I've actually got a few things going on that I'm hoping someone has experience with and/or advice on. Dh and I have been separated for a little over 2 yrs (most of the first year was off and on long distance). I've been attending university full time and bartending late nights to pay for school, rent and bills. I met someone who I have been with for just over a year now. It has been a struggle w/ the ex, who wants his family back badly, has been struggling with depression, and doesn't like my boyfriend. The children have no medical insurance and I don't qualify for financial assistance as long as we're together on paper and so I think it's time for me to start the divorce process so that the children and I can receive some sort of assistance (ex hasn't had a job in several months to help out much). I know that things are about to turn very ugly w/ my ex and would love any advice anyone has.
A few asides include: My boyfriend is about to have to move out of his current apartment (just completed university and no longer qualifies) and so I think I'd like to ask him if he'd like to move in with the kids and I. I will talk dd beforehand but I think the children will be fine with it (he stays over most of the time anyway). I am wondering how anyone else has eased the transition, though.
Also, I'm not sure if my living with someone would affect my chances of receiving medi-caid for the children or divorce proceedings.
On another note, I'm wondering about relocation. I'm originally from Canada. I am a US citizen now but would love to return to Canada at some point. I am living in New Mexico now (my mom lives here) and a few months ago my ex returned to this state too (he has another daughter from a previous relationship who lives here too). My ex knows I want to move elsewhere (but would always encourage and facilitate visitation for he and the children) but as means of control will prevent it. He lives 2 hrs away but only sees the kids averagely for a few days a month. I'm pretty sure he can prevent me from moving out of the country but can he prevent me from moving out of the state too?
I know this post is kind of jumpy and not articulate but I just started working a graveyard shift and am quite sleepy.
A few asides include: My boyfriend is about to have to move out of his current apartment (just completed university and no longer qualifies) and so I think I'd like to ask him if he'd like to move in with the kids and I. I will talk dd beforehand but I think the children will be fine with it (he stays over most of the time anyway). I am wondering how anyone else has eased the transition, though.
Also, I'm not sure if my living with someone would affect my chances of receiving medi-caid for the children or divorce proceedings.
On another note, I'm wondering about relocation. I'm originally from Canada. I am a US citizen now but would love to return to Canada at some point. I am living in New Mexico now (my mom lives here) and a few months ago my ex returned to this state too (he has another daughter from a previous relationship who lives here too). My ex knows I want to move elsewhere (but would always encourage and facilitate visitation for he and the children) but as means of control will prevent it. He lives 2 hrs away but only sees the kids averagely for a few days a month. I'm pretty sure he can prevent me from moving out of the country but can he prevent me from moving out of the state too?
I know this post is kind of jumpy and not articulate but I just started working a graveyard shift and am quite sleepy.
