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post #521 of 582
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Originally Posted by LionTigerBear View Post
Sometimes I imagine how cool it would be if we were all in one ward! Lol! Enrichment Night would rock.
Oh my goodness!!!! I was JUST thinking this like a week ago... thinking man... if only a COUPLE of my MDC moms lived in my area I'm sure we could totally change the education of some of these soggy mamas. Then I wouldn't look like the ONLY weird : : : kinda mama... Plus it gets kinda lonely feeling like an outsider doing all those things, even though I KNOW they are right. Ya know?

NCD- Don't feel bad. We used the carseat when baby was sleeping too. I just wore my sling when they were awake.
post #522 of 582
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Originally Posted by DucetteMama21842 View Post
Oh my goodness!!!! I was JUST thinking this like a week ago... thinking man... if only a COUPLE of my MDC moms lived in my area I'm sure we could totally change the education of some of these soggy mamas. Then I wouldn't look like the ONLY weird : : : kinda mama... Plus it gets kinda lonely feeling like an outsider doing all those things, even though I KNOW they are right. Ya know?
I'm pretty lucky that my best friend in the ward here is the one that turned me on to MDC. We have kids the exact same ages. She doesn't post much though and doesn't have 50 posts, which is why she isn't here. But she was my example for cloth diapers, we've discussed vaxes at length, I've talked to her about circ, We've discussed slings, cosleeping, we are both still nursing our 1.5 year olds, it's so nice to have an IRL person that doesn't think I'm insane. I hope she starts posting again and joins us. She's fun. Everyone else in the ward thinks we're totally out there though. Oh well.
post #523 of 582
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Originally Posted by NewCrunchyDaddy View Post
I'll probably lose my crunchy card for saying this, but: The only time we used it (the "bucket") with DS was when he was really young and fell asleep in the car while we were running errands. They fit real nice in the seat in the shopping cart. Then, when he woke up, we'd take him out and carry him around. But if he was asleep, there was no need to wake him just to prove a point and put him in a sling, KWIM? For me, attachment parenting and NFL is about following the kids' cues and not dotting all the "I"s and crossing all the "T"s about what is "crunchy" or not.
Oh definitely! We did that a lot with DS1. But not so much this time around, since DS2 will go right back to sleep when I put him in the sling after removing him from the carseat. If sleeping was more of an issue with him, things would be different, as it is ALL about following the kid's cues.
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Oh quarteralien- that sounds awesome! : My only two crunchy friends IRL are not LDS and are at least an hour and a half away from me.
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Alright Ladies and Gent, we've discussed this before. My ward and area is full of crunchy people, so why aren't you HERE. Sheeseh
Here's the real estate site.
We used the bucket with M because I really didn't know any different and he was not a good sleeper. I really wanted a sling but couldn't afford one. For some reason, it never occured to me to just make one. : G on the other hand spent a lot of time in the sling. I found it to be a great way to avoid pass the baby as a pp mentioned. I just don't see why people who are: feel it necessary to touch a baby!
Pamela, that is too bad about that shower. I know I get frustrated when someone asks me for advice and seems to take it then does an about face. Especially on things like breastfeeding. I even had a woman ask me about food allergies and such. He daughter was allergic to dairy and covered in eczema. I saw her awhile later and her daughter looked no different. She said it was just too much work to go dairy free.
I guess it comes down to the fact that we are ultimately responsible for our own choices. As long as we have done our best to share information.
post #526 of 582
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I guess it comes down to the fact that we are ultimately responsible for our own choices. As long as we have done our best to share information.
And that's essentially what we do with the gospel. Good point.
post #527 of 582
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I even had a woman ask me about food allergies and such. He daughter was allergic to dairy and covered in eczema. I saw her awhile later and her daughter looked no different. She said it was just too much work to go dairy free.
is right. Holy But of course CPS would never do anything about it, but oh ... nurse the kid when she's three and you're a pervert. To quote Homer Simpson:

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Look, Marge, you don't know what it's like. I'm the one out there everyday putting his on the line. And I'm not out of order! You're out of order! The whole freakin' system is out of order! You want the truth? You want the truth?! You can't HANDLE the truth!! 'Cause when you reach over and put your hand into a pile of goo that used to be your best friend's face, you'll know what to do! Forget it Marge, it's Chinatown!
post #528 of 582
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So I went to a baby shower this past week and all beforehand the new mom and I have been communicating by email and I have given her tons a GREAT breastfeeding info and she's planning on a natural childbirth and I thought "Great I will have someone in common with me about breastfeeding/natural childbirth etc..."
Well at the shower every time she got a bottle as a gift she was soooo excited and saying "I have a feeling I'm going to need a lot of these..YA!!"
Then she would turn to her mom and say. "I think I still need some more"

I was so confused. She asked me for info. Said she wanted all the info I could give her on breastfeeding and was excited that I was around to ask questions and she was definatly going to breastfeed.

I guess I was bummed out. I feel so alone in knowing how important it is to breastfeed.
One lady sitting next to me asked about how well those dishwasher bottle holders work and I said,
"I don't know, I don't even own a bottle."
She said "good for you, but sometimes they are neccasary"
I said, "Not really, for me at least. If needs be most babies can use a sippy cup around 4 months."

I guess after the baby shower I felt more like the odd person out rather then more included in my ward. Pictures of baby bottles were plastered on the walls as decorations and it was all about strollers, car seats, formula and bottles.

I think I will go wash my slings today and get them ready for the new baby.
I had the SAME thing happen to me, only it was my step-mom! She said she was going to breastfeeding this time around and all kinds of things - I was supposed to be her doula and all. Yeah, I got called 4 hours after my sister was born and she'd already had 2 bottles of formula. : She said she wasn't breastfeeding because she hadn't taken any classes and didn't own a pump.

Of course, two weeks later when I was at their house, she's telling me how bad she feels about not breastfeeding while she's giving Claire a bottle. And that was the day my dad told me that I was low class for nursing in public and that when I'm in his house, I'll nurse DS in the bathroom. I told him I wouldn't be at his house anymore, then.
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And that was the day my dad told me that I was low class for nursing in public and that when I'm in his house, I'll nurse DS in the bathroom. I told him I wouldn't be at his house anymore, then.
That's OK. As Garth Brook says, "You have friends in low places."

I always thought it was sad to see bright eyed babies in buckets with propped up bottles facing away from their mommies during church. Way to never cuddle your child!

But Connor was a bad sleeper, so if he fell asleep in that bucket, he was STAYING THERE. Until he woke up of course. But now that he's in a bigger car seat for toddlers, there are times when we will still leave him in it and struggle to carry him in that seat and set him on the floor in the house like that, just so we can leave him asleep. And then we close off the cat and dog in the back room so they won't wake him up.
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Originally Posted by eclecticmama View Post
I live in the southwestern part. A little more south and western than Roanoke. Are you in VA?
Yup, I'm about 45 minutes from Richmond.
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Originally Posted by Moonprysm View Post
And that was the day my dad told me that I was low class for nursing in public and that when I'm in his house, I'll nurse DS in the bathroom. I told him I wouldn't be at his house anymore, then.
I'm so proud of you!
post #532 of 582
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I'm so proud of you!
Eh, it was kind of a mixed moment for me. I felt very empowered in standing up for my son. But I now have a 2 month old little sister that I've seen once. My dad has a 7 year old and I missed the first several years of her life because my dad was too into drugs and I refused to associate with him. Now it looks like I'm going to miss a significant part of my other little sister's life because of my father's stupidity. *sighs* Add to that that I was an old child for 15 years and my mom has a little girl that I rarely see because my mother is a highly toxic person and always the cause of a great deal of stress in my life, and sometimes it really sucks. I wanted to be a sister for so long, and it finally happens (3 times) and I'm barely in any of their lives.
post #533 of 582
oh Tiffani i am so sorry.
post #534 of 582
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Originally Posted by Moonprysm View Post
Eh, it was kind of a mixed moment for me.
I'm sorry if that come across as insensitive.
I don't have any contact with any part of my family.
For me it has been wonderful.
But I am sorry for how things are for you.
Though I'm still proud of you for standing up.
Your son is blessed to have you.
post #535 of 582
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Originally Posted by Sea_Gal View Post
I'm sorry if that come across as insensitive.
I don't have any contact with any part of my family.
For me it has been wonderful.
But I am sorry for how things are for you.
Though I'm still proud of you for standing up.
Your son is blessed to have you.
Oh I didn't think it was insensitive at all! At one point in my life, I'd planned on never having contact with my family ever again. Then I became a big sister 3 times over and it has made that decision a lot harder than it should have to be.
post #536 of 582
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Originally Posted by RasJane View Post
Alisha, that is horrid. I dunno, I've just had this impression that the eastside is not generally as crunchy as the westside. Is this true? I've got a fairly crunchy ward down here in Newberg, so I'm lucky. I still want to move to Beaverton or Tigard though.
Anyway, Welcome!
So far in my opion Westside is so much crunchier, cleaner, and friendlier then the Eastside. Both inside and outside the church. We are accually hoping to be able to move back to the beaverton/hillsboro area in the next few years, since that is where DH still works.
We also have never owned a bucket carseat. It has always been a sling or my arms that carry my kids. I love the reaction I get from a lot of people on the sling. Comments such as I wish they would have thought of such a thing when I had kids. Since I know several older "hippy" moms who had homemade ones back in the 50's and 60's I just smile and nod.
post #537 of 582
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Originally Posted by ancoda View Post
Comments such as I wish they would have thought of such a thing when I had kids. Since I know several older "hippy" moms who had homemade ones back in the 50's and 60's I just smile and nod.
I get that one a lot, especially since DS is a big boy now and so I use my pouch to carry him on my hip. I always smile politely and tell them "Women have been using them for thousands of years, just not in the US. We're finally catching up with the rest of the world!"

I really like it because DS is a run away kind of toddler and I really do think I'm going to get him a leash just to keep him from dying. I need to find my temporarily misplaced sutemi pack because hip carries are uncomfortable now that I'm getting huge and my hips are softening. In stores he sometimes will stay in the cart and sometimes not. But once I have a new born I need to carry, I'm putting that kid on a leash. Seriously. One of those cute ones with a stuffed animal on the back.
post #538 of 582

Irony

We've been on vacation for the last two Sundays, so I had subs for Gospel Doctrine. I was actually excited to get back in there and teach again. Today they called a new teacher to be a team teacher with me. I was in shock. Dh was trying not to laugh at my face in SM because he knew I was thinking about the lesson next week that I've been looking forward to teaching for months now. So I talked to the new teacher afterward about when he wanted to start, and he said he was willing to teach next week, even though they will be out of town until late Saturday night. I was like, "are you sure? I already have the lesson plan started. I could just do it." I didn't want to seem pushy, but he said no, it's fine, I'll be up for it. DH was watching all this a little amused, and later he told me I should just claim the lesson as my own, and let it be. I felt like an idiot, but I did talk to the guy after church again and say basically that I really really wanted to teach that lesson and would he mind putting it off a week. He said that was okay, he'd start the next week, and the should have warned me they were going to call a team teacher, that wasn't very nice of them. But now I wonder what he thinks of me. Oh well. I get to teach the circumcision lesson! Yay!
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Hurray! I'm going to buy a red bull so I get can there for mine.
post #540 of 582
I'm LDS too and was wondering if I could join your thread?
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