For those expecting #2 ...

[wagamama]

is anyone worried about having "enough love" left over for this baby? I am so crazy about my 2-year-old ds, and we have such a close bond -- I can't imagine feeling the same about another baby. It sounds awful, but I seriously wonder how I'll bond with #2. I'm hoping this feeling will just disappear when the baby is born!

[kirk_heidi]

Your feelings are completely normal. I felt that way from 1-2 also and you will have enough. as soon as you see that little one, your heart will swell with all the same love as with your first. You will be in awe that you are capable of all that love and of how blessed you are. It will be wonderful.

[susanrc]

Originally Posted by wagamama

is anyone worried about having "enough love" left over for this baby? I am so crazy about my 2-year-old ds, and we have such a close bond -- I can't imagine feeling the same about another baby. It sounds awful, but I seriously wonder how I'll bond with #2. I'm hoping this feeling will just disappear when the baby is born!

DD and I are extremely close and she is attached at my hip most of the day, so I am worried more of how she will be when the new baby comes because she won't be getting "full" attention as she is now I do believe and everyone tells me once you have that new baby in your arms your love is just as strong as it was for the first

[MCKH]

I wonder about this too, as my daughter and I are extremely close and affectionate, but I trust every other mom in the world who says your heart just grows bigger to accomodate as many kids as you have.

[beqh27]

I'm not too worried about bonding with #2, or having enough love to go around. My son just turned four and is fiercely independent, plus is very excited about helping with the new baby (so he says!). I'm not so much worried about enough love, but enough energy!

[ghuaghua]

That was one of the first thoughts my husband had when we found out I was pregnant...how can another child possibly live up to how wonderful our daughter is?! Haha, I really am not concerned about it, though, because it seems like it will just be natural to love all my children equally.

[AGlimmeringHope]

I'm not worried about it but in each of my 3 losses (and especially the second loss because it wasn't a chemical pregnancy- we saw the baby and heard the heartbeat) I loved those babies. I've also seen a very close friend go through this very debate when she was pregnant with her second son and knowing their relationship it calms any fears I may have had.

[Ms. B. Sprout]

Originally Posted by beqh27

I'm not so much worried about enough love, but enough energy!

: I'm pretty concerned about the potential damage to my sanity that the toddler/newborn combo's going to inflict.

[VickV]

Originally Posted by Ms. B. Sprout

: I'm pretty concerned about the potential damage to my sanity that the toddler/newborn combo's going to inflict.

*Definitely* concerned about that!!

But yeah - I wonder how I can possibly have as much love for Number Two as I do for Isabel. It just doesn't even seem remotely possible ...

[SheBear]

Hope you don't mind me answering....I'm expecting #4 now. But I wondered about this very thing when I was expecting my dd. Really wondered how it would be possible to love another baby that much....or perhaps, how I would be able to actively love ds as much as before, with my time and attention divided.

The truth is, I fell completely, deeply in love with dd.....and my love for ds only grew that much more as I watched him delight in his little sister, watched his tenderness and protectiveness toward her nourish his sweet spirit and make his soul blossom.

I truly believe that giving them the gift of each other was the best possible gift. The amazing, miraculous math of siblings is that the love doesn't divide, it multiplies!






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