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post #21 of 29
I have been following your story as well and it gives me even more encouragement to follow my heart and instincts. We're not getting an ultrasound at all as we don't want to jeopardize our homebirth with some false positive or a fatal defect (so we could grieve at home). But we assume all is well and if it isn't, we will handle it. It sounds simplistic, but I too think Evan lived because he never needed to cry.
post #22 of 29
Jilian I totally believe your theory! My dd was also born with a chd (not nearly as serious--she had a medium VSD), at home. We didn't get an ultrasound even though I had originally planned to. At the last minute I just felt wrong about it and called and cancelled the appt. Later on, about 34 weeks, the mw heard a couple irregular hbs with the doppler, but I told her I wanted to think about it before deciding if we should do more screening. I called my mom and she said I'd had something similar so I opted to not do more screening. I was upset though...I felt something was "off" and I really wanted to know what. I kind of prayed and meditated about it and I asked the baby "what will I do if you're not ok? What if you don't make it?" And this little voice inside me says "You'll be ok, mama. I have a problem with my heart, but I am fine." I was shocked and didn't tell anyone, fearing most of all that it might be true, but also that I might be losing my mind to paranoia...

Well she was born at home, had apgars of 7 and 9. Everyone was concerned about her color (very dark, not blue but like a deep tan--I thought it was from my NA heritage) and her fast breathing, but she usually was just under the cut off for tachypnea so we stayed home. I was so worried about her breathing and brief apnea spells I sat up with her the entire first night and second night. On day 3 she started having retractions, the murmur was more pronounced, and the blue spells were more noticable (for one thing, I didn't know from newborns...I thought they all were funky shades of purple brown.) So we took her to the ER.

In the ER tons of doctors were swarming around and before the cardiologist got there, one dude wanted to prep her for surgery. They threw out about 39 different diagnoses before he got in there with the echo and made the definitive one. Even in the brief time she was in the NICU her condition improved and the hole in her heart actually got smaller. I have no way of KNOWING this is true but I feel instinctually pretty certain that if I had had a hospital birth I would have been induced before 40 weeks, she would have been a lot smaller and weaker, the hole in her heart would have been a lot more serious, and she would have had a much harder time stabilizing. And, I strongly suspect there was a good chance she would have been subjected to life-threatening surgery prematurely.

As it was she was able to heal without surgery, and so quickly the cardiologist about fell over when we went in for the follow up.

I really think homebirth can be a lifesaver. I totally believe it.

to you and little Evan.
post #23 of 29
Wow - I think it's just AMAZING. Congratulations to you all and so much love for your wonderful, caring midwife.
post #24 of 29
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I had a level 2 u/s @ 20 weeks to make sure everything was ok with the baby and there was no medical reason that we needed to give birth in the hospital and we got the ok. DS was born at 40 weeks, 1 day and weighed 6 lbs 4 ozs at a beautiful homebirth. I am 100% positive of my conception date (was charting for 7 mos). DS had a tiny bit of trouble pinking up but got a little oxygen then was fine.

At around 2 weeks old he had a cough that was getting worse and seemed warm to me. He also had brief periods of fast breathing but they didn't worry me much. I expressed my concerns to my MW via e-mail and she said she was in the area so she'd stop by. She did and DS was breathing @ 96 and his heartrate was around 200. She told us we needed to go to the ER for an evaluation right away.

We went and they were morons, they were gonna send us home despite us insisting that something was off. DH called the MW and she told us not to leave and she'd be right there. She came, and soon it was found that DS was in distress. After all sorts of BS DS was transferred to All Children's and received emergency open-heart surgery very shortly after. He had an undetected congenital heart defect (TAPVR).

MY MW went above and beyond her duty as a MW. I don't think any hospital MW would go to those kinds of lengths to help a patient. She stayed with me the whole time we were at the ER (almost 12 hours) and she helped us to communicate with the staff and to understand what was going on. I FIRMLY believe that DS needed to be born at home so he could gain weight and prepare for the huge battle he was about to face. If the defect had been detected and he had been born in the hospital it would have been via c-section (likely at 37 weeks) and he probably would have only been 5 lbs or so. He also would not have gotten any breastmilk to build his immune system. He was up to 6 lbs 12 ozs by the time he went for surgery.

DS also got to learn what it was like to be loved and cuddled and we think that gave him something to fight for. He was nursing just 7 days after his surgery and home by day 10. The cardiologists say they've never seen a baby recover from that defect so quickly. Now DS is doing awesome and has a structurally normal heart. I'm happy with the way things worked out and happy that the defect was not detected at the u/s.

HB and my HB MW saved DS's life

What a great story- Im so glad your lil one is doing okay now!
post #25 of 29
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Wow. Just. Wow.

Thank you for sharing.
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What an incredible story ~ just another reason to have our babies at home! Glad you stuck to your instincts even when the hospital was trying to send you home. Too bad Dr's don't really listen to us momma's sometimes!

Give your lil' one a great big hug!

Dana
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post #27 of 29
Thank you for sharing your story! It sounds like anothere case where homebirth was the best choice even when there were medical problems. I'm so glad your baby has had such a wonderful start to life.

Kiley
post #28 of 29
It's not often that I hear of congenital complications being better off at home, and I am thrilled to hear of all of these stories. : I would think most non-home birthers would fear some of these most of all, and yet I totally see how a gentle birth and the very best of love and connection with mama can make a world of difference.

I am so glad your little one is healing up now and doing so well!
post #29 of 29
Amazing story! Glad your little one is doing so well.
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