Preterm Delivery Question

[ChristyM26]

I have an appt to see my OB in about 2 weeks, and I know that she'll answer all my questions, but I've been trying to find an answer to one in particular, and I'm hoping somebody will have at least a general idea for me (I understand specifics are probably impossible).

I delivered my twins at 20 weeks (my uterus measured at 30 weeks, roughly). We can't seem to conceive on our own, so we were on clomid, which I'm positive we'll need again. My question is about how long are we going to have to wait before we can try again? My understanding is that with a term delivery, the waiting period can be several months. Obviously, I'm not breastfeeding. I'm mostly just curious as to how long we'll have to wait. Thanks.

[prairiemommy]

Not a birth professional, nor do I have any insight but I couldn't go past without offering some . My heart goes out to you - I'm so sorry for your loss.

[shee_na]

I'm not a birth professional but I had a son at 27 weeks that later passed away. So first let me tell you how terribly sorry I am for the loss of your twins. It's a terrible pain to go through to lose a child/ren.

My son passed in September 06. I never got a reason as to why I delviered so early and was told that physically I'd be ready to concieve after 3 pp AF but mentally it takes much longer. I got pregnant again in December I'm now 31 weeks. I can honestly tell you I've been off of work since 17 weeks d/t contractions and some other problems and my body is run down from being pregnant back to back. Not only physically but emotionally it is very hard. I wanted to be pregnant again right away and achieved it but I should have waited. I have to deal with the pressure of being pregnant and maintaing it and taking care of my unborn son and still mourning for the little boy I miss so much. My due date is 3 days after the anniversary of his death, I'll be full term on his birthday.

It's hard. And while I know your situation is different since you may need some assitance. Please just know that it's not the physical part of getting pregnant again but the emotional toll it takes on you to mourn and be pregnant at the same time. Give yourself a couple months prior to starting. Having a more stable emotional base will help I promise.

Sorry this is so long.
Sheena