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post #21 of 35
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Lol. Now why didn't I get people like that rubbing my belly
I know! We should all be so lucky!!
post #22 of 35
I've only had 2 people touch my belly so far, ever, and they've been in this pregnancy. I'm sure I exuded a general "F*** OFF!" vibe when I was pregnant with Emily because I was ready to yell, "DON'T TOUCH ME, I DON'T KNOW YOU!" and I think people might have picked up on that, lol. The first time someone touched my belly was at a Disney outlet store where I was asking about the Peter Pan activity mat they had (to see if it was on sale.) I was maybe 12 weeks along, the clerk and I were talking, I mentioned I was pregnant, patted my belly, and she went right along with it. She was Hispanic, so maybe it was a cultural thing, but I almost thought she saw me touching my belly as an invitation, so I didn't get upset or anything. The other person that touched my belly was just yesterday. We just got back from vacation yesterday, were getting ready to go to the grocery store (no food in the pantry, ack!) and dd was walking with dh to take the trash out. We met some neighbors and I told the woman I was pregnant and she asked to touch my belly, I said sure and she did. She couldn't believe I was pregnant until she touched and saw my shirt was only a little bit loose.
post #23 of 35
NO WAY to strangers, ick!!! :
Family or close friends, I like them to ask, I guess, or if I invite them to if baby's kicking a lot and I want to share it with them. I don't like family members to just run up and do it without saying anything. Close friends (women) who have kids and I've touched their bellies when pregnant, also ok.
post #24 of 35
I like the affectionate attention

But in saying that, I've only been rubbed by my fellow (midwifery) students and their kids so far. I suspect strange men would ickify me!!
post #25 of 35
As long as people ask I'm ok as long as they do't start kissing like my crazy mil
post #26 of 35
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As long as people ask I'm ok as long as they do't start kissing like my crazy mil
Ew. That would bother me.
post #27 of 35
I dont let anyone touch the belly besides immediate family and it has mostly been my girls because they are curious. DH has touched it to but i dont really like the belly to be messed with
post #28 of 35
I don't mind so far, I think it's sweet. I liked touching other bellies before I was PG. I definitely like it better when they ask.
post #29 of 35
In theory I don't mind, but when it happens it feel so strange to me. No one touches my belly for any other reason (except DH and DS) any other time so it feels strange to have someone rub my belly.

I like it when DS and our little neighbor touch it, it is so cute. DS used to kiss it every night. Now he says, "no, no, no" when I show him.
post #30 of 35
The Japanese go nuts about my daughter's hair, it's super curly ringlets. They all touch her constantly. No one that I don't know has touched my belly yet, but to be fair, I still don't look that pregnant. I don't care if people do though, I wish we were all more comfortable touching each other.
post #31 of 35
The only people that have touched my belly are my hubby and MIL. I like hubby touching the belly, and I don't mind if my MIL does it occasionally. The rest of my family and close friends (besides in-laws) are on the other side of the world, but I wouldn't mind if they touched the belly, too.
Strangers, no thanks.
post #32 of 35
That's so interesting about Hispanic culture and touching for good luck. I like that.

I don't mind friends and family touching the belly at all. Like others here, strangers weird me out a bit, but I usually just smile and move on.

I used to do a lot of historic museum performance, and my costume included a mid-19th century hoop skirt. For some reason whenever we had Russian/Eastern European visitors (particularly elderly woman), they would just lift up my hoops skirt to see what was underneath. (Hello! There are a pair of legs and a butt under here, what did you think?) I was shocked at first, but then I learned to laugh and explain that 19th century women don't like their lower bodies looked at. I think it made me more tolerant of the belly-touching phenomenom!
post #33 of 35
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I used to do a lot of historic museum performance, and my costume included a mid-19th century hoop skirt. For some reason whenever we had Russian/Eastern European visitors (particularly elderly woman), they would just lift up my hoops skirt to see what was underneath. (Hello! There are a pair of legs and a butt under here, what did you think?) I was shocked at first, but then I learned to laugh and explain that 19th century women don't like their lower bodies looked at. I think it made me more tolerant of the belly-touching phenomenom!
post #34 of 35
I have never been asked (or touched) but while it would startle me I don't think I would mind too much. No, actually.. I think I'd mind but I am also of the position that I wish touch wasn't so uncomfortable for us and so would probably be chiding myself the whole time to get over it, enjoy it, it's good, sweet, loving attention, it's curiousity, it's okay.

Yes I'm a little neurotic. It's okay. I don't mind.
post #35 of 35
This time around no one has touched my belly except myself, DH and DS. Must be because I am a SAHM and when I do go out I'm busy holding onto an almost 2 yr old or have something infront of me like a shopping cart.

When I was pregnant with DS and working I had people at the office just touching my belly without asking.

I can't remember if I was annoyed or not ... pregnancy brain
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