"Also, it's bizarre to me that on learning from you that the trip coincided with the release party, Dad didn't automatically do some checking to see about release-parties near the vacation-spot. To me, that's what an in-tune parent would do. ."
I just have to say, that there are millions of us who had no idea that they were having Harry Potter release parties, or that even if one person might have one, that these are a nationwide phenomenon. So I don't think that it's particularly disrespectful not to go out and find one.
The dad in this situation might have thought it was a private party, not a public event. I'm just speculating but I was surprised myself to see that they were having release parties. Odd.
I think I just reacted to the OP's statement, that this Dad would likely ruin it for his son by telling him what happened before he'd had a chance to read it himself. It's hard to imagine anyone thinking that was okay --
but, being a bookworm, it's hard for me to imagine anyone thinking the purpose of reading is just to get a synopsis of what happened. I guess there really are people out there who are satisfied just knowing enough to converse about popular books, and don't necessarily want to live and breathe the story.
|But then, I read half of the first book before I put it down, utterly bored and disappointed. I have to say that if my kid chose the book over me, I'd feel really, really hurt, even though I could understand how a child could get caught up in all that hype.|
It's not the son's fault that the dad chooses to live four hours away. And I'm not saying it's wrong for him to live where he lives. I just don't think it's fair to expect any extra "sacrificing" from the child, just because the parents don't live in close proximity to one another.
And from the OP, it doesn't sound like the dad is playing these kinds of games with his son -- but if anyone IS, then it's wrong.