Anyone else terrified something will go wrong?

[Kim&Brooke]

I remember being scared I would miscarry last time, but its nothing compared to this. I am TERRIFIED that something will go wrong. We went through so much to get this baby and i am just petrified that something will happen.

Kim isnt helping really! She doesnt want to tell anyone until 12 weeks "in case something goes wrong" she doesnt want to jinx it by getting too excited about it. I, on the other hand, want to tell everyone I've ever met!!! But then I worry that something WILL go wrong...oh its just a viscious circle!

*sigh* I guess I just want to hear that I am not the only one who thinks about this all the time....

[Jes'sBeth]

We were TERRIFIED the last time (after 2 miscarriages). It is so time consuming and expensive and emotionally exhausting to conceive in non-traditional ways : and there's so much at stake if there's a miscarriage. In fact, there was a part of me that didn't believe we'd come through the pregnancy and birth at all the last time. I had this doubt that we'd come through the birth with a live, healthy baby. This whole having kids thing is just one big worry!

And we did have a healthy, live baby (who took a LONG time to get to sleep tonight) You can do it!

(and as to telling... there are advantages to telling everyone as well as advantages to telling nobody)

[jillybeans]

Yes. Completely terrified to the core. We have so much trouble conceiving, and then we lost two babies in five months. Now this pregnancy is having low progesterone issues again, and I'm scared out of my mind that we'll lose it too. This is my fourth pregnancy, and I have one living baby and three angels already(one was dd's twin)

[cherona]

This is on my mind constantly. I hate to admit it, but every time I go pee I check for spotting and then berate myself for being so negative.

I wish it didn't have to be this way. Why can't we just enjoy it?

[Kim&Brooke]

Im so glad im not the only one going out of my mind here!!!

I think I am just getting freaked out seeing people on the boards I post on miscarrying - it makes me scared that Im not doing enough...not that there is much i can really do to prevent it! :

As to why cant we just enjoy it...I think in a few weeks I will settle down a bit and be able to enjoy it - its while its all so new and anything can happen that i am scared.

I look forward to the day where I can just bask in being pregnant!

[KatherineNaomi]

I get worried about this pregnancy too. In my case it's because I've had 3 healthy pregnancies which resulted in 3 healthy babies. I almost feel as though I'm due to have problems KWIM? Also, this one was unexpected and after the initial shock we're thrilled to be having another baby. But if we lost it we're left with the decision to just be done or ttc.

One of the things that has been reassuring is that with each of my other pregnancies the ultrasound gave us something scary to worry about (low amniotic fluid, choroid plexus cysts, possible down's syndrome) and they all turned out to be nothing. And all that worrying that we did wasn't necessary. So I keep telling myself that I'm not going to waste my energy worrying about the what ifs and enjoy this pregnancy unless I actually have concrete evidence that there is a reason to worry.

[jillybeans]

Originally Posted by Kim&Brooke

As to why cant we just enjoy it...I think in a few weeks I will settle down a bit and be able to enjoy it - its while its all so new and anything can happen that i am scared.

I'm the opposite. Not too worried yet, but I will be around the 8-11 week mark. With Riley,we saw his hb at both 6 and 7 weeks. Docs told us everything was perfect. He still didn't make it. So that will be the hard part. We're getting an extra scan at 10-11 weeks just for peace of mind. After three lost babies, I just need it.

[pinkorchid2]

Yes, I'm really scared, but I don't want to create a self-fulfilling prophesy so I figure it's best to just jump right in and risk getting my heart broken.

[Bella Mia]

I'm worried too . . . hate to admit it, but it's true .

KatherineNaomi: My beautiful dd had choroid plexus cysts and it was the most gut-wrenching news at the time - especially because there wasn't anything we could do about it, yk? But turns out she was perfectly normal and no issues at all!

[lawyermom]

Kim & Brooke, you obviously went through a lot to conceive this baby - I hope you can enjoy your success!

Yes, I worry. I've had much less nausea this time than my previous two pregnancies and I have heard nausea is a good sign for a pregnancy continuing. I worry that I'm not throwing up (now that's crazy! )

But I try to take comfort in the following:

- most miscarriages happen by week 9 (and I'm in week 7 - only two more weeks to go!)
- most miscarriages are totally non-preventable (genetic causes, etc) so there's really nothing I can do.

Having lost a full-term baby, I also know that as mothers we are always vulnerable to loss. After birth, our hearts walk outside our bodies. Crazy things happen. This is just the first stage on a long journey and if we start worrying now, we'll never stop.

[beckyand3littlemonsters]

Yes i'm terrified, its almost 1yr since i had mc, so yes i am very scared although i have told anyone who will listen that i'm pregnant i'm not very good at keeping this sought of news to myself for long

[FoxintheSnow]

Yes I am! Ive been having this low down side pain so Im all terrified its ectopic. I know its really really rare, but I can help but worry. The pain isnt severe and its close to my hip, so maybe its muscular. I used to get the same pain when I was ovulating so I dont know if thats just what my muscles do when my reproductive system is at work. I hope so. Ive already been checked for ovarian cysts (prepregnancy) and I dont have them.

I also check for blood at every bathroom check! (and thats a lot cause Im peeing like crazy)

[Fish Face]

I am scared because of the things I did while I was pregnant, not knowing I was pregnant. Okay, the dr. told me not to worry, but it's still in the back of my mind. My nutrition was AWFUL (read: I wasn't eating because I was depressed over my breakup). I cried daily. One night, I went out drinking with friends....this would've been about the 3rd week after I conceived. I just hope that my poor decisions don't affect my baby.

[jillybeans]

jokerama: I had that with my last pregnancy, was worried to death. But it wasn't ectopic. It was an awful pain though.

[AislinCarys]

Originally Posted by Fish Face

I am scared because of the things I did while I was pregnant, not knowing I was pregnant. Okay, the dr. told me not to worry, but it's still in the back of my mind. My nutrition was AWFUL (read: I wasn't eating because I was depressed over my breakup). I cried daily. One night, I went out drinking with friends....this would've been about the 3rd week after I conceived. I just hope that my poor decisions don't affect my baby.

Fish Face, I'm extremely worried about doing everything right for my baby, and have been from before we started trying (ironically I can hardly eat now, due to nausea, so I'm not doing too well!) Anyway, my naturopath told me the most important thing was that I stopped worrying and started relaxing - it doesn't really matter in the end! She told me about when she first got pregnant (her son is a strapping teenager, who's doing really well in High School!). She was very young, not into healthy living as she is now, and she did not now she was pregnant until 8 weeks (as she had been through some hard times and hadn't had her period for a while). She was drinking and smoking a lot until she found out. Her baby was perfect! And yours probably will be too!

[perstephone]

With my last pregnancy- via ivf- yep, petrified. It eased up after we heard the heartbeat via doppler, and I was feeling pretty secure after the second tri started. It's hard not to worry, I know. It does get better, though, it just takes some time (but I'm not very patient).

stephanie