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16 yr old and moving  

post #1 of 7
7/11/07 at 10:03pm
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the couple I am helping move is having SERIOUS issues with their 16 yr old daughter. They bought their parents house when the parents passed away. It is NEXT door to their old house. They have remodeled and gave each daughter a sum of money to fix up their new rooms anyway they want. The, just turned, 16 yr old refuses to move any of her stuff, or decorate her room, or really even accept she is moving. Right now the old house is still full of stuff for Goodwill, sale, etc and she refuses to leave. The 15 yr old daughter has her room move in ready. They have been remodeling for a year so this wasn't sprung on her. It is a nice home and she had a nice sum of cash to make her room nice. How would you guys handle it? She gets very angry and really stubborn anytime her parents try and talk with her. Its to the point she's doing in out of spite and to "get under their skin".
post #2 of 7
7/11/07 at 11:32pm
Mayybe she is mourning the loss of her grandparents and moving into their home makes their deaths very real for her?
post #3 of 7
7/11/07 at 11:33pm
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Originally Posted by Arduinna View Post
Mayybe she is mourning the loss of her grandparents and moving into their home makes their deaths very real for her?
Exactly what I was thinking.
post #4 of 7
7/11/07 at 11:35pm
I can't imagine how hard that must be. I mean to move into their home where I'm sure she has tons of memories of spending time with them but now they are making it their home. Maybe they should see about some grief counseling for her?
post #5 of 7
7/11/07 at 11:40pm
Not only is she moving from HER house, her room, she's moving into THEIR house, and someone else's room. Try having the mom just talk to her about it, gently. Counseling might be needed if that doesn't work.
post #6 of 7
7/11/07 at 11:47pm
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Her grandfather died 5 yrs ago and grandmother 2 yrs ago but had lived elsewhere a yr prior. Her mom encouraged her to go to counseling and the girl told her "take yourself to couseling you need it not me. If you make me go I won't say a word". Her mom and dad are simply at a loss of what to do.
post #7 of 7
7/12/07 at 12:59am
Merged TAO thread with this one...

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