Anyone else nervous about telling family? This will be our second, and while we're thrilled, I know my family will second-guess the timing. Dd and her little brother or sister will be two years apart. It's actually a little bit bigger spacing than we'd hoped for, but I think it'll be perfect. As I said, we're thrilled.
I think family will also be irritated because, while I have a good, stable job and dh is a SAHD (actually, he just started some part-time night work), we have struggled to make ends meet. We just barely have enough each month. But I have fertility issues and I know that waiting means we're unlikely to have more children. We certainly have no regrets. I cannot imagine life without dd.
Anyway, just looking for some general venting and, ya know, hearing other peoples' neuroses with their families. I want them to be happy for us, but I know it'll be . . . a bit strained. To make matters worse, I know my SIL (my brother's wife) really wants to start a family, but they've put it off because my brother is younger than she is and because of financial reasons (unreasonable IMO, since it's involved buying a very expensive house in a very swanky neighborhood and two six-figure salaries for years). To each his own, but more and more I get the feeling she is unhappy with the choices they've made and how long she's had to wait. She'll be 35 this summer . . . in fact, I'll be in town for her 35th birthday, and I'll probably be showing by then. I don't want to make her feel bad, but I can't be responsible for their choices, either. They definitely disapprove of our choices, but we're happy and I don't think it's any of their business. It was hard to hear my brother say "I don't know what to say" when I called and told him I was pregnant last time (I responded, "You're supposed to say 'Congratulations!'" in my most cheerful voice).
Anyway - FAMILY!
Please vent/share here.
Julia
dd 1
I think family will also be irritated because, while I have a good, stable job and dh is a SAHD (actually, he just started some part-time night work), we have struggled to make ends meet. We just barely have enough each month. But I have fertility issues and I know that waiting means we're unlikely to have more children. We certainly have no regrets. I cannot imagine life without dd.
Anyway, just looking for some general venting and, ya know, hearing other peoples' neuroses with their families. I want them to be happy for us, but I know it'll be . . . a bit strained. To make matters worse, I know my SIL (my brother's wife) really wants to start a family, but they've put it off because my brother is younger than she is and because of financial reasons (unreasonable IMO, since it's involved buying a very expensive house in a very swanky neighborhood and two six-figure salaries for years). To each his own, but more and more I get the feeling she is unhappy with the choices they've made and how long she's had to wait. She'll be 35 this summer . . . in fact, I'll be in town for her 35th birthday, and I'll probably be showing by then. I don't want to make her feel bad, but I can't be responsible for their choices, either. They definitely disapprove of our choices, but we're happy and I don't think it's any of their business. It was hard to hear my brother say "I don't know what to say" when I called and told him I was pregnant last time (I responded, "You're supposed to say 'Congratulations!'" in my most cheerful voice).
Anyway - FAMILY!
Please vent/share here.
Julia
dd 1
