The problem is that "the team" is all of these doctors and CNMs telling you that IF YOU DONT DO THIS YOUR BABY WILL DIE which is scary, very very scary. But they are not always being honest. You need to do your own research and come to your conclusions, and hospital "policy" be damned.
I have spent a good 6 months researching birth in regards to MY specific body type/conditions (vbac, history of high bp, etc) and if something went wrong that I did not understand, I would go with their advice, but if I know dang well that a cesarean or internal monitoring or constant monitoring is not right for me, I'm not going to have it. I don't really care what the policy is.
As for the suggestion that "if you dont like it go somewhere else" I think its great that you have that option, but not every pregnant woman has that option. I interviewed EVERY SINGLE OB AND CNM in my health care plan (blue cross and blue shield) it was about 12 practices as well as touring every hospital that was within an hour drive of me (3 hospitals to be exact) and in all of that, my last pregnancy, I was told over and over again that I was not able to have a VBAC. (my records were destroyed and therefor they had no documentation on the incision type even though the probability was that my incision was the one they feel is "right") I had so many doors slammed in my face, but I kept pushing and pushing. I even read the patient rights, spoke with hospital administrators, got very involved in ICAN and tried to learn what I could from them (think I even spoke with Katie a few times
when I was collecting information about my rights and legal options) You know what I learned from all of that? That not a single doctor in TWO COUNTIES would touch me and no hospital in those counties would "allow" me to VBAC. One of them would not even allow me to walk at all unless "doctor orders it" and would be taking the baby for 4 HOURS right after birth for monitoring (we get 20 min or so before they take her unless there is a complication - how sweet of them!) and there was no chance of avoiding that situation, period.
I then started calling midwives. Its illegal for midwives to attend home VBACs in south carolina because VBAC is classified as high risk, and midwives are not allowed to attend high risk births, or they will loose their license. Nobody would touch me with a ten foot pole. They felt bad for my situation of course, but had no desire at all (understandably so) to risk their license to help me. Even the doula I paid backed out when I decided to home birth regardless. My only options were to a) have a pre-scheduled cesarean, b) go into labor and then show up with no provider (my provider actually "fired me" for not agreeing to the cesaeran and the notice came ON my due date) and then fight tooth and nail to not get cut open without a reason other than not knowing my scar type (forget for a minute the many interventions that I would not want to have... I couldn't even be sure I wouldn't be forced to have a cesarean) or c) stay home and have the baby unassisted because everyone was afraid of the consequences of helping me.
Any guess what I did? ~
I had an unassisted birth and despite my original CNM Midwives assuring me that the baby would probably die if I tried a home birth, it was the most beautiful and perfect birth imaginable, and my daughter was born after 20 minutes of pushing and 3 days of labor, without a single problem, and in perfect condition. Pink, happy, bright eyed, and completely responsive in every way possible.
If I had not had the courage to UC, had not been 3 minutes from a hospital, had not been relatively free of complications, I would have had no choice but to have a hospital birth, and I am afraid to think of the consequences that would have ensued for both my baby and I, as far as the treatment and forced proceedures put to us.