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post #201 of 582
Ohh..: I'm so sorry. I'll pray for you.
post #202 of 582
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I think someone doesn't want me to read this thread because my subs keep turning off...
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Same here. . .
ME TOO! It's a little frustrating.

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No kidding.. When my mom came for a visit they stopped her because she had brought HUMMUS! I don't remember if they took it or let her keep it, but they were so distracted by a 60 year old woman's snack, that they completely missed the two pocket knives in her purse. (she didn't even realize she had them until she got here!) of course there was no malicious intent, but thats a pretty serious thing to miss.
Well ... hummus is *gasp* MIDDLE EASTERN! (duhn duhn DUHN!)
post #203 of 582
Hey everyone! I like to pop in every now and then and keep up with you guys. I have a question.

My dd (2 1/2) doesn't really like to wear skirts or dresses. It usually takes a lot of sweet talking to get her dressed on Sundays. Plus she can't play as easily on/with the toys in nursury when she's in a dress/skirt. I honestly don't even care if she's in a skirt or not. While I enjoy wearing "pretty" clothes at least one day a week sometimes I would just like to wear a nice pair of slacks. Anyway - to my question. Is there an actual dress code? Would they try to deny me the sacrament (the whole reason I go to church anyway) if I wasn't in a dress? I don't mind dresses, but it's the feeling like I absolutely have to wear one that chafes, kwim? Ok, thanks!
post #204 of 582
so i made a lovely stew for our ward's Pioneer Day ceebration that took me, oh about 2 hours. and the family couldn't make its 'cause we're all sick. and guess where that stew is now?
why, it's all over the front end of my van and my shoes and a dozen rags and the rugs from the front and DH's sweater etc. yay! : :
post #205 of 582
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Hey everyone! I like to pop in every now and then and keep up with you guys. I have a question.

My dd (2 1/2) doesn't really like to wear skirts or dresses. It usually takes a lot of sweet talking to get her dressed on Sundays. Plus she can't play as easily on/with the toys in nursury when she's in a dress/skirt. I honestly don't even care if she's in a skirt or not. While I enjoy wearing "pretty" clothes at least one day a week sometimes I would just like to wear a nice pair of slacks. Anyway - to my question. Is there an actual dress code? Would they try to deny me the sacrament (the whole reason I go to church anyway) if I wasn't in a dress? I don't mind dresses, but it's the feeling like I absolutely have to wear one that chafes, kwim? Ok, thanks!
There's no easy answer to that question, but here is an article that appeared in the New Era last year.
post #206 of 582
I also found this, though it is 30 years old.

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Following is the statement of the First Presidency of the Church made in June 1971 regarding women’s dress:

“The Church has not attempted to indicate just how long women’s or girls’ dresses should be nor whether they should wear pant suits or other types of clothing. We have always counseled our members to be modest in their dress, maintaining such standards in connection therewith as would not be embarrassing to themselves and to their relatives, friends, and associates.

“We have advised our people that when going to the temple they should not wear slacks or miniskirts, or otherwise dress immodestly. We have not, however, felt it wise or necessary to give instructions on this subject relative to attendance at our Church meetings, although we do feel that on such occasions they should have in mind that they are in the house of the Lord and should conduct themselves accordingly.” (Priesthood Bulletin, June 1971.)
post #207 of 582
Thanks Alisa!
Very interesting reading. Although this line did make me cringe a bit.

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One would have hoped that seeing the new girl, the other girls would have realized how inappropriate their manner of dress was for a chapel and for the Sabbath day and immediately changed for the better.
post #208 of 582
Pamela: That's so rough. I hope everything works out soon.

Maggie-: That's awful. Grrr, I hate wasted food. And I'm so sorry you went to all that work just to spend more time cleaning up a huge mess. And I hope you family feels better soon!

Tuansprincess--We have woman in our ward who never wears a skirt. She didn't wear one to the temple either. It became a little bit of discussion in Gospel Doctrine and the bishop and former rs president, now gd teacher both said there was nothing in their manuals about dresses/skirts being required, and that they had both checked. I think especiall for a little girl, as long as she is dressed in nice clothes (meaning, in good repair, clean and maybe even a little dressy if you can swing it) that is all anyone can really ask of a child under 3 FCOL.
I didn't even make ds wear a shirt and tie until he was baptized.
I'm all for making church as pleasant and happy a place as possible-I figure it will maybe increase the chances of him wanting to go when he hits that 13+ stage.
post #209 of 582
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I didn't even make ds wear a shirt and tie until he was baptized.
I'm all for making church as pleasant and happy a place as possible-I figure it will maybe increase the chances of him wanting to go when he hits that 13+ stage.
Personally, I don't plan on "making" DS wear the whole shirt-tie combo until he is ordained a deacon. He doesn't really need it until then anyway (you need a white shirt and tie to officiate in the sacrament). Plus, I don't even wear a tie 75% of the time. I hate 'em. I don't even own a suit. I just wear khakis and a button down shirt most of the time. Usually not even with "church" shoes ... I just wear the same hiking boots that I wear all the time.

Tuansprincess - As to your question regarding could they deny you the sacrament if you were not wearing a dress. The short answer is "No" they could not. And ... I guess that that is the long answer too. I served a mission in Brasil and there were a lot of ladies who didn't wear dresses to Church because they simply didn't have them. If they were to deny them the sacrament ... then, that would have excluded most of the congregation. I think that the idea is that you wear your "best" clothes. And, for some reason in America, when we think of a woman's "best" clothes, we think "dress" because of some Puritanical race memory. So as long as you are in clean, "nice" clothing, I don't think a dress matters per se. My first year of college, I taught gospel doctrine in jeans. It was a nice pair of jeans and a pair I only wore on Sundays and no one said a thing, so ... there you go, for what it's worth.
post #210 of 582
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Thanks Alisa!
Very interesting reading. Although this line did make me cringe a bit.

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One would have hoped that seeing the new girl, the other girls would have realized how inappropriate their manner of dress was for a chapel and for the Sabbath day and immediately changed for the better.
I think that that was speaking more towards the inappropriate length and modesty of the girls' attire, rather than any sense of "appropriate dress standards" in terms of types of clothing. I mean, the Church's standards of modesty don't exactly include miniskirts as appropriate attire at any time, much less the meetinghouse, KWIM?
post #211 of 582
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I think especiall for a little girl, as long as she is dressed in nice clothes (meaning, in good repair, clean and maybe even a little dressy if you can swing it) that is all anyone can really ask of a child under # FCOL.
So, have you seen any of the cute skorts right now? They might be an option and she could play the way she wants, which is FINE for a nursery kid!

I'm just popping in to talk about dress for little ones. I'm still officially off MDC but getting strange messages when I read Lactivism ...
post #212 of 582
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I didn't even make ds wear a shirt and tie until he was baptized.
Maybe make is too strong. I finally forked over the money for a white shirt for an 8 year old when he was baptized. Gma and Gpa bought the tie in Scotland so he lurves it, and I have to keep church pants on hand because he trashes all the other sooooo stinkin' fast. I mean, really, 8 yo boy + white shirt = :
He seems to like dressing up most Sundays, but when he doesn't really want to I don't force the issue.

I'm now leaving to go and buy The End. I'm so sad. I'm so happy. I'm so tired, but will probably not sleep again until I finish it. Maybe.
post #213 of 582
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I'm now leaving to go and buy The End. I'm so sad. I'm so happy. I'm so tired, but will probably not sleep again until I finish it. Maybe.
I'm confused. What's The End? Why are you happy and sad? Did I miss a post?
post #214 of 582
PS I used to think that it was required for a woman to wear a skirt or dress to church, but now I understand that it's not.

I do think that if an adult (or teenage) woman wears pants or slacks to church, they should be very careful that their trousers are not too tight (revelaing) in the hip/pelvic/buttock area. Lots of pants are just too stretchy and it leaves too little to the imagination. But a nice pair of not-very-stretchy, properly-fitted dress slacks, with a nice blouse or sweater, would be just right for church, I would think.
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I'm confused. What's The End? Why are you happy and sad? Did I miss a post?
Could be wrong..but the end could be the last harry potter book, which goes on sale today:
post #216 of 582
Ohhh . . . I'm behind, I still need to read books 5 and 6.
post #217 of 582
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I'm just wondering if people ever actually do it at home (or not at all). I don't really pay attention to which babies have or haven't been blessed in our ward, so I wouldn't notice if someone didn't do it, lol.
We blessed Sammy at home. We would have done it at the church except that there was only one week we could do it (when my family was able to be in town), and it happened to be stake conference. So we did it at home instead.
We just had to call the bishop and let him know, and he designated one counselor to come over for the actual blessing (just to witness it basically--he wasn't in the circle), and then we signed the form to get the certificate, and that was that.
We actually did it as FHE on monday night instead of on sundah. We had a big dutch oven dinner for all our family and then did the blessing. IT was a really fun night!

jenni
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All I have to do for DD is bring some white sunday shoes, which she already has. But for the boys, they're to wear khaki pants, a white oxford shirt, a belt, brown or black shoes, and a bow tie that will be provided. And it has been requested that the adults dress within the color scheme as well, so as to "blend in".

I'm kinda skimming through stuff here (having been absent for several days!) But I jsut wanted to throw out that if you can't find something at the thrift store, and want to get something, I have found www.frenchtoast.com to have really good quality clothing. They are a school uniform company, so it's dressy but simple, and all has stain-resistant treatments and pants have reinforced knees and all that stuff...it's meant to hold up! DS goes through knees of pants often on the 2nd or 3rd wearing...but of 4 pairs of these pants, only one didn't make it through the whole school year. The pants are around $14, and shirts range from $7-12 or so... it's only school sizes (4-16 I think) but it is very high quality stuff, and well worth the investment, you know? I know you said you're on a budget, but if you're thinking about maybe getting an item or two new that would last a while...that's where I'd look first!

jenni
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I've got Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows in my hot little hands as we speak and I've been eading since 2:30 a.m. last night (with a quick 4 hour nap from 5 to 9) and have only got about 200 pages to go. : Anyway, gotta go!
post #220 of 582
I've been listening to the book on CD while I crochet things.

NCD is done, finished around 3:00.

Poor Connor is half dressed and eating oreos for lunch. It's assumed that a Harry Potter day is a day blown for anything else.

ETA: NCD wanted me to add that he has had a bath and we have changed his diaper twice. So, we're not doing too bad....
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