|Originally posted by HeatherSanders
But then, we did not mean to discuss CIO . . . sorry!
Okay, if I'm the only one that reads this that thinks that the start of this thread was REALLY about diaper pins, then I won't come back to this particular thread ever again. Really. I'll go quietly. Without hard feelings.
But, I'm finding this tough to swallow, so to speak. I feel like I missed something.
When I began reading this thread, I really did think it was about the CIO method. The first post only quotes the mentioning of pins as an example of what parents should check for.
Ugh! This makes it sound like parents can't raise their children WITHOUT all the books by ALL the experts!!! I totally DON'T get this at all.
And if someone reading this gets upset because they use the CIO method, well I mean no personal offense. I have yet to see convincing evidence that it's a healthy tool to use and I would welcome an intelligent discussion on the topic. I'd really be interested in someone's reasoning to use CIO on a regular basis. I personally find the CIO method dis-honoring of a baby's only way for communication and can affect the overall long-term relationship between parent and child. I think that I could be open to hearing from various parents who have used this method and have excellent relationships with their children. Everyone I have ever heard that used this method had continued problems with their kids. Has Ferber methods/CIO really been used long enough to see how it affects parent/child l relationships in the long run?
If we can remain open-minded and refrain from ATTACKING each other, why can't we have a MATURE discussion about this topic?
As one example of mature discussion and live and let live, I personally choose to birth outside a hospital. I have seen, heard and experienced things during my child-bearing years that make me feel that hospital birth is not something I personal need to do. But I have plenty of friends who choose otherwise or are happy to follow the crows. That's fine. I'm personally very GLAD that we have many options and the freedom to make whatever choices we deem best for our family. It's when people make amazing judgmental statements like that I'm "putting my baby at risk" to birth at home or think I'm crazy for not WANTING an epidural, etc., that communication breaks down rapidly. Yes, I realize I am a bit off topic here...my apologies. There are many other threads on this particular subject. I'm just trying to cite an example that it IS possible to discuss something and not wind up flaming and hating each other for the choices one or the other decides to make.
So, how about it? Any CIO users willing to engage in thoughtful debate about this method of child-rearing? I'll gladly start the thread.
p.s. I suppose I'd better search the forums to see if it's been discussed already....