I'm beginning to not like bfing

[poopzmom]

and I hate that I feel that way. My dd is 16 months old and she wants to nurse non stop. We would like to start ttc but my af has not returned yet. I have been trying to get my dd to go 6 hours at night but she will only go about 3 or 4. She wakes up at 1 and I can usually unlatch her and then I roll over. But then at 5 she wakes up and wants to stay latched on until she wakes up. Which some days winds up being 3 or 4 hours. At 16 months I am tired of being a pacifier. I wake up so sore because she has been attached for so long. Sorry just needed to vent.

[kaxilophage]

I'm sorry you're going through this. I remember this feeling. Breastfeeding, especially after a certain point is a two way street. It's fair to set limits. I remember feeling that way, and now, after having gotten better and gotten worse, and gotten better, I am back with some problems, nursing my three year old and six month old. Have you ever read Mothering your Nursing Toddler? It's a good book that helped me. Also, if you're ttc, Adventures in Tandem Nursing helped me clarify my feelings, let me think about all the options. It's not either nurse all the time or not nurse at all...

I hope that helps. Feel good about all the good you've done in her life sofar. She's so lucky.

kax

[AlmostAPpropriate]

I agree with kaxilophage. I personally ddint/wont BF on demand in the later toddler years. If you are feeling resentful, change it. I am not suggesting weaning, but you deserve some rest. She definitely doesnt need to nurse at night nutritionally (assuming she eats a regual diet during the day) and she is old enough to have alternate comfort methods. Cuddles, Daddy, lullabye, etc.

Give yourself permission to try something else. I'm all for working thru the pain when establishing nursing, trying to get the latch or position right. But thats a temporary thing, it does and should end. You are in pain, that is valid.

Hugs

[alegna]

It's the age. Dd drove me up the wall at that age.

Hang in there- it gets a lot better.

-Angela

[rmzbm]

I'm right there with ya, from 12-14 mos. DD drove me CRAZY! : She is 15 mos. now and things are starting to get better...hang in there!

[Live~Laugh~Love]

it will blow over mama, your doing wonderful. Keep it up, and hang in there, you know it is worth it.