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Poll Results: How old is too old for a child to be in a booster seat?

 
  • 16% (23)
    7-9 years
  • 23% (32)
    10 years
  • 5% (7)
    11 years
  • 11% (16)
    12 years
  • 5% (8)
    13 years
  • 2% (4)
    14 years
  • 0% (1)
    15 years
  • 0% (1)
    16 years
  • 0% (1)
    17 years
  • 32% (44)
    18+ years if the person hasn't reached 4ft. 9in.
137 Total Votes  
post #101 of 166
I haven't read all the replies.

Dd is very petite. We have a running joke that, based on weight recommendations, she'll be riding to her high school prom in her booster seat.
post #102 of 166
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Originally Posted by Britishmum View Post
Gosh, my almost 7 yo is still in her car seat - not even a booster yet. She doesnt think twice about it. All her friends are also still in seats. Because they have always used them, there is no sense of embarrassment about it. It's just the way it is. No biggie. I don't know how tall she'll be at ten, but if she's still too short to go without, I assume I will still put her in a booster.
: My almost 7yo is also still in a 5-point seat. Most of his friends are still in them- the others are in boosters.
post #103 of 166
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Originally Posted by spero View Post
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Hunnnnnhhhhh? :

: As the parent of two children who the victims of a HORRIBLE head-on crash (their dad was nearly killed) - I can tell you that your statement above makes me want to vomit. Had they not been properly restrained - well, I don't want to even think about that.

"Emotional damage" from sitting in a safety seat vs. physical damage from a car crash? THERE'S ABSOLUTELY NO COMPARISON.
You are free to disagree with me but for MY child, I stand by what I said. It is unlikely that he will ever be in a car accident, (although it is ,of course, a possibility) but I think if you have never had a child who hates the carseat it is hard to imagine. My child used to scream in his seat so much he would be struggling to catch a breath, then he would vomit from being so worked up. To keep him there when I could take him out and comfort him would have been cruel, and yes, very damaging for him. Thankfully he is a little better now as he is older but if I had another child like him, I would do exactly the same thing. To sit there next to him and not do everything in my power to comfort him goes against every parenting instinct I have. Added to which, DH cannot drive like that - a hysterical child is extremely distracting, and keeping him in the seat would put us at far greater risk of being in an accident. in the first place. If you are in a place where you can stop and take the child out, then yes, that is better but that is not always possible, especially where we live
post #104 of 166
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Originally Posted by LilyGrace View Post
I think at that age I would be more inclined to have a few devices - booster and H harness. The harness is more portable. Although I also see cars keeping up with safety standards, and perhaps a built in booster that can be pulled out in ever seat would be available by then.
It certainly would make a lot more sense to fix the problem in the cars rather than expect teenagers to carry around booster seats. Honestly, I really really doubt that many teens would actually comply with their parents' policy about carrying around those sort of safety devices.
post #105 of 166
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Originally Posted by roxyrox View Post
It is unlikely that he will ever be in a car accident, (although it is ,of course, a possibility)
I'm sure most people who've ever been in an accident (myself included) felt this way at one time or another. Using that thinking as justification to exempt your child from proper restraint in the car just blows my mind.

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but I think if you have never had a child who hates the carseat it is hard to imagine. My child used to scream in his seat so much he would be struggling to catch a breath, then he would vomit from being so worked up.
Actually, one of my children WAS like that. And yes - it was extremely stressful to me, as the driver. But taking her out wouldn't have solved anything - she'd just get the idea that if she screamed hard enough I'd take her out. Eventually, she got used to riding in the car seat and calmed down.
post #106 of 166
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Originally Posted by spero View Post
I'm sure most people who've ever been in an accident (myself included) felt this way at one time or another. Using that thinking as justification to exempt your child from proper restraint in the car just blows my mind.
I am not trying to justify anything. Why would I have to? I was explaining my reasons. I did what I knew was right for my child at the time. I would do it again if the circumstances warrented it.



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Actually, one of my children WAS like that. And yes - it was extremely stressful to me, as the driver. But taking her out wouldn't have solved anything - she'd just get the idea that if she screamed hard enough I'd take her out. Eventually, she got used to riding in the car seat and calmed down.
Well if that works for your family, great. It wouldn't for mine.(nor would I want it to actually) He would learn if he screamed, no one helped. It is not something I want to "teach" him, yk. Maybe he would have stopped screaming, at what cost, I wouldn't like to think. He is now, slowly, getting better with the carseat. As his understanding increases, I feel better leaving him there for longer. As a baby, he had no understanding.
post #107 of 166
I Just though of something whilst reading this thread. What about seatbelt positioners? Are they better/worse/the same as your child sitting in a booster? Obviously not for really little ones, but if you are a teenager(or adult) and still short, are these a good option?
post #108 of 166
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Originally Posted by roxyrox View Post
When we do go in the car, he probably comes out at least once while we are driving. I am not about to let him CIO in a carseat (people here are generally against CIO but it's SO different in a carseat)
I personally would rather have an "emotionally damaged" child then no child at all. Or a brain damaged child, or a quadriplegic, or a amputee, or, or, or..

Letting a child cry in a crib will not save its life. Letting a child cry in a car seat until you can safely pull over will. So they ARE very different, and how one can rationalize them as being the same ala "emotional damage" is beyond me.
post #109 of 166
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Originally Posted by roxyrox View Post
I Just though of something whilst reading this thread. What about seatbelt positioners? Are they better/worse/the same as your child sitting in a booster? Obviously not for really little ones, but if you are a teenager(or adult) and still short, are these a good option?
Most are not safe. I don't know if there are any safe ones or not.

-Angela
post #110 of 166
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Originally Posted by roxyrox View Post
It is unlikely that he will ever be in a car accident, (although it is ,of course, a possibility) but I think if you have never had a child who hates the carseat it is hard to imagine. My child used to scream in his seat so much he would be struggling to catch a breath, then he would vomit from being so worked up.
I gotta wonder if he did this because he knew that if he threw enough of a fit, he would get his way. Both of my kids HATED the carseat when they were young, and we just limited how far we went instead of giving them the message that their safety was optional.

They still complain once in a while, but it simply isn't an option to not be in a carseat. They know that I am there because I sing to them when they fuss and validate their feelings with "You are MAD about not being able to move, aren't you." and such and giving them alternatives..."Do you want to sing or listen to the radio, or just look out the window". When they were too little for that to make sense, I sang to them because then they would know that I was there. There are other things you can do to help them learn to cope that don't jeopardize their safety.
post #111 of 166
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Originally Posted by lilyka View Post
well my 7 year old is 4'3" and I can't imagine making her sit in a car seat. my 10 year old is short for her age but has to be over 5'9" or right at it. I wouldn't dream of making Madeline sit in a carseat. How humiliating. I don't know a single person in real life who would even consider it. (Lily could probably still squeek by without being embarassed but not in front of her friends) . I think their emotional health is as important as their physical health. I really feel ok putting them in a regualr seat. We simply cannot protect them from everything and there comes a time where we just have to decide which is more important. strapping them down and covering them with padding or just getting on with life.
Why couldn't you imagine putting your 7 yo in a booster? Here the law is until 8 years old and a certain weight and height. I don't get what is so humiliating about a booster. I guess my kids don't either since my 9 yo is still in one with no complaints at all. *shrug*
post #112 of 166
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Originally Posted by Jennifer Z;8567428[B
]I gotta wonder if he did this because he knew that if he threw enough of a fit, he would get his way.[/B] Both of my kids HATED the carseat when they were young, and we just limited how far we went instead of giving them the message that their safety was optional.

They still complain once in a while, but it simply isn't an option to not be in a carseat. They know that I am there because I sing to them when they fuss and validate their feelings with "You are MAD about not being able to move, aren't you." and such and giving them alternatives..."Do you want to sing or listen to the radio, or just look out the window". When they were too little for that to make sense, I sang to them because then they would know that I was there. There are other things you can do to help them learn to cope that don't jeopardize their safety.

Yeah, my one month old baby was manipulating me.: God even at a year old...babies that age don't work like that.

I did (and do) other things. Taking my child out the carseat IS a last resort.
post #113 of 166
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Originally Posted by roxyrox View Post
It is unlikely that he will ever be in a car accident,
I sincerely hope you never have to find out.
Especially during one of these moments:
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Originally Posted by roxyrox View Post
When we do go in the car, he probably comes out at least once while we are driving.

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I am not trying to justify anything.
IMO, you certainly are.
And IMO, you are playing Russian Roulette with your kid every time you remove him from a safety seat in a moving vehicle.

I do hope that luck stays on his side.
post #114 of 166
My 6.5yr. old DS still rides in a highback booster seat, even though the law in my state doesn't require it. Most of his friends/classmates ride around in the front seat without even a seatbelt. : A few do at least ride in the backseat w/ a seatbelt, but none are in boosters. He has asked why they can but he can't, and he has had one friend comment to him for riding in a booster. I have explaned to him that it is safer for him, and that its not safe for him to ride in the front seat. He understands that, and now will comment when he sees other people doing something that isn't safe. He also knows that different families have different rules, etc. It really isn't that big of an issue.
post #115 of 166
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Originally Posted by spero View Post
I sincerely hope you never have to find out.
Especially during one of these moments:





IMO, you certainly are.
And IMO, you are playing Russian Roulette with your kid every time you remove him from a safety seat in a moving vehicle.

I do hope that luck stays on his side.
She's also playing Russian Roulette with her kid every time she puts him in a vehicle, car seat or not.
post #116 of 166
She's upping the ante considerably by taking him out of the seat, though.
post #117 of 166
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Originally Posted by roxyrox View Post
Yeah, my one month old baby was manipulating me.:
I didn't say your baby was manipulating you. Way to twist my words.
I even gave examples of validating their feelings through your voice, (even when they don't understand *what* you are saying, they understand how your voice sounds, and they know if they hear your voice, they are not alone and abandoned. Geez.

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I did (and do) other things. Taking my child out the carseat IS a last resort.
It shouldn't even be an option. Much like spanking is never an option for me, but most people, when trying to defend spanking, say they only do it as a 'last resort'.

Oh, and let me not forget the passive aggressive smilies you find so pertinent to communication: :
post #118 of 166
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Originally Posted by choli View Post
She's also playing Russian Roulette with her kid every time she puts him in a vehicle, car seat or not.

Thank-you! And ftr, my son is in a car less than once a week. We generally take other forms of transport which although take a little longer, are far safer than a car, strapped in or not. Are all those kids who are in a car twice a day safer than mine? (even if he is taken out his carseat for a few moments)? I actually don't think so. Funny how everyone else can "justify" their car journeys because their child is in a $$$ carseat!
post #119 of 166
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Originally Posted by roxyrox View Post
Funny how everyone else can "justify" their car journeys because their child is in a $$$ carseat!
That's a moot point. $$$ doesn't mean a thing if a seat is not installed properly and used consistently.

We don't have a top-o'-the-line Britax - just a standard econo-model high back booster with belt positioning. I'm confident that my DD is as protected as possible b/c the seat is properly installed and used every time she is in the car.
post #120 of 166
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Originally Posted by spero View Post
That's a moot point. $$$ doesn't mean a thing if a seat is not installed properly and used consistently.

We don't have a top-o'-the-line Britax - just a standard econo-model high back booster with belt positioning. I'm confident that my DD is safe b/c the seat is properly installed and used every time she is in the car.
No, she's not safe. Marginally safER, but not safe.
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