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post #21 of 87
I'm really starting to think about UC. I can't use a midwife here because they are outlaws
I'm kinda scared about a UC. What all do I need for it? I'm also wanting to use water birth too. I guess I have a while to plan for it and prepare us for it. It would be a lot easier than loading ds up for the hospital and waiting on someone to get there to watch him.

I need a UC coach and mentor I guess. :
post #22 of 87
We'll be having another homebirth with our beloved midwives. I loved my last birth, and I'm really looking forward to another!
post #23 of 87
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Originally Posted by stelly View Post
I am hoping for a homebirth. I left a message for my Midwife today. Then H came home and started talking about how he's "uncomfortable" with the idea.:

I am hopping mad since I've been talking about HB for a year and yet he's never shown any interest. Now he's all full of concern. I got some books out of the library (again!) and tried to read some to him. He's not really interested though. He picked up PC Magazine!!

I don't know what to do with him. I hope he gets with the program before we meet with the midwife - I know she'll want him to be supportive....
Oh, mama.. That sucks. My DH is iffy about it too, but I just told him that it's statistically safer to birth at home. If you can find an article from a somewhat mainstream news source I'm sure he'll be more open to reading it. I know my DH is put off by the info I want to give him when it isn't in a pretty easy to digest form.

Assure him that if you need to make the transition to a hospital that you'll do it. That's my DH's concern. He's afraid that I'm going to need the medical gods to come down and save me at the crucial moment.. Fortunately for us, the super dramatic pivotal moment of the savior is a myth. When there are problems they are easily recognized by an experienced midwife. The facts are, though, that it is safer for you and baby both. There is no reason for him to worry.
post #24 of 87
I'll birth probably in February or March, depending on how long this one needs to stay put. My first two were born in the hospital, and it was a really horrible experience, both times. My third was born UC. I chose UC primarily for safety, and wasn't disappointed. It was a long hard birth, but the baby and I were in great shape when it was done, unlike my first two births that left mom and baby in bad shape.

This time around I might hire a Midwife, if I find just the right one. I don't want a lot of medical things, and will need someone who can keep their hands to themselves. DH will be in Iraq, and I do want someone around who is sensible about birth. So, my best bet to keep things non medical, this time, may be a MW. Anyway, I'm looking forward to it.

I've had some light bleeding, but so far so good.

Kiley
post #25 of 87
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Originally Posted by MissAnnThrope View Post
I'm really starting to think about UC. I can't use a midwife here because they are outlaws
I'm kinda scared about a UC. What all do I need for it? I'm also wanting to use water birth too. I guess I have a while to plan for it and prepare us for it. It would be a lot easier than loading ds up for the hospital and waiting on someone to get there to watch him.

I need a UC coach and mentor I guess. :

I bought all kinds of birth supplies for my UC and didn't use most of them. I could easily have done it with only things I already had around the house. The one item I used was the sharp scissors to cut the cord. It was VERY tough, but I could have done it with a clean kitchen knife. Stainless steel bowls are good for the placenta. Arnica was good for bruising in my perineum afterward. It's nice to have something disposable, like depends underwear, or chux pads, for after the birth or during the birth if you are on dry land.

I set up a birth pool, but used my bathtub instead. At that time I had a very large tub that worked well for me. This time I don't so I'll set up a pool, and probably even use it.

Kiley
post #26 of 87
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Originally Posted by Greenie View Post
Oh, mama.. That sucks. My DH is iffy about it too, but I just told him that it's statistically safer to birth at home. If you can find an article from a somewhat mainstream news source I'm sure he'll be more open to reading it. I know my DH is put off by the info I want to give him when it isn't in a pretty easy to digest form.

Assure him that if you need to make the transition to a hospital that you'll do it. That's my DH's concern. He's afraid that I'm going to need the medical gods to come down and save me at the crucial moment.. Fortunately for us, the super dramatic pivotal moment of the savior is a myth. When there are problems they are easily recognized by an experienced midwife. The facts are, though, that it is safer for you and baby both. There is no reason for him to worry.
Thank you. This is what I told him. We are meeting with the midwife on the 21st so hopefully he can talk to her and it will put him at ease. We are only 10 mins from a hospital with an ER so I keep telling him I'll transfer if needed and it's just as fast as if you were in the hospital where they don't immediately blink you from room to surgery - it takes time!

I think for him a big problem is going to be other people's reactions. No one we know is the sort to birth at home. They are going to be shocked and outraged when we tell them. I am actually planning on telling as few people about the HB as possible until it's done.

Thanks for the reply though, it's nice to get support.
post #27 of 87
Stelly- your DH sounds like mine.

I have been researching UC/ homebirth for months now and really want a homebirth with a midwife. My DH doesn't get it but won't read the info I give him. Maybe I should schedule a meeting with a Midwife too. I'm not very good at explaining things and answering his questions and if he won't read about it maybe talking with a Midwife is the answer.

I wish you luck with convincing your DH. I think alot of it has to do with their masculine, "I will protect you at all costs", mindset. They're really good guys who just need to come to terms with the fact that HOSPITAL DOES NOT EQUAL SAFE!

-Cheri
post #28 of 87
I had my first in a birthing center with a midwife. I am now planning to have a homebirth with this one. I need to find a midwife that I am comfortable with, but I am glad there are many wonderful midwives in Dallas!
post #29 of 87
I'm hoping to have a homebirth this time. With my first baby I planned a homebirth but ended up transferring during labor. I have an appointment with my midwife next week.
post #30 of 87
Homebirth here, except my midwife is moving to Costa Rica! I need to find a replacement, asap!!
post #31 of 87
Im planning on my first HB. I just made my first appt with my new midwife!
post #32 of 87
all the way (universe willing).


We'll have our first consult visit with a MW on the 24th of July, and probably do several more from there to find someone who's a good fit for both me and DP. I'm going to be picky in choosing my MW, and in my neck of the woods, I have that luxury.

Blessings to all of us that we can overcome any obstacles to achieve the homebirths of our dreams.
post #33 of 87
Home Birth for us, too. I talked to my midwife today to let her know that we are pregnant. My first birth was in a hospital, and I would rather give birth on the asphalt in the parking lot than to go through that again.
post #34 of 87
We had a home water birth with Annie and I would quite like to do it the same as Jesse did. I emailed our midwife from last time and we're set. We LOVE our midwife. She's a personal friend of ours, she's really laid back and she's got 25+ yrs experience.

Midwives are regulated provincially here and are covered by our provincial health insurance. It's just really hard to get a midwife if you don't call really early.
post #35 of 87
Planning another HBAC. The last one ended in a transfer so hoping all goes well this time.
post #36 of 87
We are planning on a home birth. At the moment our plans are sort of up in the air since my ins (Aetna) I don't believe will pay for our birthing center (where I had my last son) that also does home births. If we can't get them to pay at all, I will contact the one midwife they pay for who I don't believe does home births and possibly see her for prenatal care and then possibly have a UC. I feel comfortable UCing as long as going into the birth everything looks fine.
post #37 of 87
We're planning a homebirth with a midwife. But our MW is so hands-off, it can be like unassisted if that's what I end up wanting.

For those of you in states where midwifery is illegal - I'm sure there are midwives out there if you know who to ask. (You'd have to pay completely out of pocket, no insurance, but then again - so do I and CNMs are completely legal here.) Lay midwifery is illegal in my state, but there are still lay midwives, they're just kind of underground.
post #38 of 87
We have to pay out of pocket too. MW is not illegal. But MW's cannot bill my insurance for VBAC's. :
post #39 of 87
I'm planning my 4th hb, pobebly with a mw although we'll see depends how i feel at the time, could end up with an oops happened too quick
post #40 of 87
So long as everything goes according to plan, we'll be HBAC- should be interesting!
stephanie
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