"Well I wouldn't want a December baby"

[GinaRae]

Boy, I am all full of venim lately, huh? Miss Zen herself has plunged to the depths of pregnancy orneriness!

I was complaining about my MIL in the Evil this way comes post (maybe post #12 or #13?) and something else she said last night came to mind.

She asked me (again) when I am due.

ME: "Early December."
HER: "Early December??"
ME: "Early December. Or late November, but counting on December."
HER: "Well, I wouldn't want December!"
ME: "Why?"
HER: " Too close to CHRISTMAS."
ME: "Well, I prefer early December so baby is between Thanksgiving and Christmas."

So the exchange in normal life wouldn't be so bad as I let things just fall off me usually, but I am preggers and was SO ornery. I wanted to tell her to shut her pie hole.

She was saying it like I was stupid to plan a birth in December. Like I'd done that on purpose, just to cause her problems. Like I can control when the baby will be born.

She has never once said anything good about the pregnancy at all, and only last night said she was glad I was feeling better BUT she's never had a kind word about the baby.

This is her only son's second child and with his first, we were 3,000 miles away and she never met him until he was almost 5 years old! You would THINK she would be over the moon to be here for this.

[chrysalis]

wow...what a thing to say. screw THAT! oh and don't get ME started on my fiance...he REALLLLLY pissed me off last night. i'll maybe post a thread later when i feel like typing more. jerk off.

[Isaac'sMa]

If it were me I probably would have said something super-snarky like "Well, you know I planned it this way just to annoy you..."

Whatever. I think fall/winter is a great time to be born, but then my birthday is Nov. 22 (which this year IS Thanksgiving!) I like having my b-day near a holiday!

[*Lindsey*]

Argh. I don't get why the general population thinks they can comment on our pregnancies, etc. anyway. :

[Sheal]

Well then, tell her thanks from me in the most sarcastic of ways...my oldest DS was born dec 12 - 3 months premature. I didn't plan it that way did I. Sheesh, what the heck is wrong with some people...:

[mittendrin]

Originally Posted by Isaac'sMa

If it were me I probably would have said something super-snarky like "Well, you know I planned it this way just to annoy you..."

Something like that from me too. She's way out of line. Sounds like she's pissed cause you didn't get her opinion on the timeframe before you MADE the baby. Do me a favor: If that conversation comes up again show her this thread...WOMAN: IT"S NONE OF YOU BUSINESS WORRYING ABOUT THE CHILD'S B-DAY. GO OUT AND BUY SOME CUTE OUTFITS AND SHUT UP - THAT'S YOUR JOB!!!!


Sorry guys, but anything negative related to MIL's gets me thru the roof lately... I have seen mine once in 7 years, which is just enough and am freaking out at the thought of having her here in Dec. So is dh btw

[GinaRae]

All the negativity around having babies just IRKS me! My one grandma who would have been SO hapopy died last December. The rest of them, and my dad, MIL and other parents in our community all act like a fourth child is HORRIFIC. In fact, my MIL, dad and grandparents have never been happy when they have heard of ANY of the pregnancies. Thank goodness my dad gets over it, but it just seems so unecessary.

[mcs]

my b-day is december 18th and i love it! i don't care that it is close to christmas- it is my birthday- pretty big event in my life! my mom was always real sweet about it as her birthday is just a few days after christmas- but if it were sooo bad for her, i think she would have planned "better" for me.

mother-in-laws! i am happy to report that mine is in germany. lol.

[Momma Aimee]

This is her only son's second child and with his first, we were 3,000 miles away and she never met him until he was almost 5 years old! You would THINK she would be over the moon to be here for this.

there is no logic in MIL ... mine told DH we shuld not have gotten pregant again.....let me start over, asked if it was an accident ... then told him we should not have gotten pregant again.....THEN said "well it won't be as good or cute as Theo" uhhhhhhhh she never comes to see Theo -- 4 hours -- and doesn't want to do anything with him, or go anywehre for him when we go there, she never calls to ask about him, never ever sends him a card or gift..............now she acts like we are doing him a dis-service by having a sib????

ANY baby, any time is a blessing and a reason for rejoiceing............

and

i'd rather a winter baby than a AUG baby ---- just cuz i am hot enough NOW at week 23 in July ......

[Kontessa]

Originally Posted by mcs

my b-day is december 18th and i love it! i don't care that it is close to christmas- it is my birthday- pretty big event in my life! my mom was always real sweet about it as her birthday is just a few days after christmas- but if it were sooo bad for her, i think she would have planned "better" for me.

mother-in-laws! i am happy to report that mine is in germany. lol.

My birthday is Dec 18th as well and though it has often been forgotten, I love that time of year, specially in New England. I love the birth stone. It is me. I was gift to the world in a time when people are thinking about gifts. I love the snow, the twinkle, the lights, those are very much like me. It just fits.

When ever baby is born, I am sure it will be special.

Blessings,
Kimmy

[Curlita]

Oh, this sounds so familiar!

My MIL's reaction to the news that Dylan would be born in October:
Her: So he'll be a late grader.
Me: A who?
Her: A late grader. He'll be older than all his classmates.
Me: My sister was born in October and she was younger than all her classmates.
Her: Oh, they won't let you do that anymore. That's okay. At your age, you should be happy with any month I get.

She's telling me this on my 33rd birthday. Guess how old she was when my husband was born?


Wait for it.


33.

I was pissed for WEEKS.

[artgoddess]

not in your DDC but wanted to share your frustration. I'm due in 6 weeks. And I kid you not 3 different women at church on Sunday said things to me like "No one would ever have a child on purpose in the summer." I was like, "Um, yeah, I'm doing it." By the third woman I was so tempted to be brutally honest and tell them, "Well you are right DP and I wanted a fall baby, but one afternoon in late November our older DS took an out of character nap, so DP and I got it on on the living room couch. We didn't want to wake DS so we went bareback, figuring that next month we were going to try to get pregnant anyway. We got pregnant a month early because of it. Doesn't my man have the greatest sperm?"

[StacieM]

Oh goodness...didn't people learn that if they didn't have anything nice to say to keep their mouth shut?

Personally, I like early Dec birthdays (mine is the 3rd) and in my experience, it's NOT too close to Christmas. My son was due Nov. 30 and came on the 2nd of December....I wouldn't change a thing.

[sorteep]

OHHHH how many times have I heard that !! (dec 1st and dec 21st here!) it is CRAP.... babies come when they are sent to us , and it is at the perfect time... God occasionally lets us think we are running the show, but we know the truth! !!!! sorry she is being cranky.. hugs

[gloobella]

Originally Posted by artgoddess

not in your DDC but wanted to share your frustration. I'm due in 6 weeks. And I kid you not 3 different women at church on Sunday said things to me like "No one would ever have a child on purpose in the summer." I was like, "Um, yeah, I'm doing it." By the third woman I was so tempted to be brutally honest and tell them, "Well you are right DP and I wanted a fall baby, but one afternoon in late November our older DS took an out of character nap, so DP and I got it on on the living room couch. We didn't want to wake DS so we went bareback, figuring that next month we were going to try to get pregnant anyway. We got pregnant a month early because of it. Doesn't my man have the greatest sperm?"

Oh too funny. You would have some jaw dropping if you say that. People are very nosy when it comes to pregnancies.

[sorteep]

Originally Posted by Isaac'sMa

Whatever. I think fall/winter is a great time to be born, but then my birthday is Nov. 22 (which this year IS Thanksgiving!) I like having my b-day near a holiday!

jeeeezzz girly, if we come up with one more parallel between us!! my bday is nov 25th!!! (you just caught Sag?? or scorp ??) hope you are well! (I'm still ooking for a fill in.. know anyone!!!!!???

[Curlita]

Originally Posted by artgoddess

By the third woman I was so tempted to be brutally honest and tell them, "Well you are right DP and I wanted a fall baby, but one afternoon in late November our older DS took an out of character nap, so DP and I got it on on the living room couch. We didn't want to wake DS so we went bareback, figuring that next month we were going to try to get pregnant anyway. We got pregnant a month early because of it. Doesn't my man have the greatest sperm?"

[GinaRae]

I wonder if all the negativity is MIL's way of making small talk, but she doesn't know how to do so without being negative. When she heard we were pregnant, she said, "OH GAWWWD. Now I have to buy some hair dye. All these grays."

Something like that. Hubby and I call her Eyeore (after the Pooh character.. Oh woe is me all the time). Geez woman, you're in your sixties, figure out how to be nice!

Originally Posted by artgoddess

I was so tempted to be brutally honest and tell them, "Well you are right DP and I wanted a fall baby, but one afternoon in late November our older DS took an out of character nap, so DP and I got it on on the living room couch. We didn't want to wake DS so we went bareback, figuring that next month we were going to try to get pregnant anyway. We got pregnant a month early because of it. Doesn't my man have the greatest sperm?"

LOVE IT!!

[brooklyn_warbler]

Originally Posted by artgoddess

not in your DDC but wanted to share your frustration. I'm due in 6 weeks. And I kid you not 3 different women at church on Sunday said things to me like "No one would ever have a child on purpose in the summer." I was like, "Um, yeah, I'm doing it." By the third woman I was so tempted to be brutally honest and tell them, "Well you are right DP and I wanted a fall baby, but one afternoon in late November our older DS took an out of character nap, so DP and I got it on on the living room couch. We didn't want to wake DS so we went bareback, figuring that next month we were going to try to get pregnant anyway. We got pregnant a month early because of it. Doesn't my man have the greatest sperm?"

best ever!

[Googy]

Well, my DD was born on December 30th, and she is happy and sweet and wonderful! So I guess I'm biased. I think I would tell her that you are happy to have your fabulous baby and time he/she decides to come, and that you will make the birthday a wonderful occassion whenever it happens to fall among the holiday calendar. Except I would phrase it a lot less nicely...