40+ and TTC: it's SUMMER! - Page 4

[massaginmommy]

cd2 here, I am not surprised just can't wait for you know who to leave again. LOL
Piglet we will miss you.

[joyluc]

Even though I am the main driver behind our TTC I have mixed feelings about starting over with a baby 10 years after my DS. But I have never had a chance to TTC before (my DS was 'unplanned'). So this year of trying is a gift even if there is no baby. I wonder what will happen at the end of the year if there is no baby. Do we go back to birth control? I never found a method I liked and whats the point of being married if you can't spontaneously DTD whenever you want?

I am at CD25 and don't feel like AF is coming, my cycles have been 24 to 27 days this year. I am hoping that we got the timing right and that maybe I will have a reason to POAS - haven't even gotten to that during this year AF comes so fast. I am waiting to Wednesday to POAS.

[massaginmommy]

Bumping us up.

joyluc did you test?

MsGB how are you?

Still waiting to hear about those twins!!!!

[msgoodbuns]

Hi Laurie,

I'm doing much better, now that my hormones have stabilized (for the time being). I'm waiting to O - probably will get a strong + OPK test tomorrow, and then will go and get my frozen swimmers for this cycle. Construction on my ceiling is underway - hopefully the whole project will be done by the end of next week. I'll be doing the painting to save $$. Went on another blind date last night - Mark - seemed nice, and hopefully we'll get together again and see where that goes.

How are you?
Ms GB

[speedknitter]

Hi folks, just checking in...I am CD11 and will probably start using the OPKs today or tomorrow, this will be the first month we are "serious" about trying, kwim?

How's everyone doing???

[joyluc]

I didn't get to test because AF came all of a sudden. I didn't have most of my usual pre-AF moods and feelings - maybe the Vitex and B6 I started this week so I was completely surprised. It was so disappointing. And then yesterday my DH found out he didn't get the job we were hoping he would get. So it has been a crappy week. I have been TTC since the begining of the year, I know the odds aren't with me because I am 44 but it is hard to hope every month and then get let down.

[Velveteen]

Piglet;
We will miss you!! If you have a change of heart then please come back!
Best wishes for all that is good in the world for you.

[speedknitter]

Giving us a

So, i did my first OPK test yesterday, and today's line is DEFINITELY darker than yesterday!! I am CD 13...keeping fingers (and everything else) crossed!
How's everyone doing?

[msgoodbuns]

Joyluc, I'm sorry for your disappointment about AF and DH's job situation. Hopefully the +HPT will come to you soon, and DH will find the right position for work, as well.

Speedknitter, you and I are cycle buddies right now. I got my + OPK on Weds (faint) and Thurs (darker) and did an insem. on Thursday, but by my temps, it looks like Weds was my O date, so I may have missed the boat. Under these circumstances, I decided to steer clear of the progesteron supps this time. Can't take the bad moods again right now, esp. if I'm a day late and a dollar short.

Good luck to you, and hope all others are doing well.

Ms GB

[massaginmommy]

I am cd 10 today gearing up to O I believe. While my saliva has chagned on the scope no clear ferning is happening yet. I am planning a BD fest for the next3-5 days.
MsGB :fingerscrossed that you still hit it right and caught that eggie.

[joyluc]

Good luck to everyone in their TWW. Hope this is the month!

As I said in my last post we are 7+ months into TCC and no luck yet. When I started I knew that the odds weren't with me and part of me doesn't believe that this will happen but I couldn't not try. When we were discussing this at the end of last year my sister (who has had 3 pregnancies with IVF and other assistance) asked me what I would be willing to do if we didn't conceive the old-fashioned way. At the time I was very clear that I would accept that my time was past and move on.

But now that I have gone through months of AF regular as clockwork I am starting to think about tests and help to make sure that I am O'ing. I would love to have a darling babe. But I don't want to make the first few years of our marriage about TCC. I am not going to stop trying but temping doesn't make the egg come. This is so hard. How do you all handle these decision points?

[msgoodbuns]

Joyluc, I think we all fluctuate btwn being gung ho, doing everything the books say to be super fertile, and then not being sure that we should even be ttc at all, due to various life circumstances. Just "be", and allow each day to dictate how you feel and what you're willing to do (or not do) in the ttc journey. If money were no object, I'd be right there in the RE's office, doing IVF until I was successful. Unfortunately, that's not the case, so I'm hoping that G-d's plan for me includes having a biological child.

Massaginmommy, enjoy your ttc efforts this month. My acupuncturist mentioned yesterday that it is so important to have sex be loving, and not work, when ttc. Somehow the body knows when it's work, and therefore stressful, and then the body isn't as likely to allow conception b/c of the stress. Good luck!

I'm having sore BB's now, which I haven't had since Oct 06. I don't think it's from anything I did at the gym, so hopefully it's a good sign. Maybe I'll add some progesterone cream tonight and going forward, just in case.

[massaginmommy]

Well so far our fest has included 1 very romantic dance. Maybe there will be another tonight. I have no idea if I am Oing or not. I started temping again this cycle so I am sure I will be obsessign in a few days. : MsGB
Joy Luc I think we all know exactly how you feel here.

[momomad]

Just wanted to give you all some encouragement!

Hi my name is Stacey and I've lurked here in the past. I thought you might be encouraged by my experience. I'm 44 but will be 45 in August. I'm 11 weeks along. Last week I saw the baby waving at me. I had my DD at age 39 and then in the past 3 years I've had three miscarriages. But I wasn't ready to give up and now I have a little one growing in me. I'm taking progesterone this time plus some herbs so I don't know if that's what helped or it was just a good egg this time. I didn't have problems getting pregnant, just keeping them. I still am having a hard time believing this isn't a dream, we have been wanting another baby for so long and almost gave up. So that's my story. I hope it brings hope to all of you.

[SunRise]

HI

I am 40 and on cd3. I was here a couple times last summer in the TTC forum. My (sort of) partner (and father to my 4 year old) lives/works overseas. SO the trying will hopefully happen on his visit here (for the next 6 weeks). Circumstances (geography, relationship, and other things) have delayed my plans for growing my family! And although I don't think 40 is too old, its' definitely on my mind and worthy of its own thread (I do so believe)!

MY aunt had her third baby at 48 (or 45) and my best friends mom was in her upper 40s when she was born...so I feel I am in good company, along with the women here!

SO hello and ... an introduction, discombobulated as it is!

Cheers to all and lots of babydust!


Sara

[massaginmommy]

Welcome Sara hopefully your stay here will be a short one.

momomad thank you for sharing it is always good to hear the success stories so we keep on hanging in there.

Off to put DS in his own bed and get to snogging and then some with DH.

[msgoodbuns]

Welcome Sara and Stacey. Stacey - many wishes for a smooth, healthy pregnancy.

[nicksmom03]

Just stopping in to say hi. Welcome Sara and Stacey

I thought I O'd about two weeks ago, maybe a little more but no sign of AF. I had slight spotting over the weekend but it's gone now and nothing. I took a pg test yesterday and it was bfn. I'm thinking I did not actually O. It's hard to know since I wasn't temping. I think it's just taking me a while to get back on track since the m/c. I just hope AF shows up soon so I don't have to go back to the doctor to figure out why it's not starting.

Good luck to everyone. I've missed you all!

Lynne

[Stone Fence]

Welcome Sara and Stacey. :

I ordered vitex tincture. I'm sure now that all my years on BCP created a hormone imbalance that has my ovaries frozen. I was hoping that weight loss would fix things (doesn't hurt) but I still have no cycles to speak of. I'd love to hear other's thoughts on Vitex.

Accupuncture is my next step. Have to discuss that expenditure with DH.

[msgoodbuns]

Lynne, it's good to hear from you. I hope you're doing better.