Originally Posted by alisaparrent
now that I'm pregnant I just don't want to. Anyone else feel this way? Maybe out of fear?
You know, with my first PG, i had not intended to do an u/s at all, then I started bleeding and freaked out, and we decided to get an u/s for reassurance. And it was very reassuring. We saw the little baby, the little tiny heartbeat was detected, the HcG levels were going up, it was VERY reassuring and I was able to relax and not be so stressed out. i think it was a healthy decision.
Second PG, I had decided not to have an u/s no matter what. Then I started bleeding. Heavily. Our midwife mentioned we could have an u/s if we wanted, but that all it would do is make us feel better, it wouldn't provide any actual benefit. I decided I needed to feel better, but the u/s was inconclusive, and all it did was make me MORE stressed out for two or three days until I actually passed the baby.
So this PG, we have been very firm that, no matter what, no tests. Because the fact is - the tests don't change anything. We have come to terms with the fact that there is NOTHING we can do, it is out of our hands. We are placing reliance on God for comfort and peace, regardless of what happens, and trying to turn the worry over to Him.
In the meantime, I'm also running to the bathroom every hour or so to check my undies for blood.
jillybeans - I totally understand your inability to go into the other thread. I have two friends - one close, one not so close - who are BOTH due within a week of when I was due with the one I lost. It's hard not to think about what could have been when I'm with them. The one I'm close to knows about the loss, and she's very kind and doesn't dwell on discussions of her pregnancy when she senses it's bothering me.