Is this name really all that terrible?? - Page 3

[GinaRae]

No matter what name you have, people pick on it. I am Gina Rae and people turned it around and changed sounds to Ginna Rea (like gonorrhea). I can't even count the hurtful knicknames.

I think that the bite in the post about the bathroom cleanser was way more than necessary. This type of stuff is said elsewhere on MDC and other boards, but we have found a great little safe haven in our DDC and we want to keep it that way.

[sarabug]

Originally Posted by Meg Murry.

Listen, if she wanted "support only," then there is that option. She was asking, "Is this name really that horrible?" and further asked, "So I am going to ask you ladies for an honest opinion. Is that a terrible name??"

If you do not want an honest opinion, please do not ask for an honest opinion. In my honest opinion, I think the combination is terrible. "River" isn't bad by itself. The combination, to me, does make it sound like a cleaning product.

Bear in mind that despite the commentary about, "It's YOUR child, YOUR decision," that child will have to live in the world and deal with the reactions of other people -- other people whose opinions will make a difference about whether they get a date, get a job, get elected, and so on. OBVIOUSLY, these opinions should not be the be-all, end-all determiners of what one names one's child, but they are significant because they will have an effect on the way in which one's child is treated by other people and how one's child is perceived. Though one may choose at this point to rail against the unfairness of the world and how it's "not fair for people to judge you" based on your name, it doesn't stop the fact that people will do so.

I would be happy to give an honest positive opinion if only positive opinions were requested, but I think this country has ample evidence of what happens when we're surrounded only by opinions that agree with our own.

Good luck on your decision and I hope you find a name that pleases you.

I do want honest opinions, however the toilet cleaner was uncalled for. There are lots of names that I do not like. However, asked I'd say "Not a fan of that name" but I would never say that name makes me think of a 500lb ugly lady! I understand that we are all pregnant women with raging hormones, but to say that a name I really like and will most likely name my child sound like a cleanser is just MEAN and hurtful.

[wwisdomskr]

Originally Posted by Meg Murry.

Listen, if she wanted "support only," then there is that option. She was asking, "Is this name really that horrible?" and further asked, "So I am going to ask you ladies for an honest opinion. Is that a terrible name??"

If you do not want an honest opinion, please do not ask for an honest opinion. In my honest opinion, I think the combination is terrible. "River" isn't bad by itself. The combination, to me, does make it sound like a cleaning product.

Oh, Mama. Do you really believe this? I think that on the internet, it's much easier to behave in ways that we would never behave in real life. We can always be honest without being hurtful. It's a choice. Truly.

I can tell someone that her outfit doesn't complement her best features...without saying she looks like a beached and harpooned whale.

Now, I am the Queen of sticking my foot in my mouth and often being unintentionally hurtful... But, honestly now, comparing a baby name to a toilet cleaning product... There's no way one could imagine that this would not be hurtful.

I hear you about baby names being important and about giving people access to them. Dh and I don't share baby names until birth...it's a very personal and spiritual process for us. We have still received some "input" from tasteless people, but it doesn't really matter to us. But, other parents asking for input prior to their final selection is not the same as asking for disparaging insult.

Oh, and for the record, I've never not dated or hired or elected someone because of their name. IMO, that would be a symptom of being encouraged to think that my opinion about such things matters more than necessary...rather than considering and opening my mind to much more meaningful and challenging things that actually effect my life and the lives of those around me...

[De-lovely]

I like it. I dont often hear people call themselves by theri full name nor does it matter what people think IMO. I named my daughter Elena Dru and people hated both Elena AND Dru and the spelling of Dru... I think she will grow to be confident and feel good about her name because its something her father and I chose for her and felt connected to. Its who she is. I think you will be giving River the same. Hugs to you mama.

[rebelbets]

Originally Posted by sarabug

I do want honest opinions, however the toilet cleaner was uncalled for. There are lots of names that I do not like. However, asked I'd say "Not a fan of that name" but I would never say that name makes me think of a 500lb ugly lady! I understand that we are all pregnant women with raging hormones, but to say that a name I really like and will most likely name my child sound like a cleanser is just MEAN and hurtful.

Really? It's mean? Maybe I just have a thicker skin after hanging around some baby name message boards (you should see the name-bashing that goes on there!), but you did ask for honest opinions, and she provided one. To ask for "honesty" and then follow up with, "But that was MEAN!" doesn't really make much sense. She honestly thinks it sounds like a cleaning product. Just her opinion - no big deal.

I am personally not a fan of the name, although I've heard much worse. I agree with the other posters who suggested you pair River with a more classic name to balance it out.

[GinaRae]

But this isn't just another board. This is our DDC and the majority want respect and civility along with honesty. There's honest and then there's just mean in the name of honesty. I don't go around being mean and then playing innocent because gosh darnit, I am honest.

[shelley4]

i personally love the name!

[yogachick79]

Yowch! I think that sometimes people don't realize how harsh they can come off... Sorry mama. I think it's a very pretty name, but I got a lot of flack for naming my daughter Deja. First thing out of everyone's mouths is "like deja vous?" Yup, just like that Eh, you get over the comments eventually. If you love the name, I say go for it

[Grace24]

I like it!

Moms can say horrible things...they have no filter. Yesterday I told my mom the name we had planned for our son...Oliver. She was silent. Then she said, "Isn't that the name of a musical?" I said, "No, mom, we're not naming him Oliver Twist."

It's a nice name. Stay with it if it's what you want.