ITA. At the risk of sounding sexist, I honestly think (many) men are just not wired to multi-task and therefore do not tend to work as efficiently as women. Add to that a general lack of experience with housework and a seeming inability to see dirt and... well, it's frustrating.
What I do, if I expect DH to help me get a bunch of housework done, is make a list of the tasks for the day and explain to him that this is what we need to get done today - ie, there's a list on the fridge of what needs to get done today. If necessary (which is not so much these days as it was when we first lived together) it will be excessively detailed. As in, rather than say "clean bathroom" it might say: "Clean bathroom mirror. Wipe sink. Scrub toilet. Wipe outside of toilet." DH had no idea that wiping the outside of the toilet was part of the job at one time. Ick.
It does seem kind of parental, but I'm working off the list too, and it keeps me on track at the same time. So, the list is for me as much as for him. It is a bit more work, but it cuts way down on seething resentment, which is a relationship killer.
What I do, if I expect DH to help me get a bunch of housework done, is make a list of the tasks for the day and explain to him that this is what we need to get done today - ie, there's a list on the fridge of what needs to get done today. If necessary (which is not so much these days as it was when we first lived together) it will be excessively detailed. As in, rather than say "clean bathroom" it might say: "Clean bathroom mirror. Wipe sink. Scrub toilet. Wipe outside of toilet." DH had no idea that wiping the outside of the toilet was part of the job at one time. Ick.
It does seem kind of parental, but I'm working off the list too, and it keeps me on track at the same time. So, the list is for me as much as for him. It is a bit more work, but it cuts way down on seething resentment, which is a relationship killer.
