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IF you really don't want to terminate, seeing as how you're in CA the fact that you would need to be on bedrest would allow you to be on cash aid and other state assistance throughout your pregnancy. Pregnancy qualifies as disability in this instance (I know, I've been there).

Just a thought.

Also there are TONS of pregnancy crisis centers that could help you with other things, like baby necessities.
And WIC provides breast pumps and extra food for nursing mothers...





My sociology professor once said, "People always have more options than they believe they have."
post #44 of 157
What a tough decision and tough place to be. Please give yourself time to grieve and process your feelings. I hope you have someone irl supporting you.
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Thread Starter 
FWIW, I have already made my decison. I am the only mama my son has, I DO know for a fact that I would be on bed rest all 9 months (due to treatments for cervical cancer I am missing a lot of my cervix, so bed rest and purse stitch WOULD be my only choice)
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Oh mama, sending you much love !
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I have nothing to offer except support and love. Remind yourself, this is ok. Do not feel guilty but allow yourself to feel whatever it is you are experiencing. Peace and strength mama.
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Originally Posted by muckemom View Post
FWIW, I have already made my decison. I am the only mama my son has, I DO know for a fact that I would be on bed rest all 9 months (due to treatments for cervical cancer I am missing a lot of my cervix, so bed rest and purse stitch WOULD be my only choice)



Sometimes decisions are really tough even if we are sure that we are making the right choice.
post #50 of 157
That's a really tough situation to be in. I'm sorry.
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Oh, my, how very hard. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that you can get thru this difficult time.

What a good mama you are to put your son first!
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I'm so sorry, mama. Every feeling you are having is very valid, and you have every right to grieve for your baby and yourself. Wishing you strength and peace in the coming days.
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just had to add my support! i could hardly read your post and all the replies without crying! you aren't being whiny at all; in fact, you're an incredibly strong person to make this decision and also to come on here and ask for the support you need. it can be very hard these days to talk about abortion in this way. everything is so polarized -- everyone seems to talk as if you either can't have any feelings about such a small embryo, or you can't make the decisions you need to for your life!

your feelings are real and valid and important! they don't mean you're doing anything wrong. you're doing what's best for you and your little boy, and only you know what that is! you are so strong, you will get through this. like pp said, you already are, and it's obvious that you have the ability to do so in a healthy way, even though it's so hard.
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What a hard situation, mama. : Thinking of you. You sound like you've thought this through.
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Much much love to you. No strings attached.
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Take care of yourself. And be easy on yourself.

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Sending hugs your way. What a difficult situation to be in.
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