Whoa, dang, I gotta come to this forum more often. Actually I've been away from MDC for the most part, for awhile. Anyway, nice to see this thread.
I identify more as queer, though I am bi with a straight male partner. Fun times. I also ID as poly, but he does not. More fun times.
I am very interested in talking to others that have been in a similar situation as mine. It's a very long story, but basically DP does not like this about me. He knew I was bi and poly from the start, and in fact met me when I was living with my boyfriend and girlfriend, at the time. The girlfriend being a long-time friend of his. Neither of those relationships worked out, and I ended up being with him instead.
He does not want me to be with anyone else, and is very sensitive about it. There is one other specific special lady in my life (Hi J, if you see this
) that I would be honored to be with. When we were going down that path, or at least trying to (with DP fully aware of what was going on), he suddenly freaked out. I had to stop, and work on my relationship with him instead, but that meant not seeing this good friend of mine any longer. At least for the time being. It's all a mess. Though at the same time, our relationship is a lot better now. We see the same counsellor, though separately... and have learned lots of things about communication and other such things.
But he is still very sensitive about it, and hates that he can't be everything to me (in a way-- at least that's how he sees it). I don't want to freak him out, but I will never be complete and feel right in just a relationship with a man. I know now all bi people feel this way, but I definitely do. I feel like I'm pretending, all the time-- Denying a part of myself. Sometimes it makes me a little crazy. I love DP very much, but it's just not about that.
I'm just trying to be patient and make sure my relationship is where it needs to be before trying to go any further, again. But it's hard. Has anybody else experienced this? I need some companionship in my pain, I guess... :\