Originally Posted by roxyrox
I am not about to let him CIO in a carseat (people here are generally against CIO but it's SO different in a carseat
It is different for me because part of the reason I don't agree with CIO is because I don't think it is good for their brains. However, a car wreck, even a hard stop or turn, can cause much longer lasting and serious damage than a little bit of CIO ever could. I would much rather my kid be pissed off at me and alive, than happily nursing and dead. I DEFINATLY would have a difficult time living with myself if I knew that my body weight crushed my child because I wasn't enough of a grown up to just wait a few minutes to nurse them. It isn't like they are going to starve in the few minutes (or even a half hour or whatever) that it can take to pull over and nurse them safely.
|I think it is emotionally damaging to children to cry in a carseat everytime they are in one. The danger of them being emotionally damaged is far greater then the risk of them being physically damaged in a crash imo .
in MY opinion, this is just dead wrong. I find it really short-sighted to think a child will forever be damaged because they cried for a few minutes. It isn't like they are in a dark room and have no comforting voice of mama/daddy talking to them like you do in a car. They are not "abandoned" in a carseat, they are just pissed off because they are being restrained.
|I don't get the carseat attitude here. It really baffles me if I am honest. Yes they are good, yes you should have one if you have a car, but honestly it seems like you are instantly judged a "bad parent" if (a) you don't have your child stapped up to the wazoo every minute they are in the car and (b) if you don't even own a car and occasionaly put your child in a taxi/friend's car without a britax rounymarathonyybouty seat!:
Yes, I will judge you as a bad parent if you don't care enough about your children to keep them safe when riding in a several ton bullet. I'm sorry if it hurts your feelings, but I just can't see how it in ANY way is contrary to AP. Why is it worth taking the chance of killing your child over something so easy and simple.
I also think it is pretty mean to make fun of people who own Britax. It makes you sound jealous and petty. I have been super low income, but have a Britax because at the time I needed it, it was the only one with a high enough weight limit for my child, who was off the charts in height at the time but was (and still isn't) in any way ready to be in a normal booster seat. I would never judge somebody for having a cheaper model, frankly, I don't even know the prices of seats because I was just looking at the height weight limits and only found one option at the time, and I had to order it online. It isn't like I was doing it for prestige...you should see the car it went in to.
If I could get a better car I would, but that is a whole different price point than a carseat.