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So what is it about 3 year olds?

post #1 of 33
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I don't have a 3yo YET (DS is 25mos), but I keep hearing how 3yos are SOOOO much more challenging than 2yos.

Tell me what I should be expecting when DS approaches 3!
post #2 of 33
Well....
I agree.

My son is 3.5, and let me tell you, at this age, he can communicate his wants and dislikes, which is a blessing,
BUT he has become SO FREAKIN' PICKY. everything must be done the way he wants it, or the world just falls apart.


I really do love that he is no longer in the baby stage, potty training is far behind us. He has a sense of humor, is silly, and has such a blomming personality.
But the pickiness, the arguing, the questioning of everything, the fact he doean't initiate solo play, and is ...for lack of a better word "up my butt". most of the time.
Two was a lot quieter, lol.
post #3 of 33
hhaha 3 was the WORST for us with ds.. he was very demanding, could voice his opinions very clearly and if you didnt agree, all hell would break loose lolol.. 3 was very very difficult.. 4 is MUCH better.. now he has tantrums where he yells he hates me and stuff like that... but its not as often.. he listens and reasons much better
post #4 of 33
I keep reading those things, too, but I've gotta say...I LOVE this age! My DD is 3 years old and we are having so much fun together! Personally, I found the younger ages much more difficult, but I know every child is different. Maybe mine got it out of her system early. She communicates very well now that she's older, and I can reason with her when she's upset. Tantrums are a thing of the past.

3 years won't necessarily be tough. Enjoy each stage as it comes!
post #5 of 33
I'll second what the last poster said. She's very attitudy. She wants everything her way or there's a fit. It's much harder to get her to comply with what I want. I really have to talk her into it. But, other things are easier. I don't have to keep such an eagle eye on what she's doing. I'm 37 weeks pregnant & need my naps sometimes. I can let her & my 8 year old watch tv or play while I nap and not worry about what she's getting into. We can also communicate better. My oldest daughter has been a breeze since she turned 4, so I'm hoping I only have 6 months left.
post #6 of 33
It's more challenging in different ways. Like every new stage. Some have trouble carrying their babe all the time and can't wait for them to walk. Then when they walk it's a whole new list of challenges.

For me three is more challenging because we are adjusting to DS having more control over himself and his choices. I'm by no means a control freak, but my son doesn't yet have the cognitive skills to deal with not getting his way all the time. A simple, "okay honey, we'll go to the park when you are done with lunch" can send him into a tantrum. He doesn't hear the "yes" in the statement he only hears that there is an obstacle in his way and it's in the form of a grilled cheese sandwich. The hardest part is it's not once in a while. If this kind of thing happened once a week we could all deal so well. It's that this type of fight can happen 20 times in one day on a bad day. And it's exhausting.
post #7 of 33
Some one around here once said,

a 2yo does things that annoy you, whereas a 3yo does things because they annoy you. This always made me laugh.
post #8 of 33
My 3yo is a dream compared to when he was 2. 2 seems to be the hardest age for my boys. Actually more like 18 months to 2 3/4 is the hardest. 3 feels like a breeze after going 18-2 3/4.
post #9 of 33
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Originally Posted by PumpkinSeeds View Post
Some one around here once said,

a 2yo does things that annoy you, whereas a 3yo does things because they annoy you. This always made me laugh.
LOL, my child was precocious! I'm so proud. :

Mine was a terror at 2, and I'm loving 3. Of course, mine was also a terror at one!
post #10 of 33
Opinionated. I think that's the word that best describes my 3 year old. He can go from Zero to Melt Down in .5 seconds because Daddy sat in the wrong chair or you put the red top on the cup and he wanted the blue one. And while we had some of this at two... at three Bear remember exactly what he's screaming about and will not be distracted out of a tantrum by something shiney. I just have to stand back and wait for him to come out of it.
post #11 of 33
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Originally Posted by PumpkinSeeds View Post
Some one around here once said,

a 2yo does things that annoy you, whereas a 3yo does things because they annoy you. This always made me laugh.
Yep, yep, yep...and the guilt trips. Smart little boogers, they are! Instead of my DS throwing a fit when he doesn't get his way, he's been saying with a overdramatic sigh "I guess I don't have a mommy anymore." Where did he come up with that one? :
post #12 of 33
The tantrums. Ds has cried before, of course, but the tantrums just started at 3 1/2. I thought he was laid back... Boy was I wrong. The screaming and crying and "No no no, you're hurting me, help me, HELP ME" I wasn't expecting this and have no idea how to deal with it. Just waiting for him to stop is not an option here in the great state of Texas, I get comments from every 2nd person how he'd stop if I'd just "pop him a good one" or better yet, "whup his ^$%". So when he was two, I could distract him and continue with my shopping, now I have to leave the store which means I can't run errands with him in tow. I'll be glad when he hits 4 and am dreading 3 with my high needs 2 year old. I always heard "terrible twos". So not the case here.
post #13 of 33
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Originally Posted by Ceili View Post
Opinionated. I think that's the word that best describes my 3 year old. He can go from Zero to Melt Down in .5 seconds because Daddy sat in the wrong chair or you put the red top on the cup and he wanted the blue one. And while we had some of this at two... at three Bear remember exactly what he's screaming about and will not be distracted out of a tantrum by something shiney. I just have to stand back and wait for him to come out of it.
yep he's 3. Mine is so very three as well. Then we have these great days, like practically the last week stright, where everything has just been nothing but fun!
post #14 of 33
THANK YOU!!! my 3 1/2 yo is the same way. i love hearing about other crazy kids, it makes me feel so much better. i am not alone, yay!!!
post #15 of 33
so far the 3's have been MUCH better than the 2's for my DS. but then again he's only been 3 for 4 months though. I was so hoping the worst was behind us as DD turns 2 in just a month!!!
post #16 of 33
terrible 2s, HORRIBLE 3s in this house.
I'm just tired....:
post #17 of 33
man, from dinner to bedtime my 3yo ds made me : i had to chase him as he ran off naked after his bath. and he had a bazillion requests at bedtime. kept getting out of bed. whining about random things.

tomorrow i will have more patience. we have been under a lot of stress lately. i didn't yell or spank, but gave a ton of threats (yuck!) and probably escalated bedtime instead of calming him. the guilt is just :
post #18 of 33
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Originally Posted by Ceili View Post
at three Bear remember exactly what he's screaming about and will not be distracted out of a tantrum by something shiney.

laughup



Am I the only one who has a 3yo that is almost non-verbal? I mean he talks but we can't understand him. That is hard. He knows what he wants and we don't understand when he tries to tell us.
post #19 of 33
I often tell my husband "They warned us about the terrible 2's but no one tells you about the 3's because you'd strangle them while they were still 2 if you truely knew about them.".... Yeah, they are oppinionated, dramatic, strong-willed, unaware of personal space, foget NOTHING and apparently hard of hearing! I loved the 2's... he was an angel. Now... not so much. There are days where I just want to lock myself in a padded room by the end of the day.

As long as you never put a 3 year old off, tell him NOT to do something, promise him something you later find out you can not do or ask them to NOT climb all over you, you'll be fine! LOL!
post #20 of 33
ITA with the others. It's the bossiness and pickiness, combined with the ability to be totally happy one second and he next second have a total meltdown over something that just a second ago, he was happy about. The verbal ability to YELL that he doesn't like/want to do something and go on and on about it. I feel like my 3.5 yr old son acts really irrational right now. He just flies off the handle over the oddest things in a split second. Things that he has always liked, sometimes just freak him out now... basically he's very unpredictable and it seems that the weirdest things offend him. Sometimes I feel like he's a tyrant, and the whole family has to cater to his moods. My almost 2 yr old is already really intense... I'm really dreading the 3's with him, b/c my oldest one is actually the more mellow of the two and I would never have expected him to be the way he is right now.
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