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post #141 of 157
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OKay... do how random is it that a whole week AFTER the procedure I get sad?


GOD I am so random sometimes its pisses me the hell off. :
well for starters your still dealing w/the hormones and emotional roller coaster your body goes through while pregnant.. secondly..somethings we can deny our feelings and distance ourselves in the moment to get through it. then later on..we let down our guard and swim in the emotions from a safe distance...its ok Mama.. your can cry, grieve be angry upset and sad.. let it out.. but know your not alone. life does not give us more then we can handle... but sometimes the tests are a bitch.. if you need to vent to an anonymous stranger.. PM me..I will gladly talk with you.
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I just had to jump in and share my experience with pregnancy termination... I found myself pregnant just after my dh died and my kids were just turning 5 & 3. I made peace with the Spirit that came to me. I thanked her for coming and for offering her gifts. I explained why she couldn't stay and that I loved her still. I also knew in my heart that I would see her again. I asked that she go to her *new* parents and be sure to give me a sign she had arrived safely. The day she left my body, I got a call from a very excited friend telling me they were expecting -- on my due date. I've met their son and made peace with my baby's spirit. I'm so glad to see her grow up as my friend's son and to know how much he is loved and appreciated.
You've given a big gift to someone else. You've received many gifts -- even through this tortuous process. I hope today you can lift your face to the sun and know All is Right with the World.

~diana
post #144 of 157
wow hahamommy, what an amazing story!

To the OP - my heart is with you. Be gentle with yourself and know that you are loved and supported here.
post #145 of 157
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Originally Posted by hahamommy View Post

I just had to jump in and share my experience with pregnancy termination... I found myself pregnant just after my dh died and my kids were just turning 5 & 3. I made peace with the Spirit that came to me. I thanked her for coming and for offering her gifts. I explained why she couldn't stay and that I loved her still. I also knew in my heart that I would see her again. I asked that she go to her *new* parents and be sure to give me a sign she had arrived safely. The day she left my body, I got a call from a very excited friend telling me they were expecting -- on my due date. I've met their son and made peace with my baby's spirit. I'm so glad to see her grow up as my friend's son and to know how much he is loved and appreciated.
You've given a big gift to someone else. You've received many gifts -- even through this tortuous process. I hope today you can lift your face to the sun and know All is Right with the World.

~diana
I just had to say that this is a beautiful post. :
post #146 of 157
You are not alone........
post #147 of 157
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I need to have this thread deleted.

I just can't deal with the negativity (not ON the actual thread, all of you have been very sweet) but the other messages I am getting from people.

Can't deal right now, I need a safe place and this is not it.


Big ((((hugs))))) to all of you that posted on the thread though, thank you.
post #148 of 157
I am so sorry people are being negative to you. Shame on those who are. I am still keeping you in my thoughts, for the hard choice you had to make. Hug your little one for me. You are a strong momma.
post #149 of 157
you ought to report those who send you negative posts to mods - i am sure they would be able to do something. that is the last thing you need to deal with right now.

post #150 of 157
I am writing this post to make it VERY clear that MDC does not tolerate negativity towards those who choose to terminate their pregnancies in threads and via the Private Messaging system. This is one of our non-debatable rules here and this post serves as a reminder to keep this rule in mind when posting. If you do not wish to offer loving support, stay away from the thread.

Blessings,
Shireen
post #151 of 157
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Originally Posted by muckemom View Post
I need to have this thread deleted.

I just can't deal with the negativity (not ON the actual thread, all of you have been very sweet) but the other messages I am getting from people.

Can't deal right now, I need a safe place and this is not it.


Big ((((hugs))))) to all of you that posted on the thread though, thank you.
I'm so so sorry you're dealing with this, on top of the grief you must be experiencing. Please keep the thread. It is an education in itself. People need to realize that this is not a decision that's made lightly, and that women know what's best for their own and their children's lives. You are your children's best advocate. Nobody knows your situation like you do. What you ended up deciding, you did with all the knowledge of your unique circumstance which nobody else was privy to (and which is nobody else's business). Nobody can change it now, anyway. It doesn't do any good to say, "You should have [whatever]." All we can (and should) do now is give you our unconditional love and support to help you with your grief.

(The story by hahamommy moved me to tears. Thank you for posting it, hahamommy.)
post #152 of 157
I'm sorry someone felt like it was good idea to burden you further with unkind, judgemental words. You get to feel how you feel.
post #153 of 157
You've been in my thoughts. I'm sorry you had to go through this experience and wish you all the safety and healing in the world. , mama.
post #154 of 157
supportive hugs from me

I am so sorry people are being negative here where you thought you would be safe.

The emotions and feelings come and go, sometimes the triggers cannot be easily identified. Dealing with them when they crop up unexpectedly is hard work.
post #155 of 157
Hugs to you. I've been there, in a very similar situation, and made the same choice as you did. It was rough at times, but eventually I made peace with my decision. I know without a doubt it was the right thing for me to do. PM me if you ever want to talk.
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