Termination (Anonymous Poll) - Page 5
Poll Results: Have you ever terminated a pregnancy?
0% (3)Yes due to health risks to me
0% (1)Yes due to rape/incest
2% (24)Yes due to pressure from outside sources
0% (5)Yes due to the fetus having medical problems
0% (1)Yes, selective reduction due to too many fetuses
6% (53)Yes due to not being financially ready for a child
8% (71)Yes due to not being emotionally ready for a child
5% (47)Yes due to not being in a stable relationship with the father
38% (332)No, I've never terminated a pregnancy
29% (252)I'm pro-choice
13% (117)I'm pro-life
I've been pregnant 11 times. Four losses, 7 births, 8 children.
With my sixth, I considered aborting. I was not planning a pregnancy, did not want to be pregnant. I did not want another child. I ended up continuing the pregnancy.
I had twins after that. Very planned, very wanted. Had I gotten pregnant after them, i would have aborted without any hesitation. I'm done. I do not want any more children.
I've had a partial hysterectomy so no worries now.
Extemely pro-choice here.
But, I took a morning after pill once, in 2000. I realized I had mucked up my BCP schedule right after DH (just barely married, but together for 6 yrs) and I had sex. We got the morning after pill to be on the safe side. We had no money and were just NOT ready for a child at that time.
I am staunchly pro-choice.
Nope never have and never plan to.. I am pro-choice AND pro-life.. life is MY choice but only *I* can make MY choice just as only YOU can make yours.
I carried a baby boy to term and placed him for adoption when I was in college. My family would have supported me in any decision I made but would have been understandably heart-broken if I had terminated. I actually lived on campus when the baby was born.
Then (a year or so later-same college) one of my good friends got pregnant and terminated. She was in a long-term relationship and her mom had a "Pro-Life" bumper sticker on her car. She got pressure from all sides that abortion was the only acceptable option and she would not be supported in any other decision.
I feel great sympathy for anyone in that type of situation and I always *hope* that they are able to give adoption a chance. And, I hate when people (like my late grandmother) vote and campaign on the single issue of pro-life. I just know there are so many hypocrites out there like my friend's mother.
I am 100% pro-choice.
I took the MAP just yesterday, though, b/c we had a broken condom, I was due to ovulate today, and we just can't handle having another baby right now. Really can't. Don't think I can handle another baby ever, really, but especially now. 2 of my kids are on the spectrum and dh is a grad student. Plus we live 500 miles away from closest family, and they don't come to visit. I have an appointment to get an IUD, really sucks that we had this broken condom at such a bad time, and so close to when we wouldn't even need them anymore. I don't consider the MAP to me termination. It delays ovulation, so it isn't anything at all like the abortion pill. It's also safe to take while nursing (which I am.)
When my son was 9 months old, I discovered I was pregnant. Immediately began feeling SICK and dreading a pregnancy, most of all my certain inability to nurse and parent my baby in arms in the way I want to. I wanted to be excited about becoming pregnant on my own with the baby who beat the odds, but all I felt was dread.
I was 5 weeks pregnant. I chose not to listen for a heartbeat, but to terminate the pregnancy. It was a hard decision, but I don't think I could be the kind of parent I want to be being pregnant and sick with a baby and an older child. I terminated the pregnancy. In my mind, I sent this baby on to my mom, who passed away when I was young.
The day after, I bundled up my kids and took them to the park. Just because I could! The sickness and nausea were gone and I felt relieved! Just so relieved, even though the experience was awful.
I was grateful to the doctor and nurses who were there to help me by doing a thankless job.
Now, I think and wonder about the beat the odds baby, but if you asked me to restart that pregnancy now, I just feel NO inside me. Being pregnant is a misery for me. While I would easily raise more children, I don't think I ever want to be pregnant again.
I remain pro choice. I don't think anyone should make the decision for anyone else.
No, I have never terminated a pregnancy. I don't consider a MAP a termination at all. I do consider myself lucky that with rape and stupidity I never had to deal with a termination.
I have three kids now and I've celebrated each one with a large donation to Planned Parenthood. Every parent should be a parent by choice.
I have never terminated a pregnancy. I reject the notion that the morning-after pill counts as a termination. I am pro-choice because I believe the decision needs to be up to the individuals involved rather than in the hand of politicians. There were times in the past when I would have had an abortion had I gotten pregnant, but thankfully it never came to that.
(This is a really old thread. I wonder if it's still even allowed.)
I have never had an abortion but if I needed to for medical or personal reasons, i would. I understand how difficult it is to carry, care for and raise a child. It is not a small undertaking and i feel that the option to abort is honoring that fact. A lot of women who choose to have one are doing so because they know they won't be able to care for that potential child at the level they would prefer. That is admirable to me--for someone to be conscious about what they are capable of at that point in time and how that will affect a child, then choosing what they should do given that awareness.
I think this has gone supremely well for an abortion topic.
I have never terminated, nor could I ever. I was 18 and got pregnant after a one night stand. When I thought I was pregnant (I had two negative tests; I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was in the ER after a car wreck), I imagined I would just get rid of it. That I didn't need a baby. Then when it became real, I couldn't. Somewhere in my mind, this switched and became a baby and not just a problem.
It was hard, and I was young enough that immature missteps were made along the way, but I have a pretty amazing 17 year old daughter out of the deal.
I am very pro-life. And I'm in TX, so this is a HUGE debate, right now. Honestly, I don't agree with either side of the issue (mostly because I believe it's all more about politics than true moral ground for the politicians fighting this fight - I'm not talking about most of the people fighting for their cause...), but I don't know how I'd solve it.
I regret it pretty deeply, but it took that experience to shift my perspective on the issue. The moment my perspective shifted was the exact moment I passed the baby/embryo. It was just a sudden epiphany. I really *wholeheartedly* believed the industry rhetoric beforehand. I really thought it was just a liberated & feminist move, but it really didn't feel that way IRL.
In any case, some of it was that my DH & I are both oldest children with a mom (him) & a dad (me) really sensitive to appearances. We couldn't bear to let them down. But now it seems really ridiculous, because in both families, our youngest siblings are making a mockery of any 'standards' our parents were trying to enforce. My youngest brother is quasi homeless and addicted to cr*ck & his sister is fairly open about not 'waiting until marriage' (something we felt we needed to hide less than a decade ago).
The other part was that I always thought my baby would be perfectly nurtured. When I got pregnant I was still smoking a cigarette every day & drinking a beer after work. Now I know that wouldn't have affected the baby, in the first weeks, but at the time I just felt horrible. I will say that the counselor @ PP did not help me clear up my erroneous notion when I shared it with her, I really wish I had had a relationship with a regular OB or MW, to get correct medical info . . . There was a real MW involved in my care, but I only asked questions of the counselor, who IMHO, turned out to be not qualified to answer medical questions (no medical license).
In any case, that is my story. I don't characterize myself on either side of the debate, I just share my real feelings about my real experience & our family's real loss. I love my oldest, who was born a year from the due date of my first. However, I wish dearly that I had had the ovaries to stand up to my family, I will forever be in admiration of women that do.
I do believe in a way that the soul waited for me. I am forever glad I was able to have the experience privately & non-surgically & @ home, but ironically It made it much harder for me to continue believing that this was 'just a choice' . . .
I don't believe the MAP is a termination tho, it is really not the same & is thought to only work in cases where it is able to prevent ovulation . . .
Edited by dinahx - 10/6/13 at 3:45am
For myself, no abortions and I'm pro-choice.
ETA: Didn't realize this was such an old thread.