40+ and TTC: it's SUMMER! - Page 5

[massaginmommy]

MsGB I am holding my breath for you that this is your month. Your chart is lookign good.

[KatWrangler]

I may of screwed up this month. : On CD 21. I am only charting DTD. Since I have very little CM and temping has been impossible with the two kids and my sleep pattern.

I looked at FF and when I conceived my daughter my O CD was 14. However it says my average is 16 CD. We DTD on CD 9, 11, 12, 19 and 20. So did we miss it? :

I am really hoping this is the month because we have trips this fall. One at Thanksgiving (to St. Louis) and in December (Denver and Puerto Vallarta). So I don't want to be newly pregnant and tired and or sick. Sigh...

Also, does nursing hamper ovulation in any way?

[msgoodbuns]

Kat, if you O'd on 14, you should be fine. 16 is pushing it. You ought to use OPK's from around CD 12 - 16, which would help you with your BD timing (and eliminate the stress of wondering if your timing was on or off). Hopefully you O'd early and things will work out.

Laurie, my charts these past few months all look good. That's the problem! I'm trying to remain optimistic, but am also prepared that the cramps and spotting could be AF on her way. Who knows? The symptoms are the same for both PG and AF, so it's really anyone's guess. Boy, would I love to get a + hpt this weekend! Wouldn't we all?

[nolonger]

MsGB. My earliest pregnancy symptom for Persephone was very sore breasts. For all four of my other kids, it was an extreme disgust at the smell of coffeee or cigarettes. I remember the breast soreness from at least Phoenix and Jeanita (my surviving dd) but Persephone totally fooled me because coffee and cigarettes smell fine and I even drank a cup and a half of coffee a few days ago.

The crankiness the day I took my hpt was probably a symptom too, but it wasn't anything new since the progesterone creme I was using to TTC made me even bitchier than the real pregnancy.

Lynne, it's good to see you back. I think about you often.

Well, we made it past the 12 week mark and there's no way I can hide this pregnancy any more. My IHSS client finally confronted me about it (she knew I was TTC and has been cheering me on but it is bittersweet because eventually she will have to fire me when i can't do my job any more; I am an employee of the state and I do not get maternity leave, nor is she likely to be able to hire a temp to fill in for me since they only pay minimum wage and no health insurance) so I just turned sideways, pulled my shirt down tight over my belly and said, "What do you think?"

All in all it went well.

Old Flame is back in my life again and should be back in my town in September. He definitely seems interested in taking on some sort of an "Uncle Dad" role. We shall see what we shall see.

Hang in there, everybody; statistically I am the least likely one of us of all to be posting as a TTC graduate, and yet nonetheless, here I am...

For you new people, I am 42, a single mama by choice, and used very low tech insem methods. The cycle Persephone was conceived, I only did two insems (one in the AM and one in the PM of the same day) and my chart was not promising at all.

Check it out:


Miracles do happen

[msgoodbuns]

Love your baby's name, Spider! That's beautiful. I didn't realize that you had gotten your +hpt at 6dpo. Makes me want to POAS right now. And I was going to wait until Sunday. Hmmm. I also didn't realize that you had so many miscarriages in the past. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

I will probably say this over and over, but your pregnancy is inspiring (especially to me, since we share the single woman ttc thang). So far, I am not turned off by any foods. Just sore bb's, crampy, minimal spotting, and bits of nausea here and there (could be due to the heat/humidity). But then again, I've had many of these symptoms in recent cycles, so .... (but not all in the same cycle, at the same time). Shall I POAS? It's probably a waste of money, but... If I do, it'll be reflected on my chart tomorrow.

Good luck to everyone else. I'm on a 2ww thread and there are quite a few pregnancies being reported now. Hmmmm. Maybe July is a good month for conception! Let's hope.

[massaginmommy]

Let's hope it is. I don't know why but I feel hopeful again. So maybe one of us is going to hit it this month.
Spider thanks for checking in I love hearing your updates.

[nolonger]

Originally Posted by msgoodbuns

Love your baby's name, Spider! That's beautiful. I didn't realize that you had gotten your +hpt at 6dpo.

Actually, it was 10dpo according to where I place the crosshairs; FF changed them on me and by their calculations it is physically impossible for Persephone to exist.

The joke's on them, though; I've got a huge baby belly, tons of old hpts with the test line darker than the control line, and I'm already feeling flutters.

I wrote my last post before I'd looked at your chart, and I have to agree that unless your crosshairs are as off as mine were, things are looking VERY promising!

Laurie, we do tend to affect each other's fertility; just as women in the same household tend to menstruate together, women in groups tend to get pregnant together.

Poor Jeanita had her first major pregnancy scare when Persephone was conceived! I should have warned her it was going to happen.

Anyway, Juneau and Lynne and I all got pregnant at the same time so I'm not altogether sure that we don't affect each other even in the limited contact we actually have with each other sharing our lives online on a daily or almost daily basis. I do know for a fact that my La Leche League group, which I joined because of Jeanita and stayed with the same group of women for many years, had baby booms and baby busts for younger siblings: four or five or more women would become pregnant together over a period of a month or two and then years would go by before anyone else conceived and then there would be another boom.

[massaginmommy]

Well I am getting some big baby belly exposure tomorrow night Two of our Moms from our CD group are expecting this month and we are having a dual blessing shower tomorrow night. I think I will sit between them? Also there are two other mommas in our group that our pregnant.

[msgoodbuns]

Wow, I don't know anyone who's currently pregnant. Maybe you gals can send some pregnant vibes my way. I can use all the help I can get!

[nicksmom03]

Good luck MsGB and Laurie. I'll keep my fingers crossed for both of you.

Anamom - We would love to hear from you. Please give us a quick update when you can. I've been thinking about you.

Have a great weekend everyone!

Lynne

[msgoodbuns]

Looks like I'm out. Somehow I'm not as devastated as in other past cycles. Perhaps my hormones aren't very wacky. This cycle my moods were fine, but I had the nausea, cramps and spotting. I have to say that I prefer that triple decker physical symptoms over the mood swings any day!

Good luck Laurie and the rest of you. I'll be back in the tww in just a few short weeks. I'm planning some dates, so perhaps my sex life will pick up and I can continue to ttc without exhausting my supply of frozen swimmers. Since I'm out of work, I won't be able to afford any more, so either my 2 last vials need to work, or my sex life better improve dramatically so that I can become pg that way.

Spider, could you refer me again to that website / yahoo group where you found your donor? It might make sense for me to investigate that route again, as well. Thanks!

See ya'all soon!

[nicksmom03]

Sorry MsGB. I took a peek atyour chart and noticed your LP looked rather short. Have you ever tried taking anything to extend it? Maybe B6 or Vitex would be worth a shot? Better luck next time.

[juneau]

NAK so I will keep this short. I will follow up with you all later, but I wanted to let you know what is up with me. I'm back from Europe and my MW wanted to do a followup beta to make sure that the miscarriage is complete. I went in on Thursday and it came back at "8." She wants to repeat in a week to make sure it's 5 or less. I'm hoping it's on its way back up! So cross your fingers for me.... I may POAS in a couple of days to see what I get, since it should be high enough by then to register if it's going to.

[nolonger]

MSGB I sent you a PM.

Oh, Juneau, I hope they go up! You really are more fertile after a miscarriage; there are lots of people on MDC who have conceived right after a loss.

[folaboye]

Hi Ladies,

Sorry I have been MIA, MIA.

I hope you are all doing great.

Congrats!!! to all pregnants' Mamas.

I'm sorry for all M/C

My love and thoughts are with everyone.

Here is : and wishing y'all goodluck.

[juneau]

OK, dd's asleep; I can post at more leisure. Europe was fun but it was *hot* in Zurich, and no A/C anywhere. I hear it was nice here while we were gone but now it's HOT HOT HOT here -- and I hate hot weather. So looks like we mistimed things a bit!

My favorite part of the trip was bicycling around Texel, an island off the coast of Holland, in the North Sea. Beautiful -- ocean, dunes, forest, and bike trails everywhere-- but our visit there was way too short. The rest of the time we were in cities, but I do so love more wild places.

MSGB, I'm sorry about AF, but I'm glad your love life is picking up. I hope things move forward on the employment front, too.

Spider, I am glad to hear from you but I am oh so jealous of your flutters. I was just waiting to feel those... Maybe I'll have another chance. But darn it, I don't want to do the whole first trimester thing over again (again!).

Hola, Nicksmom, Stone Fence, and massaginmommy. Lynne, are you back to TTC after your miscarriage?

Welcome Sara and Stacey. Oh, it's so nice to hear success stories -- keep 'em coming! I do need a boost right now.

[juneau]

Posting again to sub, and while I'm here, hello Fola!

[msgoodbuns]

Nicksmom, yes, I'm taking B6, but it's apparently not helping. My LP's are longer if I take progesterone suppositories, but after last cycle, I just couldn't stomach being hyper moody again so soon. I tried the progesterone cream, but didn't start it until around 4DPO. Perhaps I'll start it sooner next time (or return to the suppositories, esp. if I'm using my frozen donor sperm). I'm also going to try doing the ICI on the first day of the +opk, rather than when the line is the darkest. Maybe that will make a difference in my success rate.

Juneau, sounds like a lovely vacation. Wow, wouldn't that be great if you were pg again so soon!

Always good to see you, Fola. Spider, thanks for the PM. I just rolled back into town, and probably won't have a chance to investigate that info until late next week, but it is good to have it at my fingertips.

Blessings to all!

[nicksmom03]

Welcome back Juneau!!! We missed you. Sounds like you had a great vacation. DH and I are going away for a long wknd without the kids in October and I am really looking forward to it.

I really hope your numbers do go up. I don't know what is going on with me. I've been spotting for a week now and I never spot before AF. I think my hormones are not on track since the m/c. I did take a couple of tests and definitely not pg.

I have mixed feelings about TTC and go back and forth on whether I want to. I don't understand why I'm so indecisive about this. I think we will not try but not prevent for a few months and then give up for good. I don't think I'm ready to give up just yet but don't want to leave it open ended if that makes sense. ie. I don't want to have a newborn when my older two are both in school full time because at some point we want to travel and do a lot of things that we can't easily do with very young kids.

MsGB - it probably wouldn't hurt to make the changes you mentioned. Best of luck to you.

[joyluc]

Msgoodbuns thanks for the advise to just 'be'. I knew that but had a real down period. This month I don't think I am O'ing - no spike in my sex drive and no changes in my CM. So I haven't been temping or pressuring my DH to DTD in the right way at the right time. It is nice to let it be more in the background and to focus on enjoying the summer.

I am still thinking about a baby and any story about a 40+ woman who had a baby gets my complete attention. I am so glad for MDC and for this thread. Congratulations to you, noorindaryspider I love the name Persephone.