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Poll Results: Have you ever terminated a pregnancy?

This is a multiple choice poll
  • 0% (3)
    Yes due to health risks to me
  • 0% (2)
    Yes due to rape/incest
  • 2% (24)
    Yes due to pressure from outside sources
  • 0% (5)
    Yes due to the fetus having medical problems
  • 0% (1)
    Yes, selective reduction due to too many fetuses
  • 6% (53)
    Yes due to not being financially ready for a child
  • 8% (71)
    Yes due to not being emotionally ready for a child
  • 5% (47)
    Yes due to not being in a stable relationship with the father
  • 1% (13)
    Other
  • 38% (333)
    No, I've never terminated a pregnancy
  • 29% (252)
    I'm pro-choice
  • 13% (118)
    I'm pro-life
861 Total Votes  
post #21 of 109
I am pro-choice. I have never had an abortion. I have used MAP twice due to birth control failure, but I do not consider that to be an abortion any more than any other birth control method (like HBC, IUD, etc.). I am not sure why MAP was included as an "abortion" method, unless there was a confuson about MAP vs. RU-486 (chemical abortion done once pregnancy is confirmed).
post #22 of 109
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Originally Posted by thismama View Post
It's funny, coz I've never been *more* pro-choice than since my daughter was born and I see exactly how hard it really is. If I was not 100% into this mothering gig, it would feel like a horrible trap.
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Motherhood has made me more pro-choice than ever.

I too am confused by the idea that MAP is considered an abortion. I have taken MAP more than once but don't consider myself to have had an abortion.
post #23 of 109
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Originally Posted by RubyWild View Post
It's not a difficult decision for some of us. I wasn't devastated to be there. My birth control failed. I had an abortion. I made sure that never happened again, but it didn't feel like there was anything to be devastated about, unlike actually carrying the pregnancy to term would have been devastating. The abortion was a relief.

If people think it's murder, then I suppose it would be devastating for them. I didn't see it that way at all. I was 5 weeks pregnant. I saw everything that came out of my uterus and I feel comfortable with all of it because no one suffered, but there would have been a lot of suffering if I'd been forced to remain pregnant.
Yep. I took a friend for an abortion, and it wasn't difficult for her at all, and itw ouldn't have been for me at the time at all.
post #24 of 109
Yes, due to health risks to me, not being financially or emotionally ready, and not being in a stable relationship with the father. I am, and have always been, pro-choice. It was the best choice for me (the other choice being suicide.) I felt relief. My only regret is getting pregnant in the first place.
If I get pregnant again, I'll have another abortion. Two kids is my limit. I can't handle more.
post #25 of 109
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Originally Posted by the_lissa View Post
Yep. I took a friend for an abortion, and it wasn't difficult for her at all, and itw ouldn't have been for me at the time at all.
I have heard this and have great respect for it.

It is not the case for me. I would feel I was ending a life, that is what I believe to be true. However, I feel perfectly comfortable with women having this power, as we are the bringers of life. With great responsibility must come great power, including the power to elect to keep or terminate a pregnancy.
post #26 of 109
never mind.
post #27 of 109
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Originally Posted by thismama View Post
I have heard this and have great respect for it.

It is not the case for me. I would feel I was ending a life, that is what I believe to be true. However, I feel perfectly comfortable with women having this power, as we are the bringers of life. With great responsibility must come great power, including the power to elect to keep or terminate a pregnancy.
Everyone is different. But from my experiences, everyone still thinks about it years later and it affects you in some way. Maybe it depends on *why* you had one. Most people I know it was not because of financial/lifestyle reasons.
post #28 of 109
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Originally Posted by sadean View Post
I have used MAP twice due to birth control failure, but I do not consider that to be an abortion any more than any other birth control method (like HBC, IUD, etc.). I am not sure why MAP was included as an "abortion" method, unless there was a confuson about MAP vs. RU-486 (chemical abotion done once pregnancy is confirmed).
Probably because some people believe that life begins at conception. Therefore, anything that stops the pregnacy from continuing after conception would be the ending of a life. Most BC methods work by preventing conception. There are women who are not comfortable using IUD's because in rare cases when the fertilization does occurs the IUD prevents implantation.
post #29 of 109
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Originally Posted by a_work_in_progress View Post
BTW... the "morning after pill" would be considered terminating a pregnancy, for poll purposes.
See, I don't consider this a termination. You take a morning after pill within 72 hours of having sex...........you have NO IDEA at that point if a conception has actually occurred, and it's just a high-dose birth control pill. So, are people on birth control constantly terminating, then?

The morning after pill (usually named Plan B) is completely different from the abortion pill (usually named RU486.)

I've taken the morning after pill. I've never terminated a confirmed pregnancy, though. So I voted "no." Perhaps MAP could be a separate option in the poll.
post #30 of 109
Pro-life, never had an abortion.

FWIW, I was not ready - financially or emotionally - to be a (single) mother. I grew up a LOT during my pgy - and I cherish my son for the fact that having him made me a much better, more mature, less selfish, person. I am grateful that he made me a mother.
post #31 of 109
: 100% Pro-Life :
Under ANY circumstance, ANY.
post #32 of 109
While I was pg with my DS I was going through a nursing internship. They assigned us to observe different procedures in the OR. They had me watch a late term abortion. That turned me pro-life.
post #33 of 109
i *used* to be pro-choice, even helped my 16 year old friend get an abortion w/a judical bypass(when i was 16)...when i turned 17 i actually researched it and i was horrified at what i helped do...i would never be able to do it, even if my own life was at stake.

i guess you could call me both... i think that if the mothers life is very much in danger or the baby will die soon after birth then i *could* see why others would need to have it done(so i'm not all pro life)...what a heartbreaking choice it would be...short of that i think it should be illegal esp. late term(not all pro-choice)

my turning point was a pic...it showed a two 25 week old babies...one in nicu and one aborted with the words wanted and unwanted, i thought it was extreme until i really searched my soul so to speak. it seemed to make perfext sense after that yk?
post #34 of 109
In the interest of not getting this thread pulled, I just wanted to remind everyone that debating abortion is against the MDC User Agreement. I have no idea how far beyond saying "I'm pro-choice" or "I'm pro-life" is okay.
post #35 of 109
I voted no. I've taken the morning after pill, but that is NOT an abortion. If I'd read that you were including it, I"d have not answered the poll.

ETA: I'm pro-life.
post #36 of 109
I am ever so grateful that I get to choose when, how, where, why & how many kids I will have. I don't want ANYone telling me when I do, don't, or shouldn't have the right to have my babies. I had my 1st at 16, I was single & on welfare, & she was absolutely wanted & loved by me every moment without regret. I was even an AP mama.

MY POINT is, I am so glad that I have the *choice*, & I would never want to take that away from any woman anywhere. I don't believe that I could ever personally abort. But I support a woman's right to choose whole heartedly.

post #37 of 109
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Originally Posted by Ducky5306 View Post
I am pro-choice AND pro-life.. life is MY choice but only *I* can make MY choice just as only YOU can make yours.
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Well said. Me too.
post #38 of 109
I have only been PG 2 times and both were planned for so I have never terminated a pregnancy. I am pro choice.
post #39 of 109
I've never had an abortion. I am pro-choice.
post #40 of 109
I've never had an abortion.

I used to be pro-choice, then I saw the 5 week embryo with a heartbeat. Hearing that sound changed my POV. I'm fairly fluid in this area, but would consider myself more pro-life then pro-choice. I'm in a bit of personal turmoil over this issue as I have conflicting beliefs, basically boiled down to live versus choice.

I don't consider the MAP an abortion, and I don't consider HBCP abortion either. I long for the time when every pregnancy started is a wanted pregnancy and women have the access to the birth control they want. It would be nice if they could invent a "switch" birth control pill, you switch it off when you don't want a baby, and turn it back on when you do.
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