Trials and Tribulations w/Visitation: Update in post 20 - Page 2

[genericmom]

Im so sorry dede! Alteast her and her mom agreed to everything without arguing to change details.

I hope your husband respects things also and keeps you involved even if she is just calling his phone!!

[sunflowers]

I can almost understand how it might upset you that she wants to only have contact with BF concerning their daughter but it's how I do it with dd's father. I like her SM. She's a nice woman who cares about my dd but when I do any communication with them about dd (scheduling, medical, money, ect) I always deal directly with her father. It keeps within my personal boundries and makes the possibility of mis-communication minimal. I really don't think I need to use SM as a go-between. It's her father's job to keep SM informed and in the loop, not mine.

Glad it went well. It really did, you know!

[Earthly_Joys]

It's not about being kept informed, it's about them having inappropriate contact with one another in the past. They had an "affair" of sorts. She's made it clear that she is and will always be interested in him that way. He's made it clear he's not interested in her that way. I, however, do not enjoy the fact that she may have the chance to speak to him about things she should not and DH is worried that she'll put him on the spot and he'll answer "incorrectly" and I'll get mad. That is where the frustration and worry comes from. I'd rather not be the go-between. He is the custodial parent so he should be the one in charge of it within our household. I'm just slightly nervous because of the past.

[genericmom]

I understand your feelings dede I would be the same way!