to imagine. My child used to scream in his seat so much he would be struggling to catch a breath, then he would vomit from being so worked up. To keep him there when I could take him out and comfort him would have been cruel, and yes, very damaging for him. Thankfully he is a little better now as he is older but if I had another child like him, I would do exactly the same thing. To sit there next to him and not do everything in my power to comfort him goes against every parenting instinct I have. Added to which, DH cannot drive like that - a hysterical child is extremely distracting, and keeping him in the seat would put us at far greater risk of being in an accident.
in the first place. If you are in a place where you can stop and take the child out, then yes, that is better but that is not always possible, especially where we live