what do you HOPE goes differntly but you really have no control over

[Momma Aimee]

what do you HOPE goes differntly but you really have no control over

and

hoow are you coming to peace with it?

I will start

• I hope my water doesn't break before contraction even start -- thus putting me on a clock (no mater how libal that clock).
  
• I hope that we do not have another torndo (or otherwise) that causes me to labor in the hall way being moved frequently -- ot in any other way alters my foucus and so on....
  
• I hope (and pray) the placenta doesn't fail again causeing us top have to face early induction

and as for coming to peace.....DH and I are working on relaxtion where i focuseon his voice and he talks me way from the thoughts......

Aimee

[GinaRae]

Hopefully hubbily won't look like a deer caught in the headlights. A deer with huge bags under his eyes that are caught in the headlights

Hopefully I will be well rested when labor starts this time. Last time I was exhausted and going to bed when my water broke.

Hopefully I will push baby out like my babe #2. Babe #3 took longer.

[scheelimama]

Hmmm...

I hope I'm GBS- so I don't have to worry about antibiotics.

I hope my water breaks when I'm complete, so pushing is easier, or if I'm GBS-, the mw will be more willing to break it. Pushing was very hard with an intact bulging water bag.

I hope I get a waterbirth.

What I'd like to go the same as last time:

I hope that baby comes the week before my due date, going overdue just sucks.

I hope that labor is as easy as last time and not too quick or slow, just like last time.

I had a really great experience last time, so nothing really that I need to come to terms with. Just hoping things go about the same.

[crystalalene]

I want a homebirth.

I want people to pay more attention to me and *encourage* bonding w/ my baby.

I don't want to have ppd.

[sorteep]

I hope my baby does not have a nuchal cord that needs cutting B4 delivery

I hope I have a fast labor like Evan (OK maybe not SO fast)

I hope to avoid my 3rd episiotomy and bad lac

I hope to not have fainting problems after birth this time

I hope to have a birth ctr birth (instead of hospital)

I hope to not have back labor like DS 1

I am coming to terms with all this by letting go of it all and letting the universe take me along my path and trusting in the process.. I work on this daily in all aspects of my life... work in progress!

[Metiswoman]

I hope I don't have PROM like I did in the past two births.

I hope I don't need pitocin because labor never started after PROM.

If I do have PROM, I hope I'm not in the grocery store (like last time--yes, I finished my shopping, who else was gonna do it???), and that I start having contractions without pitocin.

I hope I'm better prepared for handling L & D, unlike last time.

I hope that it doesn't hurt as bad as it did last time (well, the aforementioned pitocin really didn't help with that, did it?) but if it does that I can handle it well.

I hope I can keep going here without depression striking me down.

I hope I have more help in the PP and can just rest and feed my baby.

I hope I don't feel so cruddy in the PP, either.

I REALLY hope I can get up, move around, squat, or do whatever I need to to be more comfortable during labor.

I hope I get a really good doula again (I can't locate the one we used last time!).

I hope I don't get repetitive mastitis like I did last time.

I hope I get that lobster and filet mignon dinner that I lucked out on last time because the unkind nurse "neglected" to tell me that it was a little celebration dinner for moms!

[boogiemonster]

I hope to never see a pair of forceps again.

[Isaac'sMa]

I hope I don't have an anterior lip this time.

I hope may labor's a little shorter (17 hrs last time) and I don't have to push for 4 hours!

I hope baby doesn't compress any nerves and I can walk properly after I have the babe (my right leg had motor weakness and a sensory deficit for a few months after Isaac was born. I walked like the villian from a ScoobyDoo episode ...ok, not that bad, but still, it was uncomfortable and I didn't like going up/downstairs holding Isaac. I was nervous I would trip and drop him)

I'm sure I'll think of more later!

[LittleLlama]

I hope we're not in the middle of finding a new house and/or moving again. I'd really like to be able to "nest' and not have to pack with a new baby.

I hope that I can deliver at home, if not, if I deliver in a hospital that I get the same understanding staff that we did last time.

I hope I'll get more PP help- I just need to ask is all and not feel like a burden for taking my friends up on heartfelt offers!

[cheeseRjedi]

I hope I don't try to run away from the pain this time. I want to let it in and let it take over me. Not exactly sure how to prepare to go about that yet though .

[Curlita]

I hope, hope, hope that I can have my VBAC. I have a complete previa right now which I'm praying will MIGRATE!

If I do have another section, I KNOW that I will take with me all the great advice from the C-section threads here on MDC.

I hope that my milk doesn't take as long to come in this time... again, knowing what I now know about mother's milk tea, soothies, and FREQUENT nursing, I hope to have a better early BFing experience.

Not really knowing if my "ideal" birthing experience will be at all possible is helping me come to peace with the variety of possibilities I may encounter... some are obviously less appealing than others, but knowing that it is out of my control helps me to be open to whatever may be.

(Huh, I sound pretty convincing!)

[lisalulu]

I hope to be GBS neg. If I am postitive, I hope not to have a nasty reaction to the abx and have to transfer to the hospital.

I hope to have a nice tub for labor this time

I hope baby isn't tongue-tied and breastfeeding is easier.

[*GreenMama*]

I hope this baby stays in until at least the 37 week mark so the hospital will leave us alone and my baby can stay with me, not in the nicu.

I hope that the staff will be kinder and respect my wishes even if they don't agree with them.

I hope I won't be diagnosed as dehydrated because I was unable to drink anything for many hours before I get to the hospital.

I hope I do not get a c.difficile infection.

I hope that I will be able to breastfeed this baby.

[monocyte]

I hope to feel labor start naturally, without an induction.

I hope labor is quick again (4 hours start to finish) but long enough to get DH home safely.

I hope that my presumed bleeding disorder does not cause problems that cause me to bleed out.

I hope that my MW is available (there are a few black out dates that she will not be able to be there, but someone else in the practice will.).

I hope I am strong again, and able to have a drug free mobile birth.

I hope, I hope most of all for a safe healthy birth with a healthy baby.

[Valerieg]

I hope to have a similar birth as I did with DD. In fact, I intend to.

I'm ensuring proper position by not leaning backwards in chairs or sleeping on my back and following other "rules" to keep baby where she is meant to be.

I'm practicing my hypnobirthing/mediation/yoga daily so I can relax as well as I did.

And, I'm eating well and exercising to prepare for the big day.

For me, preparing for L & D is like preparing for a marathon. I figure I have 9 months to "train" and intend to do so. But I'm also accepting the possibility of things not going as well as last time. I just seriously hope that it's just as great!

[FillingMyQuiver]

I hope to have a similar homebirth to DD's birth. L&D went great. It was 36hrs later that we had problems.

I hope I don't have retained placenta again that becomes a uterine infection ending up w/ a trip to the ER, an emergency D&C under GA so I couldn't BFed for 24hrs and DD needed to be on formula, 3 days in the hospital w/ HEAVY IV antibiotics, and a week of antibiotics at home causing my NB thrush:

I hope that the preventative measures I'm taking to avoid UTIs while pg will also work to prevent a post-birth UTI that I've had w/ both kiddos so far, requiring MORE antibiotics.

Coming to peace: I'm drinking a qt of RRL/ nettles/ oatstraw/ alfalfa tea daily, taking cranberry supplements to keep my urinary tract running smooth, adding probiotics to my supplement list to help w/ bacteria counts, and PRAYING. LOTS AND LOTS OF PRAYER!!!

[LittleBrownDog]

I hope to have a homebirth.

I hope to NOT have any back labor- DD was LOA, so it wasn't complete back labor but it was bad enough that getting in the tub was not comfortable, and I really wanted to labor in water.

I hope I don't need/accept AROM.

I hope our early breastfeeding relationship is smoother. Things ended up fine with DD, but I'd really like it to not be a struggle to get there this time.

I want more pictures taken this time! There are NO pictures from the last days of my pregnancy or from any part of L&D until DD is out and on my tummy

[Momma Aimee]

i too hope that the baby is in the right postion -- Theo was not and thus i could not get him moved pushing.

Aimee

[yogamama74]

I hope to not have pubic symphysis separation this time. Pushing thru that pain HURTS more than anything.

I hope my mom isn't upset that I don't want her there

I hope I don't have PPD this time because I won't have much help.