controlling emotions

[maisiedotes]

I am PIIISSSSEEEDDD today. Long story but I stuck my neck out for a friend and got burnt, and looked like an A-hole to many people including my boss. I am absolutely seething. I know anger and stress is not good for the baby. I am thinking of taking a prenatal yoga class or putting into practice some yogic breathing... I just feel the effects of the anger in my head (headache) and I have been clenching my teeth. I am not lashing out or anything- I just don't know how to get rid of this anger! Not only about this but just everyday stuff. It is eating away at me....

Any suggestions on how to cope? Thanks!

[Curlita]

Find a friend or spouse and tell them you need to vent, and then retell the whole story loudly and dramatically with plenty of cursing where necessary. That usually works for me. It's childish, but a good tantrum in front of an audience who is willing to humor me does wonders.

[maisiedotes]

I secretly want to kick the guy who I stuck my neck out for right in the kneecaps. Is that bad? I bet that would help me feel better! DH has been very good about listening to my rantings. I wish I could have a beer. *sigh*

[Kontessa]

You sound really upset and I am thinking worried about the no control over what your feeling and thinking. Thats normal I think, and more so when pregnant. I am guessing your embarrised too never mind disappointed in the guy. Grrr

I like the idea of sharing with someone with as much drama as you can muster in the moment to get it all out. I would add that after that you give yourself empathy and build yourself back up with thoughts like "Your a great person, you where trying to help, you had faith, your still trust worthy and reliable. Your pregnant, your angry, and you have every right to be. You know you need to let it go and you will be kind to yourself while you try and do that.

You seem to think Yoga will help, so I think so too. You know you best!


((((hugs))))

[De-lovely]

I find yoga or just meditation in general to be a life saver of EPIC proportions. I am not exaggerating just read one of my entries from my blog. I think concentrated focused breathing is the bomb and I strongly suggest it....venting is good too I think but for me personally nothing compares to even 10 minutes of meditation.

[maisiedotes]

I was a "hour a day" yoga person and felt soooo good- calm, relaxed, and I dealt with stress so much better. My friend is teaching a prenatal yoga class... maybe I should sign up!

Thank you all.

[Isaac'sMa]

Originally Posted by maisiedotes

I secretly want to kick the guy who I stuck my neck out for right in the kneecaps. Is that bad? I bet that would help me feel better!

I bet that *would* make you feel better! But then you'd probably really look like an A-hole

[Googy]

I'm sorry you had such a rough day! : I know for me personally, I never really feel better until I tell the person how they made me feel. Can you talk to this guy about what he did to you? If not, at least treat yourself to a special dessert or something!

[Valerieg]

I think the prenatal yoga and/or meditation would be great...after you dramatically vent to a caring person that is willing to listen. All of the above helps me considerably.

GL! I hope you feel better soon.

[maisiedotes]

Thanks guys! I spoke to him today and I feel so much better. I realized that my being angry is affecting ME and I don't need that. I blurted out how disappointed I was, how betrayed I feel, how lousy I think it is, but that I understand. He felt bad and I felt good getting it all out. I also let him know I will not be sticking my neck out for him again because of this.

Thanks again! I am committing to doing at least 15 minutes of meditation in some form each day. It really helps.

[Ackray]

Try Reiki. It's been a lifesaver for me.

[GinaRae]

CAN you have a beer? I know that some say a bit of wine is okay, especially during labor. What about a half a beer? I always stayed away from wine and beer during my pregnancies. I finally had a small amount of wine (mixed down into a spritzer) and I am okay with it. I figure it wasn't much and it's not every day. I don't know about beer though, haven't read anything...

[Curlita]

In terms of alcohol content, most beers have less than wine. I've have a small glass of beer from time to time while pregnant.

[GinaRae]

Originally Posted by Curlita

In terms of alcohol content, most beers have less than wine. I've have a small glass of beer from time to time while pregnant.

I wonder if our cheap wine mixed with lots of ice and Calistoga mineral water with lime is still more than your beer

[Curlita]

I can't speak for the alcohol content if you're getting all crazy with the ice and mineral water. My point is, if you're someone who is okay with wine during pregnancy, then there isn't any reason that I can think of that beer would be not okay.

I think the perspective on alcohol varies a lot from person to person -- I completely abstained during my first pregnancy, but have been enjoying the occasional half glass of wine or beer from time to time during this pregnancy.

But that's off topic and neither here nor there, since drinking alcohol is probably not the best choice for stress management at any time... though darned tempting.