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post #41 of 142
yay!!

well, I'm not technically a latina, but my DD was born in Brasil, and her first language is spanish...
post #42 of 142
Thread Starter 
Hi majikfaerie, love the name.

Heck, why not? I'm not even sure if latina is what to call it. I'm a Puerto Rican, born in Bronx, NY. Yet I grew up in SoCAl. I guess that would've made me Nueva Rican with Boricua parents, however I recently heard that CA Puerto Ricans are now called Cali-Ricans...: So by that definition, I'm a born Nueva Rican of Boricua parents with a Cali-Rican brother...

I'm still not sure why all of that matters. In the end (for me) I'm of Puerto Rican decent, live in SoCal, and am bi. I'd like to meet other bi's, especially those of some Spanish/ hispanic/ latina/ chicana decent....:
post #43 of 142
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Heck, why not? I'm not even sure if latina is what to call it. I'm a Puerto Rican, born in Bronx, NY. Yet I grew up in SoCAl. I guess that would've made me Nueva Rican with Boricua parents, however I recently heard that CA Puerto Ricans are now called Cali-Ricans...: So by that definition, I'm a born Nueva Rican of Boricua parents with a Cali-Rican brother...
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well, my DD was born in Brasil to an australian mother and an israeli father. so would that make her a BrOzRaelian? or just an alien?
our main language at home is spanglish, if that helps...
post #44 of 142
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Yup, totally how I feel about the issue.... : Makes no sense to me.

Personally, I think it makes your dd BrISRaelian....

Wow, Spanglish is more than I learned growing up....
post #45 of 142
okay, so i'm officially mother of a latina (and i have residency in brasil), so can i join the bi-latina-mothers?
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post #46 of 142
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As soon as I set this up, your dd and you will be first members... :

Anyone else? Eva Peron types?,,,

But Seriously, I'm looking for any or all latina L, B or T latinas willing to participate in a group. Community service time will be given.
post #47 of 142
Bi mama married to a man here. I actually consider myself a lesbian, as it is called PREFERENCE and I prefer to be with women, but most people don't get that, so I find bi is more "socially acceptable". My MIL often worries I'm going to leave DH for a woman - she doesn't know we're poly, though, so that's not an issue! lol
post #48 of 142
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Bi mama married to a man here. I actually consider myself a lesbian, as it is called PREFERENCE and I prefer to be with women, but most people don't get that, so I find bi is more "socially acceptable".
Me too.
post #49 of 142
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wow, are we the same person??? this is me too! Though I've slept with lots of men, I really dont enjoy it. I'm just hopelessly shy when it comes to women i'm attracted to, and tend to fall head-over-heels for straight women

its a big challenge in our relationship, DH accepts that he married a queer woman, and tried to be supportive of that... but... too often I just feel like a vital part of me is missing. I was always attracted to women. plain and simple, I just always knew.
Now I know we are the same person! It's so hard explaining to people who don't understand how I can feel like something is missing. We are both lucky to have accepting and supportive DH's, but it still doesn't fill that void.

heket, I would love to join your community too.
post #50 of 142
I wanted to say also that Im glad to see so many women posting here!! Its nice to know Im not the only wife and mom here like this! I have so many friends that are very conservative about being in a monogomous marriage so sometimes I question myself and my thoughts. I hope one day I can fullfill the other needs in my life the way some of you have!
post #51 of 142
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I wanted to say also that Im glad to see so many women posting here!! Its nice to know Im not the only wife and mom here like this! I have so many friends that are very conservative about being in a monogomous marriage so sometimes I question myself and my thoughts. I hope one day I can fullfill the other needs in my life the way some of you have!
It makes me wonder how many other moms that seem to be just plain straight are actually feeling the way I am.

Anywhoo, it's tough being in the position where a hubby wants to be involved because then I feel kind of skeevy looking for someone. Like I'm just out looking for sex and partying with a female and not really for fulfillment. *sigh*
post #52 of 142
Seems we've turned up a bunch of lesbians who married men
maybe we should start a group
I think I know of another latina lesbian around here somewhere...
post #53 of 142
oh, we posted at the same time
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It makes me wonder how many other moms that seem to be just plain straight are actually feeling the way I am.

Anywhoo, it's tough being in the position where a hubby wants to be involved because then I feel kind of skeevy looking for someone. Like I'm just out looking for sex and partying with a female and not really for fulfillment. *sigh*
EXACTLY how I feel!
Well, we've just moved in next door to a bi-single-AP-mama who wants to start a homeschooling group with us... Actually, she's an old friend who i had a crush on about 8 years ago...
post #54 of 142
I'm not Latina, but I know the older I get the less I am attracted to men and the more I am to women. I didn't think that would happen, but it does. Or perhaps it's just an unfulfilled area of my life for the longest. I have a man to fulfil that part, whereas I don't have a woman.

I have told hubby if anything happens to him I am SO done with men though.
post #55 of 142
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its a big challenge in our relationship, DH accepts that he married a queer woman, and tried to be supportive of that... but... too often I just feel like a vital part of me is missing. I was always attracted to women. plain and simple, I just always knew.
Me too. Shawn totally knows and accepts that I am queer. In fact, he has never dated a straight woman, so he has lots of experience in this area.... actually twice one of his girlfriends/exgirlfriends and I had a weird sort of thing starting, but it never panned out.... (yes, we have a very odd history... I told you we were attracted to the same women!) And he is great with that fact. But somehow, I feel like some part of me just is missing, and I can't figure out how to fix it. And he doesn't quite get why it matters, though he knows it does.
post #56 of 142
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Seems we've turned up a bunch of lesbians who married men
That's what I have always said I am... I only use the word bi because it seems hypocritical to say lesbian when I married a man. Expecially having done it AFTER I came out, so its not a hiding thing, its a real legitimate wonderful relationship.
post #57 of 142
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That's what I have always said I am... I only use the word bi because it seems hypocritical to say lesbian when I married a man. Expecially having done it AFTER I came out, so its not a hiding thing, its a real legitimate wonderful relationship.
Yup, that's me. I've been an out lesbian since I was 15. When DH and I met, I couldn't believe I was having feelings for him, but it took FOREVER for him to return them because I was one of the guys to him. lol I never in a million years would've thought we'd end up married with a little one. But it's fabulous.
post #58 of 142
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I have told hubby if anything happens to him I am SO done with men though.
me too!
~Angel
post #59 of 142
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Yup, that's me. I've been an out lesbian since I was 15. When DH and I met, I couldn't believe I was having feelings for him, but it took FOREVER for him to return them because I was one of the guys to him. lol I never in a million years would've thought we'd end up married with a little one. But it's fabulous.
I can relate. I've been out to the world (including parents and IL's) since I was in my teens too. When I met DH he knew I was looking for a g/f, so we went out together looking for women. I had no idea he was into me (I was so naive ) but I gradually became more attracted to him as I got to know him.
~Angel
post #60 of 142
I had a similar story;
I was in a serious (but long-distance) relationship with a woman when I met DH, so he really hid that he was attracted to me, put me in the mental "not available" box.
It took me ages to slowly see him in an "attraction" way, and I suspect that a large part of that was my body getting hormonal and wanting to make a baby
Actually, as soon as I was pg, I lost all interest in men... but by then it was too late! But I do love DH; he's just a funny guy, and a great father.

anyway...
DH is away on a business trip for 3 weeks... and the (bi) single mama who lives next door (that I've had a crush on for ages) just got back from her vacation and she's making eyes at me...
This might be a tough one :
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