After #1 was born, I felt so overwhelmed I wasn't sure I would have any more children. Then I felt like he deserved a sibling, so we conceived dd. Dd, who was a real challenge, colicky for the first 7 mos, and now a total joy, made me believe that this was really IT. 2 Kids. Perfect! But dh would like more (as many as 6!) and honestly I think that having 4 children would be just amazing. Really hard but amazing. I think about them as grown-ups, bringing over their own children. Being surrounded by my family. 
Sometimes with 2 I feel completely overwhelmed, like I need more "me" time. But I do get some "me" time and I can take them both out and to people's houses and I can only imagine that with 3 or 4 kids that this would get really hard. Not to mention expensive! I feel like as soon as life seems managable, I need to throw something (or someone!) else into the mix. I'm a good (not perfect) mother to 2, but could I be as good a mother to 3? 4? The way most of us here have chosen to parent (EBF, Cosleeping, babywearing, cloth diapering, no fast food, lots of one-on-one involvement, etc) is demanding on the parents, but we all agree it pays off. But it's more physically and emotionally involving, so adding another child to the family is an even bigger deal, kwim? If I'm going to have children, I want to do the best job possible. We're raising PEOPLE here!
On top of it all, I HATE being pregnant. Hate it. Love the birth part, but hate being pregnant. I've thought about adoption, but dh isn't completely on board yet. He said after 2 of our own, we could adopt. But now he's saying after 3 of our own.
: A part of me would like to have another baby too. I'm just so torn about it.
So, tell me your experience. What was it like going from 2 to 3? Obviously you don't regret it, but did it go from managable to insanity? I'm not asking you to make up my mind for me, but it would be really helpful to hear your experiences. TIA!
Sometimes with 2 I feel completely overwhelmed, like I need more "me" time. But I do get some "me" time and I can take them both out and to people's houses and I can only imagine that with 3 or 4 kids that this would get really hard. Not to mention expensive! I feel like as soon as life seems managable, I need to throw something (or someone!) else into the mix. I'm a good (not perfect) mother to 2, but could I be as good a mother to 3? 4? The way most of us here have chosen to parent (EBF, Cosleeping, babywearing, cloth diapering, no fast food, lots of one-on-one involvement, etc) is demanding on the parents, but we all agree it pays off. But it's more physically and emotionally involving, so adding another child to the family is an even bigger deal, kwim? If I'm going to have children, I want to do the best job possible. We're raising PEOPLE here!
On top of it all, I HATE being pregnant. Hate it. Love the birth part, but hate being pregnant. I've thought about adoption, but dh isn't completely on board yet. He said after 2 of our own, we could adopt. But now he's saying after 3 of our own.
: A part of me would like to have another baby too. I'm just so torn about it.So, tell me your experience. What was it like going from 2 to 3? Obviously you don't regret it, but did it go from managable to insanity? I'm not asking you to make up my mind for me, but it would be really helpful to hear your experiences. TIA!
The transition from 1 to 2 for me was EASY. My oldest is demanding, has ADHD and was generally a tough baby. My middle son was the OPPOSITE. Totally laid back, slept right off the bat, easy baby! Throwing our third son in the mix has been a tough transition. He is 10 mos. now and we are starting to see some light at the end of the tunnel. We ADORE him (and all of them) and it is awesome to see the dynamics with threee! Our kids are also pretty close together (27 mos in between each child) so that makes a difference too.....
but we did seriously think about a fourth.
