Have you told most people?

[delaneymom]

I've only told my mom, sister, sister's husband, and sisters husbands mother. They just all happened to be there. With my first I didn't tell anybody, even my mom, until I think I was about 12 weeks. It's killing me this time not to tell everybody though!

[jillybeans]

We've told my mom and the inlaws, my BIL and his wife(so they wouldn't be hurt when we told everyone else tomorrow...they've been trying for four months now, and after the year of trying I've been through, I know how devastating it can feel) and my other SIL was at my MIL's house when I told them. Everyone else will know tomorrow. I don't think it is necessary to wait. We've lost three babies, two between january and may, and it was so nice to be able to celebrate with family in the little time that we had with them.

[mom3b1?]

Not telling, not wanting too. For some reason I want to keep this one private for a while. In the past I've felt differently about different pregnancies. DH knows, and one MW who I have yet to interview knows, and folks on these message boards (why does it feel like that doesn't count?). That's it.

The last thing my son told me before I went off for a short vacation without him was not to come back with a little sister. Sorry kid, too late.

Kiley

[*Isra*]

Noone knows..except the boards.: With DS I told my mom at 6weeks, and everyone else at 12 weeks. Im planning to do the same now. She's coming to visit us right after our first appt. with the MW so Ill wait till shes here.

I like this intimate time of just me and DH knowing. Im dreading telling one of my best friends. She's almost 10 years younger then me, and has been TTC her first for over 4 years.... I get nauseous just thinking about telling her. :

[jennnk]

I posted on my blog, so a lot of my RL friends will know, but I have yet to tell my mom. I'm hesitant because when I asked her to keep my maternity clothes at her house, she said, "Why? Are you going to do something stupid?" Gee, thanks, ma.

[Girlo]

I've told my work, DH, and that's it.

I'm still trying to decide if the faint pink line I see on the stick is for real or not! I've had 2 losses since giving birth to ds, so I'm terrified that I'm seeing things that aren't there or that I'll lose this one too. My symptoms are definitely there, but they come and go....which adds to my anxiety.

I have an appt with my OB (whom I don't really like) on 7/11 and I'll get all my levels checked and make sure things are doing what they're supposed to be doing. I'll hit 10 weeks in mid-August and I'll have an u/s then to make sure this little one is healthy and thriving and then I'll feel A LOT more comfortable telling people.

It's not so bad telling people now....but if something were to happen, I'd have to try and remember who I told and then watch their faces as I give them the bad news. Not fun. I'm going to just wait until the 10 week mark (after my u/s) before making it public knowledge.

[MissAnnThrope]

So far only my Dh knows and my friend. Well and a stranger that some how guessed it :

I've put a ticker on my myspace page, so if anyone gets smart and sees it then they will know.

I'm waiting until I hear the heart beat to tell anyone else. We are also wanting to get a small photo album that says "grandchildren" on the cover for each of our parents and put a cover/title like page with the name of each grandchild and then a few photos of the child and at the very end put "Arriving Mach 2008" and a photo of the U/S.

[salt_phoenix]

I've told dh, and two of my friends. I only told those two friends so early because after my last m/c (2 mos ago) I felt so empty and alone with no one to go to because I had kept it a secret the entire time. I ended up telling them AFTER the m/c. they were very kind and supportive. This time I told them right away, and told them why I was telling them...haha "so that I have someone to cry to if I have another m/c." Sad, but true.

I don't know when I'll tell others. I really don't want to say to people:
"oh, yeah, we lost the baby...again." <<< that is never fun, people are always so devestated by the news... best not tell them at all...

My family will not be happy. My 47 y.o. midwife sister is a little bitter about ttc (she wanted more than one/timing & career took over) and my mom has never been supportive.
Dh's family will be very excited.

I'm having a hard time convincing MYSELF that I'm pg again...haha

[Isaacs_mom]

We have told my family ..mom/dad ,bro and sisters .. and dh's fam too .. but no extended family. I have told some LLL friends and one other friend. not too many people prob more after i can see the bean but i feel really preggers as i have strong symptoms.

[jerawo]

We've told my parents (ILs are out of town until this week) and some friends. We've never kept a baby secret for very long. I'm sure a lot more people will find out this week.

[stelly]

I've told everyone on here , random people at the store, hair salon and one person at the mall who had a cool stroller. The only people who know me who I've told are my aesthetician who is also pregnant herself, and the midwife we'd like to use.

Am planning on telling my parents and sister next week when we are back in the UK. I just don't know how since I spoke to my sister and she's "too busy" to come to my parent's house for the first few days of our visit, and I know I'll never be able to get them to go to her house without them suspecting something.

We are not going to tell the rest of the family, including my in-laws, until 10 weeks. Our friends I think we will just let realize when they see me getting more and more enormous I actually feel a bit weird about making a big announcement to people, basically saying "we've had sex!" I'm crazy.

[rabrog]

Only DH and my two best friends here in town and another friend that I IM with all the time. Other than those and boards, no one else. We have a Big Sister shirt coming that DD will wear off the plane in a few weeks when we go to visit my family (I'll be 8w) and she'll wear it to greet DH's family when they visit us that same week. I'm going to email a pic of her in the shirt to my sister in KS and she can tell my dad and stepmom and brother there.

A friend of mine is going to throw a baby shower for me in Sept/Oct or whenever I can't hide it anymore. The surprise will be on everyone else that I'm pregnant.

Jenn

[Romana]

We've told my parents, MIL, ok'd MIL telling her long-time boyfriend, and I told my best friend. And dh's grandfather, who of course was thrilled for us.

My mom was pretty crummy about it, but MIL is excited. SIL is on vacation, but we'll tell her when she gets back (she's 14) and she'll be thrilled too.

Fortunately, all the local peoples' reactions are positive, so we'll be surrounded by warm thoughts & people during the pregnancy. I have a feeling my parents will ignore it (?) until the baby is born, then sort of be interested. Just a guess, though.

We'll tell the rest (work, other friends, etc.) when I'm showing too obviously not too.

Julia

[Alison Cole]

We told everyone almost immediately. My mom was less than thrilled to be hearing so early -- "I'm not going to get invested until you hit the second trimester." Ok, mom. Her reaction made me question my decision, but I have decided that I really appreciate knowing that so many people that I love are out there rooting for Jamie and I and this tiny fishy being in my belly. And, if the worst were to happen, these people would certainly rally around us with love and support, and I know that would be much needed. Jamie (DP) began the trend of telling people -- though he never gets on the phone if he can help it, he called his brother for maybe the 2nd time in the 5 years we've been together, to tell him the news. His excitement and joy in sharing the news has made it all seem more real to me, and helped me see how invested in it he is. So, for us, telling people has so far been almost exclusively positive.

[anj7]

We've told both sides of our immediate family, I've told some of my friends.

I've also told some random Momma's at the park. I feel the need to explain why I look so fluffy LOL.

DH probably won't tell work for a while, he wanted to keep it to ourselves for 3+ months.

[AislinCarys]

I told my sister (who is at the other side of the world) right away, and a week later a friend, who's a nanny/mother. It's great that my friend knows, but that means I have someone to ask questions! My husband would like us to wait to tell anyone else until the second trimester. I don't know. I'm very worried about losing this baby. I know I would like to tell my MIL, because she will be so excited for us. Not so sure about FIL. He can be quite cynical, and he and his wife have between them a number of not-so-well-timed grandchildren (his wife's daughter got pregnant in her teens, later same daughter bacame alcoholic, got involved with alcoholic, had two more children, whom she kind of dumped with her mother and stepfather two years ago, and went AWOL. They've heard from her again. She's pregnant... DH's youngest sister was on her own with two kids by the time she was 19.) I'm not so sure about telling my parents either. When we told them we we're getting married 2,5 years ago they asked us why... Guess they would have prefered we just kept living together! I'm 28, by the way, DH is 33. As we're struggling to afford a home of our own, I know we may be criticised for that. At least one of my grandmothers will be thrilled - but telling her would be the same as announcing it on International TV!

[delaneymom]

Well, since I posted I've told our good friends, a neighbor, and the farmer at our local CSA farm. I'm thinking about telling my co-worker who is also pregnant. Oh, and a lot of people from our local playgroup know because of some questions I've been asking in my local tribe forum.

[Fish Face]

I have only told my sister and a few of my close girl friends. I am telling my parents this weekend, and my ex as well. Very unplanned and unexpected pregnancy, and I am certainly stressed about telling my parents and ex. I think once I get that over with, I will be very relieved.

[TexasGirl96]

DH is dying to tell everybody, but I would really like to keep it between us until the end of August. We didn't tell anybody the first time (except for my boss who is a priest - isn't that funny) until around 10 weeks. I really liked the privacy those first couple of months. Besides, when I feel crummy, I want to be left alone. Everybody asking how I'm feeling when I feel like crap will only make me crazier than I already am. And I swear, if anybody suggests saltines and 7-up for nausea, I may just have to flatten them. I don't know about anyone else, but my all day sickness was not responsive to the same techniques that you use on a 5-year-old with an upset tummy.

[sarahtar]

Hm. I've told my husband. And one friend. That's it.

I miscarried my last pregnancy, and I had told about three friends, and ended up telling two other people (a friend and my sister) after the miscarriage. I was very very glad to not have to "untell" a bunch of people about the pregnancy, and it made coping with the loss a bit easier to not have a bunch of people pitying me. I prefer to grieve alone.

So we'll be waiting until we hear the heartbeat again this time, just like we did with DS. So, September or so.