Ex's SIL washed DS's mouth out with soap! - Page 3

[Vypros]

Originally Posted by cycle

I find this repulsive - spanking a 3 year old is abuse, hitting any child is abuse. But hey, you get a because you are only spanking the 3 year old at this point. Hopefully you will come to realize that this is abuse before your baby becomes of spanking age.

I really don't live my life to please others. I raise my kids in what I feel is the best interest for them. I'm sorry you have this viewpoint, but I really didn't mention it so that 30 people could come at me and the thread would get locked/reviewed. I brought it up to show the bigger point I was trying to make: different parents have different styles. Not everyone shares your viewpoints on parenting, and there is little you can LEGALLY do to control it.

[Vypros]

Originally Posted by Natural Mommy*J

Do you think you're being cute? That is AWFUL that you spank your 3 year old. I agree with pp. Maybe you should rethink your place here.

Heh, just because I disagree with a few things, doesn't mean I'm not gaining perspective here.

As brash and loud mouthed as I have been about my points, I AM learning a lot by being here. I signed up to gain a new perspective, and this place really has taught me a new perspective. No, I don't agree with a lot of the stuff here and I try to keep my mouth shut about a lot of it, but this has been a good experience for me. A good learning experience.

[cycle]

Originally Posted by Vypros

I really don't live my life to please others. I raise my kids in what I feel is the best interest for them. I'm sorry you have this viewpoint, but I really didn't mention it so that 30 people could come at me and the thread would get locked/reviewed. I brought it up to show the bigger point I was trying to make: different parents have different styles. Not everyone shares your viewpoints on parenting, and there is little you can LEGALLY do to control it.

You are in a place that DOES NOT SUPPORT SPANKING. I beg to differ that there is nothing I can legally do to control someone abusing my child.

[Vypros]

Originally Posted by cycle

You are in a place that DOES NOT SUPPORT SPANKING. I beg to differ that there is nothing I can legally do to control someone abusing my child.

I'm not arguing FOR spanking either. I made an off the cuff comment and since then, that's all anybody has been focused on, thereby completely missing the point I was trying to raise.

And legally you couldn't stop anybody from spanking their child. A lot of states actually allow it legally. And that's what I was saying. LEGALLY you can't enforce your parenting views on the NC parent, unless LEGALLY they are breaking the law.

[Vypros]

In any case, if you want to have this debate, I suggest PMing me so that this thread doesn't end up locked.

[cycle]

Not interested.

[Vypros]

Cool beans.

[rayo de sol]

[QUOTE=Jilian;8590484His dad took him up north to visit family during this time (with my permission) and while he was up there he left DS with his SIL. I think this girl is fairly young, maybe young 20's. DS said a bad word and she washed his mouth out with soap WTF?! DS told me and ex confirmed it. He said he talked to her about it. I had to try hard to keep my cool.[/QUOTE]

File a report with CPS. That sort of abuse should not go unreported--and the people who would commit such atrocities should not go on thinking that it's the right thing to do.

If you don't know her name, ask your ex for her name. Or just give CPS your ex's name, and they can ask him for his SIL's name.

[SillyLilStinkweed]

I am so sorry this has happened to your child!!

Doesn't matter if you think it'd right or wrong. No one is suppose to make the decision with someone else's child. I'd press charges if you can. If they allow parents to spank in your state, maybe she's not protected, because she's not a parent.

I used to live in NC, and a lot of people there think it's okay. It seemed like a different planet compared to CO. One time I saw a child being spanked in a store while the mother and child were walking across the cross walk going into the store.

Pain, fear and humiliation I guess will get a child to do what you want, but come on..... is that really how you wanna raise a child, emotionally and psychologically? I like the punishment to fit the crime. My son's smart and his punishments are learning experiences.