post #61 of 61
7/9/07 at 9:40am
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Originally Posted by Ione View Post
I think you misunderstood my question.

I meant, given what you're read about my situation and concerns, do you personally feel they are legitimate? Or would you classify them as part of what you called (to use your words instead) "for no other reason than, basically, the guys a jerk" or an analogous situation?

I'm sorry if you took offense at what was not intented to characterize your words specifically, but was an (unclear, I admit) reference to how my exMIL has and is still, I would bet my right hand on it, categorizing my concerns as "overly-protective-and-excessively-possessive-mommy baggage".
Thank you. Sorry, I'm a little sensitive with all the posts implying that I'm sending children into "hellish" situations and don't care about kids at all. When you devote your life and career to protecting kids, that's a little hard to take calmly. Peace, though.

Of course your concerns are legitimate. The drug use in particular -- that would be a no-go for CPS/the courts, so you are completely within reason to make that a no-go for you as well (but I don't recommend it, go through the courts so you don't get popped for a contempt charge).

Otherwise, I think it stinks and is far from ideal, but no, I don't see a reason for the visit to be denied, in particular since she'll be around his family members. NCP extended family relationships are frequent casualties in divorced families, and that's shame.