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40+ and TTC: it's SUMMER!

post #1 of 325
Thread Starter 
This is the thread for those of us 40 and over who are trying to conceive. Since there are a couple of new folks (including myself) I thought I'd start with an introduction and encourage others to do the same (so we poor newbies don't have to read through the whole other thread, lol).

I'll be 40 in January, have two kids (5 and almost 3) and I'm starting my first TTC cycle as of yesterday. I'm just monitoring CM for now, as DH and I seem to be pretty fertile based on the other two kids' conceptions. But I suppose if that doesn't work I'll move to charting.

Baby Dust to us all!
post #2 of 325
Welcome to TTC Piglet!

Have a good time msgoodbuns~!

I've been TTC for a long time, and though I don't check in all the time I do follow everyone's journey!

Here's to a very fertile summer
post #3 of 325
Juneau and Lynne, I'm so sorry for your losses. I wish you the best of luck in the coming months.

Myself, I detected no ovulation this month - never caught it on the OPK, and temperatures were all over the map, and I never really seemed to have much mucous. Of course we DTD anyway : , but I expect AF tomorrow (and am pretty sure that will happen based on how I feel.)

I was pretty bummed for a while this week, wondering if I'd become anovulatory or what. But I read up on it, and it seems unlikely that with regular periods that would be the case. Still I have no idea when or if I O'd this month.

Anyway, I feel better today as I've amassed an arsenal for the upcoming months. I got the ClearBlue Fertility monitor, the internet strips which are more sensitive than the ones I was using, and Robitussin. I'm ready! I'll try to figure out how to post my FF chart, but it may not be much help as there's no real pattern there yet.

So here's lots of to those of us giving it a go again this month!

Besh wishes all,
Cat
post #4 of 325

Lurking

I'm charting again. 41 and trying for #2. DS just turned 2. I've been anovulatory a lot.
post #5 of 325

first time

Hi

I have been lurking but with a new 40+ thread it seemed like a good time to jump in. I am 44, have a 10 year old DS and a new husband who is turning 48 next week. He has one 19 year old DS. My cycles were always regular but short (24-27 days). My doctor said that as long as my cycles were regular I was ovulating but I am not convinced I am.

We have been TTC since January with my getting more and more focused on it. I am charting now but haven't seen a pattern yet - we were vacationing last month and I missed too many temps. I just bought B6 and Vitex to see if they can help. I am trying to not get too obsessed with this so I am not on FF. I am on CD 9 hoping that with a little more focus we can make something happen.

Good luck to us all
post #6 of 325
Hi from vacation (my cousin's DH has a laptop!!!). I'm Ms GB, and I'm single (although dating MC now - whom I see once or twice a week due to schedules, his kids, etc.) I've been ttc since Jan. 2006, with a 6 month break this year due to stress, etc. Anyway, my cycles are somewhat regular, but occasionally wonky. I test with OPK and temps, plus CP and CM during the time when I think I'm close to O'ing. Well, I should run. Family is around. See you all soon. Welcome to the new folks!
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I'm Laurie I turned 44 in May. We have been ttc for at least a year but didn't use anything to prevent even before that since DS was born. I am charting but now only cm and bd days I gave up temping and most of the time I am sane about it. I use saliva scope when I remember.
I have 4 children all from the same marraige of 23 years. (21, 19, 6 and 4) The six year old is our adopted blessing and the 4 yo is our surprise pregnancy. For some reason I thought since I got pregnant it would happen again easily.
I actually told DH today that I don't think my body is up for a pregnancy or for delivery as I have complications but I would love another baby> So there you have it.
I am working on losing some weight and getting into better physical shape.

MsGB I am holding my breath for you. :
post #8 of 325
Thanks for the new thread Piglet. I've been lurking for the past several months, but it's a little intimidating to join in on page 60-something.

I'm almost 40 and have a 6yo DS and a 4yo still nursing DD. I got pregnant quickly the first 3 times (one m/c), so was really surprised to have it take so long this time.

DH and I are "sub-fertile", he has some morphology and motility issues and I have borderline progesterone. We just finished our first IUI. We had to use frozen swimmers because of a business trip so I'm not too hopeful. Dr. put me on a progesterone supplement this month after a chemical pregnancy, so at least I'm not spotting for a week before AF. If our bits do connect, at least they will have a fighting chance!

post #9 of 325
I will be 42 in November. Actively TTCing baby #3.
post #10 of 325
Well, I'm at 11 DPO. Last night had severe insomnia. Ate just about everything in sight at midnight. Felt nauseous afterwards, and thru out the night. Temp rose to 98.8 this a.m. after only 4 hours of sleep. Had to turn on the fan, I was so hot (I hate using fans and A/C units, unless it's sweltering outside - which it isn't. It's a whopping 57 degrees and rainy!) Of course, BFN on 2 tests (dollar tree and EPT Certainty). Now I'm feeling crampy. Darn, I was hoping for a BFP this morning. But all is not lost yet...

I'm going back to bed, bummed. Hope I can get more sleep.
Anyone else far into the 2ww???
post #11 of 325
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Originally Posted by msgoodbuns View Post
Well, I'm at 11 DPO. Last night had severe insomnia. Ate just about everything in sight at midnight. Felt nauseous afterwards, and thru out the night. Temp rose to 98.8 this a.m. after only 4 hours of sleep. Had to turn on the fan, I was so hot (I hate using fans and A/C units, unless it's sweltering outside - which it isn't. It's a whopping 57 degrees and rainy!) Of course, BFN on 2 tests (dollar tree and EPT Certainty). Now I'm feeling crampy. Darn, I was hoping for a BFP this morning. But all is not lost yet...

I'm going back to bed, bummed. Hope I can get more sleep.
Anyone else far into the 2ww???
When is AF expected? I know with both of my kids I didn't get BFP's till the day AF was expected. Which this cycle will be this Saturday. Of course last month I was 4 days early with AF.

So there is hope. You are having some really awesome signs.
post #12 of 325
KatW,

My LP's have typically been short - 5 at their worst, 7-9 typically, 10 plus on occasion. So 11 DPO is great for me. Granted, I am taking B6 and progesterone suppositories this cycle, too. One thing I noticed yesterday (TMI coming....) is that my pee smells really strong, even though I'm drinking alot. Maybe my sense of smell is more acute?

For those of you who didn't read my post on the 2ww thread, I felt like ripping off MC's head yesterday, and breaking up with him. (Fortunately, we didn't talk!). He's being weird - on Sunday (on the plus side, he did call me Sunday after the ex picked up the kids), he said the drive to my place was too long, so he didn't want to get together Mon or Tues nights. I offered to drive to his place instead, and he said he would call me after work yesterday to talk about it. Of course, the phone never rang. I'm sure he's tired from spending the week w/his kids, but I don't feel any love (or at least sensitivity) coming my way. I'm thinking that he doesn't have the balls to tell me whatever it is that's on his mind. But I'm afraid to broach the subject, as I would likely put too much pressure on him and that would be the end of everything. (As you will recall, he's separated and she's putting together the divorce paperwork.) Plus, if I am pg, that would not be a good thing to do. The last time I saw him was Sat/Sun June 30th - 10 days ago, so I don't think I'm being unreasonable wanting to get together again this week.

Anyway, hopefully today will be a more stable day emotionally speaking. Anyone who wants to provide input into the situation is welcome to do so. I am in need of lots of love and support!!!
post #13 of 325
I just reviewed all of my cycles. When on Progesterone (cream or suppositories), most of my LP's were 11, 13, or 14 days long (shortest was 9, longest was 17). So I'm not getting my hopes up too high at this point, especially considering that my BD timing wasn't great. I guess it goes to show that Progesterone really does make a difference in LP length.
post #14 of 325
I had a blood test yesterday to confirm that I'm not pregnant and went off the progesterone a few days early so AF can get her visit over with.

Hope she moves through quickly, cause we're going out of town in a couple of weeks and I want to get an IUI in.
post #15 of 325

Broken Heart

Well, MC avoided me like the plague these past few days, so I called him tonight (many, many times until I reached him). My instinct told me that he had a change of heart about dating me. (Ms GB has the most accurate instinct around). Anyway, he said it felt weird having me at his place a few weekends ago, and feels like he has "things to do" to move on w/his life now that he is separated and divorcing. He wanted to still talk on the phone, etc and not lose my friendship. I, of course, with dignity in hand, told him that I wasn't into being his phone friend...that it wasn't enough for me, and that I wasn't going to be strung along until he decided he was ready to move on. I told him that, if I was him, I wouldn't throw away someone who made him happy, feel good, laugh, was supportive, etc. He didn't want to end it, but didn't want to continue it, either (other than on the phone). So, I said..."I guess that's that. I'm going to hang up now. Bye." Of course, I'm in tears, but I'm giving myself a day or two then I am moving on 100%. That is, unless he calls with a change of heart in that time frame.

Anticipating this result, I went on Match.com and set up a date for Saturday night already! I hope I like the new guy "Bob", b/c I really enjoyed having someone in my life again, and really want a good relationship. I felt so much more alive and sexy, and loved the increased sex drive!

On the ttc front, I am fairly certain that AF will visit tomorrow. I've had very light spotting today, with cramps this a.m.. Took an HPT a little while ago, which was negative. I am SO ready for my hormones to stabilize so that my mood improves. Of course, this "thing" with MC hasn't helped my mood one bit these past 4 days. And people always wonder why I'm not married. I swear, it's not me. I'm not a commitment phobe or anything. It's THEM.

post #16 of 325
I'll be 40 in several weeks, and we have been TTC#3 for almost 20 months now. Had general tests done for thyroid, anemia, other stuff...don't want to get into too much medical involvement yet, so am focusing on eating well, taking vitamins/flax/minerals, losing some weight, getting more sleep, etc. We'll see!
post #17 of 325

Progesterone Supplements

First, welcome Scorch.

Ladies, am I supposed to stop with the progesterone suppositories at some point, to get AF? Or, perhaps I should ask if AF won't come unless I discontinue the Progesterone suppositories. I'm afraid to stop in the event that I am actually pg (tho doubtful). My spotting these past few days has been exceptionally light and infrequent, so in the ideal world, it could be implantation spotting. Cramps came only briefly yesterday morning. No signs of spotting or AF yet today. I'm going to wait until tomorrow to POAS wth HPT one more time. That will be 14DPO. I don't remember ever having to go off P to encourage Flo. Anyone able to help here?
post #18 of 325
MsGB First so sorry about MC of course it is his major loss. But that doesn't stop it from hurting. ((hugs)) As for your other question I would wait until 18 dpo and if af hasn't arrived and you are still testing neg maybe go in for a blood test.
post #19 of 325
So happy to find this group! I'm 43 and TTC #2, we had no problems with #1 at age 40 (PG within 2 months) so hoping for similar luck this time around. Going on 3rd month now and might start charting if it does not happen this month. I'm really hoping for good news this time around as I think I might have had some implantation bleeding ~two days ago. AF is due on the 16th-18th :

Good luck to everyone!!!!
post #20 of 325
Welcome to the newbies!

msgoodbuns, my heart is with you. sorry for the hurt, although it IS his loss.
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